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To want to bash parents who underdress their kids in winter!

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Stinkyoldclottedcatspus · 27/10/2010 11:39

If I see one more toddler in a pram wearing no socks and barely any clothes when it's parents are wrapped up in coats and scarves, my head is going to explode. Mottled skin and purple fingers make my blood boil!

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sherby · 27/10/2010 11:41

maybe the baby pulls its socks off as soon as they are put on? DS never never never kept his socks on

Rannaldini · 27/10/2010 11:42

meh

hystericalmum · 27/10/2010 11:42

This morning walked to the shops with DS2 in the pram. he removed his shoes & socks. I put them back on. After the 4th time I gave up.
He was bundled up in a coat. He kicks off any blankets I put on. I need to get a cosytoe type thing.

Hai1988 · 27/10/2010 11:42

CerealOffender · 27/10/2010 11:43

it isn't even that cold yet. have you considered talking to your gp about your anger isshoos

ValiumSkeleton · 27/10/2010 11:43

Have you not heard of sensory defensiveness? My son won't wear anythign that he doesn't liek the feel of. Being cold doesn't seem to btoher him.

jeee · 27/10/2010 11:43

My DC were often underdressed - although if you looked under the buggy, you'd see a coat, gloves, wellies... I just can't be bothered to fight them. When they get cold, they put on the clothes without a fight. The only problem is the amount of people who wish to 'bash' me for neglecting my DC.

Madinitials · 27/10/2010 11:44

Oh dear, I was guilty of the no-socks charge up until about a month ago. 14 month DD would pull shoes and socks off as soon as we stepped out of the door and chuck them out of the pushchair. It just got easier to stick them in the basket in the end.

I think she must have noticed a change in the weather since she now keeps them on.

GoreRenewed · 27/10/2010 11:44

But it's not cold! I's not. Well not here anyway. Just got hauled out of the office for a fire drill and it was lovely and warm.

Do you often get angry at random strangers?

TorturesInAHalfHell · 27/10/2010 11:45

Yep, mine is capable of pulling off shoes, socks, coat, hat, cardigan...and she's not even two, so i imagine all bets are off soon.

bruffin · 27/10/2010 11:46

I once got told off by an old lady because my baby only had a summer dress on in the middle of winter. It was DD,s very realistic chou chou doll, I had dropped her off at nursery and had the doll in the push chair.

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Stinkyoldclottedcatspus · 27/10/2010 11:46

I'm not just talking no socks, I'm talking no coat blankets or hat and a red runny nose. How much trouble does it take to put a pair of tights on them and zip them into a warm coat?

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theyoungvisiter · 27/10/2010 11:46

Slightly bemused that you care - and even more bemused that it causes you such a disproportionate amount of rage

But for the record, my children would undoubtedly be some of the ones making your blood boil - they are usually chronically underdressed. Their choice, not mine. If I do manage to wrestle DS2 into two layers, he generally pulls one off in the buggy.

They run about 5 degrees hotter than the rest of the human race for some reason.

CerealOffender · 27/10/2010 11:47

haha bruffin. did you tell her it was a doll? i would have picked it up and thrown it in the middle of the road for shock value

Guacamole · 27/10/2010 11:49

YANBU but as a first time Mum to a 6 month old, I'm really struggling with how much, how little to dress him in. He always has socks and I bought him some little shoes to keep his feet warm (I am considering buying him tights... Don't tell DH!). Trousers, long sleeved t-shirt, vest, cardigan followed by coat, hat, gloves and then we get outside I put on a blanket over his legs and his little buggy foot cover thing... I think my poor boy is going to melt! He has so many clothes on he looks like a ball!
We then get in to the shops and I'm pulling them all off again!

hobbgoblin · 27/10/2010 11:50

My DCs will NOT wear their coats. DD1 sometimes will. DD2 always takes off her socks and leg warmers and anything else removable - she is 1.

I find myself saying to the boys "put your coats on NOW! I am fed up of looking like a mother who inappropriately dresses her children"

linziluv · 27/10/2010 11:51

I once had a stranger tell me off as my son didn't have socks/gloves and hat on!! Now that woman was more worthy of a "bashing" as, like the other mums on here have said, my son would pull everythin off!!
Grrr! This post has made me mad!! Why do certain parents think it's OK to judge others?! So sorry for not being as good a mum as you!

CerealOffender · 27/10/2010 11:51

guacamole - i would just use blankets at 6 months. it is hard to judge when every passing stranger seems to have an opinion on the temperature/sleepiness/hunger of your baby.

hobbgoblin · 27/10/2010 11:52

Also, some old witch years ago when I had my first baby tut tutted at me in the street when DD had taken socks off and dragged her legs out of the buggy snuggle to wave at smug passers by who had an opinion on my parenting and my child's welfare. That upset me at the time, being 24 and a first time parent and rather unsure of myself.

mydadsdaughter · 27/10/2010 11:52

my ds (nearly3) doesn't appear to feel the cold and i usually end up carrying the jumpers while he runs around happily with a t shirt on. I've learnt to pick my 'fights' and rely on the fact that if he gets cold he'll let me know as usally hes pretty good at letting me know hes not happy!

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Stinkyoldclottedcatspus · 27/10/2010 11:52

I don't like to see children looking cold that's all. I really don't have anger ishoos, and I do see your points, maybe I'm just picky, but it is bloody cold here, damp wet and miserable and some of the kids I see look thoroughly frozen!

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curlymama · 27/10/2010 11:53

I get paranoid most mornings on the school run that parents sre thinking this sort of thing about me! Ds1 refuses to ever wear even his school jumper some mornings, nevermind a coat. Fine on the mornings when it's not to cold, but on a couple of days last week I was scraping ice off the car and he's stood there in just his school polo shirt! Madness! But he has some sensory issues to do with his AS, so I just let him get on with it and hope that people can see the jumper tucked under his arm and the fact that ds2 is wrapped up nice and cosy!

prettyfly1 · 27/10/2010 11:53

Oh for gods sake. I have a ten month old who HOWLS when I dress him and takes great delight in repeatedly taking off everything I stick him in. It worries me sick but after the twentieth time in ten minutes I tend to get sick of it. You need to get something real to worry about - other peoples fairly standard child issues getting you this worked up is a bit sad really.

smellmycheese · 27/10/2010 11:55

YABU

People always think I underdress my DD, but in all honesty, whenever I put layers, big coat, hat gloves etc on, she just cries.

And when we get in and I take them off, she's often sweating all down her back and burning up.

I'm also a very warm person, and swelter in a winter coat, no matter how cold it is.

aDarkStarWithStrangeWays · 27/10/2010 11:55

These are probably the same parents who wrap their babies up in five jumpers, a fleece sleepsuit and a hat while they swan around in crop tops and shorts in the middle of a heatwave

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