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AIBU?

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to be utterly PISSED with nursery?

53 replies

FishesLately · 03/11/2010 19:04

DS is 2.7 and in the middle of potty training. We always pack 2 pairs of pants and 1 extra pair of trousers in his school bag which he hangs on a peg in the mornings.

They went on an outing today to the Science Museum and kept them there for lunch, normally he goes 9-12 but was there 8.45-1 today.

I was informed that he wet himself in the Museum but they didn't bring anyone's spare clothing so he was LEFT in his wee until they got back to nursery at 12.45 and said that it had dried so they just left him.

AIBU to be severely pissed off about this?

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NotShortImFunSized · 03/11/2010 19:06

YANBU!!!

Shock

What planet are they on? How and why did they think that is acceptable?!

I'd be complaining to the manager....

oneofthosedays · 03/11/2010 19:06

YANBU, I would not be impressed!!

oneofthosedays · 03/11/2010 19:07

YANBU, I would not be impressed!!

sparkle12mar08 · 03/11/2010 19:08

Yes and no. It's very bad planning that they didn't take spares and I would question them on their risk assessments for outings (what if a child had soiled rather than just wetted, and they had no clothes for them - would they have left them exposed or in soiled clothes? - either way that's a serious risk to the child imo), but once it had dried then there's probably little point in changing him minutes before you're due to pick him up.

Original poster
FishesLately · 03/11/2010 19:08

No one even told me...it was written in his bloody day book otherwise would have called straight away. Just read it an hour ago as we always chat at tea about his day. Angry

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colditz · 03/11/2010 19:11

I'd actually ring ofsted. That is SUCH shockingly bad practice. It's neglect.

bearcrumble · 03/11/2010 19:12

I would be very annoyed, I don't think it is acceptable behaviour on the part of the nursery workers. They should have taken his (and all the other childrens') spares.

As sparkle says - what if he'd done a poo?

And even though it was only 15 before collection I'd have thought they'd be so ashamed at their thoughtlessness the least thing they could do would be to put him in his clean bottoms.

YANBU. Take it up with the manager.

CrazyPlateLady · 03/11/2010 19:16

That is awful!! You need to know that the people in charge of caring for your child are going to be doing just that. How awful to be left in wet clothes! DS would have had a fit, and as someone else said, what would they have done if someone had pooed!!

LynetteScavo · 03/11/2010 19:16

I wouldn't expect them to take everybody's spare clothes, but I would expect them to take several pairs. Did a lot of children soil themselves, and use up the spare pairs? If so the children hadn't been taken to the loo enough.

What ever happend, you are quite right to be cross, and should be making a formal complaint.

ohsleepyone · 03/11/2010 19:20

YANBU!!

I'd not be happy at all, espesh as they didnt even tell you, altho if u didnt notice then maybe u could forgive the not changing when they got back, but letting your ds stay in wet clothes until they are dry is totally out of order, how uncomfortable must he have been, poor lil mite :(

ASecretLemonadeDrinker · 03/11/2010 19:23

wow, they should not have forgotten spare clothes (did they also forget untrained childrens nappies?? - they could have changed him into a nappy and rinsed his trousers and dried under dryer at the very least), and definatly should have changed him once he got back. Lazy and neglectful. Wht did they say? "oh, we didn't see he point so just left him"???? Wee stings, it's not like getting abit wet in a puddle. Is he red at all? Disgusting.

create · 03/11/2010 19:31

Who takes a bunch of pre-school children out for the day without spares? I wouldn't expect them to have "his" spares, but they should have had some.

When we take the Brownies out, we always have a few spares, (age 7-10)for travel sickness or toilet accidents.

happygilmore · 03/11/2010 19:34

Yanbu. I would complain, that's horrible.

EsioTrot · 03/11/2010 19:48

YANBU uncomfortable and embarrassing for him, poor little thing. I'd definitely complain.

dribbleface · 03/11/2010 20:17

God thats awful. Only thing i can say is at least their honest Hmm. I would complain.

colditz · 03/11/2010 23:45

It worries me even more that they are honest - this is such a basic level of care, and they don't even seem to know that! They've clearly seen nothing wrong in what they've done! The fact that they have been honest about it leads me to question how qualified their staff actually are.

FunkyCherry · 04/11/2010 00:42

Your poor DS.
And not telling you...
Complain.

BeccaandEvie · 04/11/2010 07:11

Poor soul, I'd complain too. :(

I always take spares out for DD and she's 3.7.

Foxy800 · 04/11/2010 07:12

Poor child, I personally think that is very poor plannig and that they should definately have said something to you. I would have a chat with them.

Blondeshavemorefun · 04/11/2010 07:32

DISGUSTING behavior!!

all nurseries should take spare clothes when on a trip, but even more so if they know some children are being pt

cant believe they didnt bring ANYONES spare clothing Shock or even just several pairs of pants/trousers that could be shared

in this case it was a wee, and not the end of the world to be left in it as didnt have spare pants etc,uncomfortable and possibly even embarrassing for the child but if it was a poo then what .....

i would be in that managers office today and making a formal complaint - be interesting to know if any other children had an accident and left in wet or even god forbid pooey pants

ring ofsted as well

dribbleface · 04/11/2010 11:28

I agree colditz, the fact that they seemed to think it is acceptable is awful.

BlueFergie · 04/11/2010 11:35

Dreadful. I would be furious. How horrible for him. If parents did this it would be call neglect and rightly so. I would have serious concerns about letting my child continue to be cared for people with these sort of standards. My DD attends a pre school where even though they all have to be potty trained before joining her teacher always has spares for accidents. She changes them and even keeps and washes the soiled clothes. We wash the spares and send them back.

YunoYurbubson · 04/11/2010 11:39

Gosh. I agree that it's not ideal, but am surprised by the strength of feeling on this thread.

I would ask them to make sure they take spares next time and probably wouldn't give it another thought. Might remind them next time there was a trip.

Kewcumber · 04/11/2010 11:41

I don;t think our nursery ever took them further than around the corner. Taking a group of 2/3/4 year olds to a museum was obviously beypnd their organisational ability and you should point out if they can't be that organised then they need to be less ambitious in their excursions.