"what can I do??"

[ASecretLemonadeDrinker]

Grrr... No electricity no hot water no heating , have a 4 mo and 2 yo, all ill , hv coming and dh lost the key to get to the electricity cupboard and just says the above when I called. AIBU to want him
home to find the damn. Thing - bloody nightmare ds on feeding frenzy and he even said the same damn thing when I called thinking I was in labour. Posting on phone

Jesus emptyshell thats a bit strong. She's having a bad day and felling overwhelmed. I know I've had a few were I've cried down the phone to DH looking for him to come home. He never has (although was always very sweet and sympathetic) and in hindsight I have always realised I was U to ask, but calling OP names is a not very helpful.

Jesus emptyshell what's getting your knickers in a twist? You don't know anything about your OP's situation beyond the fact that she is ill, with an ill baby and toddler, and no heating, ability to switch on a light or get hold of hot water. Have some compassion.

OP - what did he think he was doing leaving you all in this state this morning?

x-post Fergie

FFS emptyshell, have some sympathy.

Be gentle with him. I don't think either of you are having a great day, am sure he didn't mean to lose the key.

Is there a friend that can come over and help?
Cancel the hv, put her off until next week or something.

Can you pull some clothes on and call electricity supplier or go to diy store to see if they have them?

Also emptyshell I may have missed it but I haven't seen the OP call her DH anything in the thread.

, so where is his sense of responsibility?

ummmmmm he is at work not the football.

No I'm calling him all the names not the OP

I think we can cut the OP some slack! She's poorly ffs. I think we've all been a bit pathetic/less effective than usual in these circumstances.

Emptyshell, you're out of order.

Also the OP hasn't confirmed that it's a standard cupboard. It might be something they've installed themselves.

I think it's perfectly reasonable for the OP to be at her DH, seeing as he's the one who lost the key!

Couldn't give a stuff if I'm out of order or not - there's been umpteen suggestions in the thread and just endless bashing of the husband, who isn't on here to defend himself - calling someone irresponsible as a father for him going to work to put food on the table?! That's ridiculous.

And people asked four pages ago if it was a standard box and just got ignored in the husband bashing. There was no excuse for that - unless you're the sort of perfect person who has never ever lost anything themselves.

I'm quite happy to play the wicked witch of the west in this one - because the bashing this bloke is getting is not on.

emptyshell I didn't partake in any husband bashing, I defended him and I managed to do it without resorting to name calling and having a right old go at an overwhelmed, ill, cold, worried and stressed mother of two young children. You can make your point without being viscious. Take a look at yourself.

The OP has not called her husband any names whatsoever. So do you really honestly think that the OP is 'an utter cow'? Have you never had a bad time and needed some help?

I think ES has mistaken me for the OP and I'm the utter cow. I was the one who called him Mr Bean and I think he's out of order for being angry when he caused the problem and was happy to dump the consequences on the OP. Presuming he left knowing there was no power.

The op was sat posting with no electri? Assume she was on her phone then....... Which she was happily running the battery down on....... Time to risk that, but to not get up an DO something. Who here would risk running phone battery down if it may be needed, after all, they are all ill and could need to call a doctor?!!

She already said she's on her phone, Sprinkle. And she's not been back for a while so I assume she's either conserving the battery (although she probably has a land line so the contact issue doesn't really come into it) or getting into the blasted meter cupboard.

Wow people will stoop pretty low won't they? Perhaps her phone has got a long battery life, who the fuck knows? Why do you feel the need to scrape the barrel in order to kick someone who is down. Let's give OP the benefit of the doubt and assume that she would not have called her H to come home unless a)he was needed and b) there was no other easy solution.

He also said the same thing when she was going into labour so it's obvious the kind of fella it is. "I work and that's it". Not so when you've got children, matey

wow you must be a fabulous at phycology if you can work out exactly what type of person he is like just from 2 sentences you have read from a stranger

Oh sweet lord, 70 posts Did some call me an 'utter cow'? Let me go make a cuppa and come back and read through this, cor MN is bonkers sometimes.

FWIW I was posting on my phone, grumpy, and DH was pissing me off. All sorted now, he shot home but was fine when he got home, got the key and shot back to work. BLimey you lot like to make a drama

So you think that's a nice thing to say then? HA HA. And I am fab at psychology actually. If you were in labour and your H said that you'd think it was fine?

op you poor dh has been given a bashing, probably blissfully unaware though

And yes people do work others out from what they've been told. You've done it plenty of times in real life as has everybody so I don't know why it's different on here

i would think it was a perfectly reasonable response from a man who didnt know what to do, yes