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to tell my bro he is bang out of order

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justsue · 27/10/2010 22:02

Our dad has alz and a couple of months ago he sold his house and gave us all £25k. A couple of months before this whilst the house was being sold he had to sell some shares to keep him going till the funds went in. This was back in May!!!

Anyway, my tosser of a brother phones up today ranting and raving that apparently he gave dad £500.00 12 years ago to buy some of the shares that were sold and he now wants the £500.00 back!!!

This is after dad gave him £25k yet only two months ago. Apparently if bro does not get it he will disown us all (bring it on brother is what I say)

AIBU I personally dont think so

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borderslass · 27/10/2010 22:04

no your brother sounds a charmer should introduce him to mine.

A1980 · 27/10/2010 22:05

I don't think you are. Tell the sod he's got his £500 back included in the £25k

izzywizzywoowooo · 27/10/2010 22:06

YADNBU!

Your brother doesn't deserve that 25k! Arsehole.

magna · 27/10/2010 22:07

No your not at all what a prat he is.

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justsue · 27/10/2010 22:07

A1980 Thats what my dad said but tonight dad is ringing up convinced he has upset someone but does not know who!! :( I am not going to keep repeating to him what is going on because dad will forget it in a day or two. Bro has phoned my sis and said that his wife is fuming (this is the woman who banked the cheque and has not been round there in 8 months)

god I am bloody fuming I am the one that will have to calm him down in the morning not them.

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MaudOHara · 27/10/2010 22:09

Your brother is an arse - so sorry you are having to go through this on top of your Dads illness

Angeliz · 27/10/2010 22:11

Your brother sounds like a selfish git!
Of course that 500 would be In the 25k. Is he for real?
As much as possible i'd try to keep your poor Dad out of it!

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justsue · 27/10/2010 22:12

the real amazing thing is that bro was the first born and favoured child (not that matters in this conversation) but now treats him with contempt. I will go mad if this carries on and the way I feel tonight even if dad backs down and says give him the money I AM NOT GOING TO IN A MILLION FUCKING YEARS

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Madinitials · 27/10/2010 22:18

Tell your bro that you and your other siblings only got £24,500 so he got his £500 in addition to the £24,500!!

izzywizzywoowooo · 27/10/2010 22:19

What a knob. Stick to your guns. Your poor dad. Your brother should show some respect!

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justsue · 27/10/2010 23:49

been on the phone most of the night to my dad who is now convinced he has done something wrong and is asking me to take him to the police station ?:((

Dad has rang bro and bro has said to dad "you have done nothing wrong but I need the cheque!!!)

If I need to fall out with him I will, if he says he will disown us all (4 siblings) then feel free. Like I said he is not the one that is going to deal with the aftermath of this. He sees dad very little and to be honest my dad does not even notice that he does not turn up.

Morro is another day !!

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MadamDeathstare · 28/10/2010 00:57

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izzywizzywoowooo · 28/10/2010 01:01

I agree, Bless your dad for asking about the police station Sad

Your brother should be ashamed.

FairhairedandFrustrated · 28/10/2010 01:01

Oh how sad :(

Can you & your siblings not all go round & speak to your brother? Tell him to fuck off leave your dad alone?

Dh's gran has alzheimers too & she wouldn't remember a conversation she had with you, but would remember that she was upset etc.. It's a very difficult situation.

Has your brother always been spoilt & greedy?

BitOfFunderthepatio · 28/10/2010 01:05

Your brother is a total twat.

OTTMummA · 28/10/2010 09:05

I would personaly give him £500 of my own money, then tell him to fuck the fuck off and never darken your dad's doorstep again.
I would tell him you've also taken the option of him disowning you because your so ashamed of him.

God forbid what will happen to him when non of his siblings want anything to do with him when his memory is up shit creek without a paddle.

What a toss pot.

1234ThumbScrew · 28/10/2010 09:08

What OTT said, take the moral high ground.

femalevictormeldrew · 28/10/2010 09:11

He should hand his head in shame the spoiled brat.

femalevictormeldrew · 28/10/2010 09:12

Hang his head even

HecateQueenOfWitches · 28/10/2010 09:12

I'd be tempted to say "you know what? If £500 you claim you gave our dad 12 years ago matters so much to you that £25,000 is not enough of a return for you, then I will give you the £500 out of my £25,000 on condition you go ahead and disown us. Because frankly, I don't care to be related to a person who cares so little for his ill father and is so ungrateful for £25,000 that he can be so vile."

And then I'd send him a cheque for £500

Or give him £500 in pennies.

femalevictormeldrew · 28/10/2010 09:13

"I'd be tempted to say "you know what? If £500 you claim you gave our dad 12 years ago matters so much to you that £25,000 is not enough of a return for you, then I will give you the £500 out of my £25,000 on condition you go ahead and disown us. Because frankly, I don't care to be related to a person who cares so little for his ill father and is so ungrateful for £25,000 that he can be so vile."

My sentiments exactly

WriterofDreams · 28/10/2010 09:17

I agree with the guys who said to give the brother the 500 (if you can afford it) and then make it clear that you are paying him to stay away from your father and the rest of you. Tell him that if the £500 is so important he can have it at the expense of his family and that if he calls or goes near your father again you will complain him for harrassment.

ImSpartacus · 28/10/2010 09:18

He's been given 25k and is still mithering for another £500?
What a selfish, money-grabbing arse monkey.

Has he always been like this?

Your poor dad.

CrazyPlateLady · 28/10/2010 09:29

What a total tosser!!!

I would be soooo over the moon with 25K, nothing else would matter.

I wouldn't be giving him £500 of my own money though. I would tell him to go ahead and disown us all as he would be doing us a favour.

Your poor Dad. Sad

deepheat · 28/10/2010 09:41

Just explain to him that he was only given £24500 compared to your £25k. The £500 deduction was in recognition of him being a tosser. The £500 he was 'owed' by your Dad was then added on to that figure and so you're all square. This leaves you free to give pointers on how to successfully disown a family (though he sounds like the kind of bloke who'll come running back the moment he needs anything).

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