stopped my daughters dad from seeing her

[jaxx26]

hi, im new to this and wanted some advice, my daughter has just turned 4, she used to go and see her father on the weekends, one day i needed to go to the shop and told my daughter to get dressed, she was playing a game at the time and asked if she could stay at home, i told her no and she asked why, i explained coz she was to young, she then told me but daddy lets me stay home alone when he goes to the shop. I had a convo with him about it and he seems to think that it was ok for him to do this (this must have happened when she was 3) i have now stopped him from having her. she has however just started full time school and i told the school what had happened and said that i did not want her father to pick her up after school, i was told that they could not in a legal sence stop him..... I need to know what i should do now should i go and report it? or should i just leave it? (i have never stopped him from seeing her b4 he even used to have her over night untill he moved in with a friend and felt himself that it was unsafe for her to stay there over night) friends and even his own son have told me to report him as its serious neglect?

If the child was left for a sufficient amount of time and/or anything happened to her, then a charge of child neglect could be brought against your ex. This amounts to child cruelty and if convicted,he would become a section 1 offender.

Although many posters are saying you have a duty to promote contact beween your daughter and your ex, your overriding duty is to your child and your prior knowledge, should anything happen, could make things difficult for you.

You need to talk to him, put it in writing, raise your concerns. This is the harsh reality I'm afraid.

YABU
Your thread could eaqually read "I've stopped my DD from seeing her father".
I agree entirely about her not being left alone but supervised contact should still take place.

"as a SW I can TELL YOU, he isn't doing anything wrong, he is however being irresponsible....We leave our children unattended all the time, putting the washing maintaining the garden, putting bins out, which could be equal to the amount of time he was away for.
Legally he hasn't done anything wrong!"

Surely you can differentiate between household chores and going AWAY from the home to buy alcohol?
As a SP (sane person) I can TELL YOU that this man did wrong.
End of.

I would be as mad as anything, shout at him, make him see that that was completely not ok, make him promise not to do it again, but to deprive him and her of any father-daughter relationship is just a complete over-reaction.

My husband thinks leaving children for a few minutes, say in a car, or in the house whilst he pops next door is perfectly fine (5-7 years old). He thinks we molly-coddle children in this country, I think he takes unnecessary risks. He would probably nip to a shop a few doors down to get a pint of milk if a four year old was watching the telly, then be astonished when I came home and shouted at him. I haven't left him because of this: just told him what's expected in this country, and what's safe.

You should take legal advice, on sending him a letter stating your concerns, or on supervising visits for a period of time til he regains your trust or whatever, but to just cut off all contact is ridiculous and it sounds like you are looking for an excuse to do so.