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to feel so sad for my DC re university

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oldinboden · 03/11/2010 17:19

We are really poor ( ie entitled to working tax credits) My Dc are all fairly right.The eldest is doing GCSEs this year and has always assumed he would go to university,He is at GS and nearly everyone goes.But I really don't think he will be able to .I mean tuittion fees just for a 3 year course will be £27,000 and then living costs on top of that.
I went to Cambridge and it scarcely cost me a penny.I got a grant and huge bursary from the college.

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Ormirian · 04/11/2010 16:42

I am hoping DS1 will get an engineering apprenticeship but he wants to go to university Hmm It is a frightening prospect but I guess we'll manage somehow.

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pippop1 · 05/11/2010 13:10

Mummytime - Thanks for the information. He is hoping that he might be sponsored to do an MBA one day and partly for that reason is mainly applying to large (global sized) firms for jobs after his MEng in June. At least he has a plan and of course we will help him as much as we can. This year (only) we have two DSs at Uni at the same time.

Maybe people will space their children out more in the future.....Mine are three (school) years apart but we didn't know that the first baby would do a four year Uni course!

So if you are planning to get preggers and have the time to spare go for a four year age gap.

mippy · 05/11/2010 17:41

It took me a long time to get a permanent job after I graduated - fortunately, it was one I really loved. But my understanding is it was ever thus.

My youngest nephew is planning to go to university - his mother studies full-time at present and has a Saturday job, and is a single parent. I hope so hard that he still gets to go - there;s talk of university being a 'middle class finishing school' which is bollocks - it also enables those who grew up in crap small towns to get the fuck out and do and see interesting things.

mippy · 05/11/2010 17:44

I didn't work during my holidays for health reasons, and my parents couldn't assist me as much as they'd like as my dad was unemployed for a time. Really, though, once you're 18 you're an adult - the provisions should be there to live like one and support oneself and university should not be limited to those whose parents are able to make contributions (the lucky fellows).

mippy · 05/11/2010 17:50

"Perfectly happy to fund academic courses, ie, law, medicine, nursing, English, teaching, classics, maths, sciences, history, languages, etc., etc.. But if the dc want to do art, dance, etc., they know they can pay their debt."

Why? Why is art less useful than English, given art can potentially be vocational? Even nursing didn't require a degree once. And some might argue classics is as 'irrelevant' as dance. (I work with a dance graduate who tells me his degree was physically and academically demanding - he chose not to pursue a career in the field in the end.) I did a completely academic degree that has little immediate relevance in the world of work, but because it was a 'tough' subject and from a good university, employers don't mind. And what I studied was about 10% of the reason I wanted to go there - I actually picked a subject I'd never studied before because I felt like a challenge and didn't mind too much if only I got to go to where I wanted.

I feel sorry for those wanting to study in London. I really wanted to apply to LSE but realised the cost of living was prohibitive. A friend of mine had to drop out of UCL and restart at Salford for similar reasons.

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