to struggle for ideas as to what to do at w/ends with the kids?

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every weekend i am at a loss to what to do

and they end up being sooooooooooo boring :( we usually go in to town saturdays for a look round the shops and maybe a bit of lunch, then sundays we tend to do the food shop. which i HATE because I HATE supermarkets and esp at weekends when they are rammed. and i hate feeling like i am doing exactly the same everyone and their f**king dog are doing as well IYSWIM.

it sounds really horrible but the best weekends we have are when we haven't got the kids, ie if they are at grandparents (which is probably like once a month) i feel sooooo bad and selfish for admitting this. on the child free weekends me and DP usually go out drinking or for a meal sat night then stay in bed shagging all of sunday. or sometimes we'll stay at a hotel (nowt fancy just get a last minute deal off last minute.com or something.)

what do other people do? i really want to start making the most of my weekends. DC are 1.6 and 4.6

defineme yeah that would be great if you could ask your friend for some tips! thank you :)

we are going to a fireworks display on thursday evening so thats something!

also, for 2 weekends a month, we dont have DS (my eldest), as he is from a previous relationship and his dad has him for the weekend.

i definitely agree re shopping in town. although my kids are very good when we are in town, probably because they are used to it it can't be much fun for them. and supermarket shopping is just hell for everyone, i keep saying to dp we need to shop online but we invariably forget (although have done it a few times) and then end up forced to go to a shop.

the ironic thing is that DP is 10 years older than me and had another family before he met me with 3 grown up kids, i asked him what they used to with his first family at weekends and he replied "nothing"

God shopping with young kids is hell - even looking around the shops.

We get loads of parklife!! We go to parks - lots local to us or short bus ride away so we are blessed. Sometimes we meet friends, sometimes not. We bake too. And we always take a 'packed lunch' (nothing DD likes more than a packed lunch) & eat that in the park. Some of that time will be in playground area, but we also do big wander/scoot around the park, feed the squirrels, look for flowers, talk about the other people, roll down hills etc.

We generally stop off for coffee/hot chocolate on the way home.

Other weekend activites - swimming (though we both have colds at the moment), visiting family, visiting friends/other kids, watching a little TV, cooking together, painting, colouring & crafty stuff, museums.

Sometimes DP joins us, but often he doesn't - I usually don't mind as he will do housework while we are out. DP never came swimming with us (fear of the cold) and one day I finally got him to come and he LOVED it & now comes quite often.

another problem we have is we don't have any many friends with kids to do stuff together with, the one couple we know neither me or DP can stand the husband. long story :o

but as i said has given me a lot of food for thought and i am going to try harder from now :o