"what can I do??"

[ASecretLemonadeDrinker]

Grrr... No electricity no hot water no heating , have a 4 mo and 2 yo, all ill , hv coming and dh lost the key to get to the electricity cupboard and just says the above when I called. AIBU to want him
home to find the damn. Thing - bloody nightmare ds on feeding frenzy and he even said the same damn thing when I called thinking I was in labour. Posting on phone

im not surprised he is angry if he has had to come home from work

I expect he's angry with himself too.

He's angry? Because he was thick enough to lose the key and then selfish enough to sit in his warm office while you and your ill children freeze? Wow

and so he should come home. he lost the key and you are sitting with two small children and no hot water or heating, no way of cooking food. bloody right he's coming home.

whats he going to do when he gets home though? force the lock, which you could have done yourself or got the hv to do

ok so the dumbass lost the key, but hes in work and i can see his point when he says 'what can i do'

he can look for the lock, stop on the way and bring home food, watch the dcs while OP asks neighbour if she can shower.

I am kind of with Vinny on this - what can he do that you can't?

i hope he has an understanding boss then

if i was you i would have just forced the lock, im not some weak delicate flower who needs a man to force a lock or search for a key (even if he did lose it)

OP has already said she can't force it as it is so clsoe to the meter and gas pipe. it's nothing to do with beinga 'delicate flower'.

well call a lock smith then! or got to a mates/family for the day until he finishes work and can sort it

that's all good and well if you can afford a locksmith and have a car to get to any family or friends who a) will be there and b) won't mind you and two dc turning up and spending the day.

If it's the meter box key - electricity supplier will send one out in a couple of days. They're standard fitting so just borrow one from the neighbours in the interim, apparently the DIY shops sell them but I never managed to find one in there - can you tell my husband's lost the key to ours before when we were on a prepayment meter?

Still don't get how he can be angry when he's the one who fucked up royal then swanned off

If I was at home with two very young children, no heating, no hot water and no way of cooking, and had
no one to help, I'd hope my husband would come
home from work to help sort it all out.

He's not "fucked up royal and swanned off" something's got lost (accidents happen), and he's gone to work!

Poor guy - are you going to pull down his trousers and spank him for his incompetence?!

People are offering you the solution - they're a standard fit key if it's the meter box, go borrow one from the neighbours and request a new one from your energy supplier (I know for a fact they carry them because hubby works for our local bods). It's going to be the fastest solution to get you into the box to put the emergency credit on - there's nothing hubby coming home from work can do extra to that, short of drive around the DIY stores to try to buy one (although we were told B+Q sold them when we lost ours - we couldn't find one in there for love nor money).

If it's a key meter then pliers will twist the triangle shaped metal bit that the key usually turns

They are available on eBay also

If it's a key, you can usually pick the lock yourself

Yale lock, then credit card down the side sorts it

I'm a line patent and have always had to sort everything for myself..... It's doable, you DON'T need a man!!!!!

Your dh list the key but you are at home. It's 'you who needs to sort it

It wasn't an accident, you don't leave ill children in a house with no power. He's not a child, so where is his sense of responsibility?

And no you don't need a man to sort it but I wouldn't expect a man to leave the house like there's no problem and he can just mash everything up like Mr Bean. And now he's angry like it wasn't his fault

He couldn't DO anything at the time - we were in this boat (without the ill children bit), and there was sod all that could be done, apart from knocking and borrowing the neighbour's key (which you are more than capable of doing) until he was able to ring the energy company and get another one sent out (well actually he just grabbed one from work because he works there).

You can lay it on him all you want - but he cannot do anything more than you are very capable of doing yourself and go and borrow someone else's key to get into the cupboard and stick the emergency credit on. You can go and TRY to see if the DIY chains have them in stock - like I say when we did this - I couldn't find them there.

You're being utterly ridiculous. Poor man - his sense of responsiblity was going to work to make sure the money's coming in to BUY the electric - do you want him to rig a generator to a bike while wearing his underpants outside his trousers like Superman to the rescue or something?

We've told you what to do to fix it - call the energy supplier you're with - get one in the post today to sort the problem long-term, get a key borrowed from the neighbours to get into the cupboard and get the power back on in the short term... 10 minutes and it's sorted out.

Was he in when the electricity ran out? If he was, he should have helped sort it (as opposed to sorted it) before he left.

I'd be pissed off if dp expected me to drop tools and come home for this tbh - although I would go home at lunchtime to help if need be.

No poor man. He left his ill children at home with an I'm alright Jack mentality and now he's angry. Like he's not responsible and it's not his problem. Just because he works doesn't mean everything home related is the missus problem.
FWIW I would have sorted it myself but he would have got a right bollocking for it.

To be fair to the OP she is having a shit day. We don't know if she has neighbours, or a car, or is well enough to carry out the suggestions.

It's nothing to do with 'needing a man' to want your partner to help during a crisis. Her baby is what, 16 weeks old, and on a feeding frenzy, plus a 2 year old to look after, and all of them ill.

I'm surprised by the lack of empathy on this thread. OP hope your situation is sorted soon.

"If I was at home with two very young children, no heating, no hot water and no way of cooking, and had
no one to help, I'd hope my husband would come home from work to help sort it all out."

I'd hope so too, but he wouldn't. And nor should he. Just like he has shit days in work and I can't ditch the kids and go in and help him. He has a job to do and so do I.
OK he lost the key but like he said 'what can he do'. Persumably he has told her where to look, she should be just as capable as looking for it as him. There are also loads of other suggestions here such as borrowing a neighbours or calling a locksmith none of which she has tried before summoning him back from work.

All of my post is on the assumption that the electricitiy didn't run out until after he left for work. If he just pissed off and left them like that knowing there was no electricity and hot water then that is completely different.