Oh my word!

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I've just been watching tv with dh, mil and fil. Fil started making pretend spitting noises and I looked at him with a questioning look. Mil then said "he doesn't like blacks with whites" On tv a black man was kissing a white woman.

I was that he even thought it let alone started spitting!

He's just giving me more reason to thing he's a pig. AIBU to think he is a pig or is that offensive to pigs?

Bloody hellfire. here; I wish it was a real one.
Blimey, and I thought MY Dad came out with some classics... you poor thing!
YANBU at all. In the slightest.
No easy way to deal with it either.
Going to be hard to get out of the Christmas arrangement - unless you move house and don't tell them where you've gone! [hgrin]

Two things:

When I said "bother" I meant bother to see them.

Xmas. Just. Don't. Do. It. Chuck'em out, you can't have them with you, on best behaviour they'll just get pissed and rant about blacks, immigrants etc etc you name it. Suggest you plan a strategic flu for about 21 Dec. I would.

Blerk.

On the point that you wouldn't pull him up on it in front of your child (either now or in the future). I think it's good to question that kind of attitude in full view of your children. It teaches them that it's not something to be tolerated, surely?

I had to object to comments made by my mum's husband (not father of mine, step or otherwise) on several occasions. My kids were a bit older (5-10) but at least they didn't see me accepting it. I didn't rant or rave, I stayed calm and told him that comments like his were best left in 1950.

I don't think age is an excuse however aged you are. My English father is 76 and is in many ways a PITA, but married an Indian woman (my mother). DP's English mum was about the same age and married a Bengali bloke.

Whata nightmare! My ex-MIL constantly bangs on and on about muslims anbd how they are all bad (not my views AT ALL), loves the Daily Mail and too lives in France.

Some people are narrow-minded and often unaware of their bigotry.

Just keep smiling and waving and they'll leave soon. Your poor DH must be absolutely cringing wioth embarassment?

Hmmm fil has gone to bed and mil disappeared outside to smoke. Asked dh what he thought and he just said that fil has always been racist and just to ignore him! Dh is such a wimp. Grrr

I wouldn't say anything in front of dd at the moment because she would be upset if he started to argue but isn't old enough to understand why. If she was old enough to understand then I wouldn't worry about pulling him up in front of her.

I wouldnt have him near my kids with an attitude like that..spitting (literally) his poison in your presence. What a horrible old twat!

My fil in exactly the same, I wouldn't even repeat the bile he comes out with. Its a constant source of trouble between me and dh, i expect dh to intervene and dh is too worried about upsetting him. Ive told him myself before now and will do again. I hate it. He also laughs at me for insisting the kids have their car seats when in his car cause they never needed them 'in his day' the mans a complete twat. However like yours he lives away and we only see him twice a year, he also worked in the middle east year ago.

Nip it in the bud right now or it could cause issues is my advice.