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Oh my word!

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funkychunkymunky · 29/10/2010 21:34

I've just been watching tv with dh, mil and fil. Fil started making pretend spitting noises and I looked at him with a questioning look. Mil then said "he doesn't like blacks with whites" On tv a black man was kissing a white woman.

I was Shock that he even thought it let alone started spitting!

He's just giving me more reason to thing he's a pig. AIBU to think he is a pig or is that offensive to pigs?

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Deemented · 29/10/2010 21:36

He's a racist twat.

thisisyesterday · 29/10/2010 21:37

OMG!
i am speechless

Hedgeblunder · 29/10/2010 21:37

Pigs are lovely. Your FIL is a bigotted, sad, small minded, ignorant, pathetic excuse for a man.

FetchezLaVache · 29/10/2010 21:38

YABU- that is quite offensive to pigs. Your FIL is vile!

5DollarShake · 29/10/2010 21:39

WTF?!?

Some people really do get waaaaay too wrapped up in what other people do.

How on earth does something like this impact on him in the slightest??

YANBU.

FlyingInTheCLouds · 29/10/2010 21:40

he and my FIL should meet they would love each other, but not in that way because homosexuals also induce spitting Hmm.

luckily dh has fallen out with him(big surprise) and we havent had to see him for 3 years!

FakePlasticTrees · 29/10/2010 21:40

Have you spoken to your dh about it?

StewieGriffinsMom · 29/10/2010 21:41

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Mumcentreplus · 29/10/2010 21:41

another WTF???

crazy-arse in-laws

magna · 29/10/2010 21:41

Absolutely gob-smacked. YANBU

Madinitials · 29/10/2010 21:45

I would end up in an argument with your FIL, like I do with my FIL if he says something negative about homosexuals, so narrow-minded.

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funkychunkymunky · 29/10/2010 21:45

I'm not hanging out with them. They live abroad and have come to stay for 5 days. They only got here 4 hours ago. Sad

I haven't had chance to speak to dh yet.

Fil and I already don't get on but dh tells me go just ignore him. I just hate him more now.

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Anniegetyourgun · 29/10/2010 21:47

Used to get that shit from XH ("cor strewth" was his spit of choice). Although mind you if he wanted to kiss a black woman suddenly there was no problem, and it proved he was right-on Hmm. For some strange reason my father was the same: problem with black man/white woman, no (or not much) problem with black woman/white man. We asked him to explain it once and his only argument was "only women have babies". I would still be trying to make sense of that one now, if I weren't fairly sure there was no sense to make.

Shallishanti · 29/10/2010 21:49

oh dear- you have 4 more days of that?
how old are your dcs?
old enough to nderstand what he says?

if so I would have words

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taintedpaint · 29/10/2010 21:50

He would not be welcome in my house ever again.

Different opinions are fine, out and out bigotry and abuse are not.

Your FIL is a vile disgusting waste of space. How dare he?!

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funkychunkymunky · 29/10/2010 21:57

Dd is only 11 months.

I was too speechless to even respond. I sat in shock for aminute then left the room for 5 minutes to calm down.

If he ever said or did anything like that in front of dd I wouldn't be to stop myself saying something to him. (not in front of her though!)

I want to know what dh will say to this when I get him alone. I think he should have words with fil.

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Tigeristhewickerman · 29/10/2010 22:01

Just out of interest, how old is your FIL? Not that it makes any difference to his obnoxiousness, but it would be different in some ways if he was 80 (my mum is that age, comes out with all sorts, obviously ingrained for yonkers) or if he was 55 ( lived as a young man through the 70s, 80s etc, but still has this sort of view).

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funkychunkymunky · 29/10/2010 22:06

He's 57.

He worked in the middle east for 25 years and retired 2 years ago. He now lives in France.

I know attitudes in the middle east are different but still!

I don't know how I'm going to get through the rest of their visit Sad

And they are coming for Christmas Sad Sad

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funkychunkymunky · 29/10/2010 22:15

I didn't invite them in the first place. They invited themselves like they always do. Then they expect dh to take time off work to taxi them too and from the airport. [mad]

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gregtheguineapig · 29/10/2010 22:16

HE'S AN IGNORANT FOOL. YADNBU.

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funkychunkymunky · 29/10/2010 22:16

I mean Angry

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Tigeristhewickerman · 29/10/2010 22:23

Well (and this isn't why I asked) they are quite young and able enough to find their own board and lodging and you shouldn't feel any compunction about booting them out.

We had a "Hitler had some good ideas" moment with my FIL (different generation but no fucking excuse) a few years ago. Haven't really managed to bother too much since, don't want DS to think that that could be in anyway remotely acceptable. God knows what the old fool thought he was saying but he said it enough.