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to go trick or treating on Saturday?

103 replies

littledawley · 27/10/2010 09:32

rather than Sunday which is actually Halloween.

DC have never done it before but really want to and I thought that Saturday would be easier, no school the next day etc.

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littledawley · 28/10/2010 23:07

Am I allowed a prize for doing my first ever AIBU and actually taking the advice given??? I will not be going trick or treating on Saturday but am considering it on Sunday.
Bowl of sweeties for me please.

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sunnydelight · 28/10/2010 23:35

Sending you some virtual cherry ripes (strange sweet that Aussies love) for not arse licking everyone who agrees with you and ignoring the rest of us Grin

oliviacrumble · 28/10/2010 23:48

Bit of a tangent, but just to remind people (again) that 'trick or treat' is not an American import.

It is celtic in origin.

Here in Ireland we have always done it - except in my day (am an old bird) we just called it 'going round the houses'. [hgrin]

piscesmoon · 29/10/2010 07:52

It is an American import in England-we had Bonfire Night as a child.

piscesmoon · 29/10/2010 07:54

You wouldn't have had pumpkins in the shops either-you had to carve a turnip lantern. Even a few years ago you didn't get all the Hallowe'en tat in shops-they are cashing in with stuff on show from August!

40deniertights · 29/10/2010 08:40

Good for you OP! I would have agreed with most other people - Sunday only. I used to hate the idea of TorT, but I think it depends on where you live. Where we live, it is young children only, really great costumes, with parents and usually forming groups so we only have 3 or 4 knocks, and they only go to houses with something on show. Never any nasty egging and a really good-humoured neighbourhood night! I have changed my tune completely! [hsmile]

insanityrules · 29/10/2010 08:48

We never say trick ot treat when we go out, we shout happy halloween.
I intend to turn anyone away who knocks on my door saturday, i won't be ready for anyone i intend to scare them ha ha ha ha

yankey · 29/10/2010 08:50

I am amazed at the anti-halloween comments on this site and find the references to begging as insulting. I trust these people also opt out of Christmas as is another 'commercial conspiracy' what a wonderful chidhood it would be without any holidays at all. I also can't believe people actually sit indoors hiding from their own front doors as small children walk away all dressed up and disappointed. I will take my children on Sunday not Saturday based on these comments but in the US they would always take the children on the Sat of the Halloween weekend not the Sunday.

piscesmoon · 29/10/2010 10:07

What is it if not begging? Fair enough if people have decorated their houses and look as if they want to take part, but I have a stream of DCs all evening from just gone dark until about 9.30pm with the teenagers with one mask and a bin bag between them. While I might get some enthusiasm for the first little ones who are all excited about being out in the dark I lose it completely when I can't even have a meal in peace.
I also caused tears and arguments every year when I wouldn't let mine go out trick or treating. I have nothing against dressing up and having fun, they have gone to discos, parties and ghost walks etc.I just don't want them disturbing the whole neighbourhood. The other thing is why on earth do they need so many sweets? It is enough to last the entire year!
It also isn't part of the English culture-we had Guy Fawkes and Bonfire night before we were overtaken by American commercialism.
I also object to the way that parents try to control it. They warn their DCs about strangers but on one night they get them knocking on strangers doors and then want to control what they hand out! I give homemade sweets-if they don't eat them that is their loss but I think it extremely rude to knock on the door and then say that I might not be hygienic enough or worse. If you don't trust me then don't knock on my door!
One person's pleasure shouldn't cause misery for others and I certainly wouldn't give anything out on the wrong day!!!! It is the 31st or nothing.

piscesmoon · 29/10/2010 10:09

Of course childhood is made up of fun and holidays, but as I live in England I prefer English ones, or if I want to try others then of my choosing. I have a lovely Christmas and it isn't at all commercial!

emptyshell · 29/10/2010 10:44

yankey well I'll be disappointing legions of small children without a niggle on my conscience.

You spend 364 days of the year teaching kids about stranger danger... then let them go around houses of people they don't know asking for sweets?! It's a stupid tradition, it upsets a heck of a lot of people, it can be very intimdiating if you live in certain areas to answer the door in the dark to a group of teenagers (often taller than I am cos I'm a short arse) wearing those horrible scream masks. It's begging and hassling people for sweeties - and they're under no obligation to give them to your kids - whatever you might think.

It's not as if there's not enough in the way of alternative stuff to do going on - pretty much every community centre or village hall around here has something going on for the kids for halloween, even the local Tesco has a halloween party games evening going on (oh shit that's tonight and I was going to go shopping... Asda time). Or you do what my parents used to do with us - line up the neighbours and relatives locally that we knew - we knocked on their doors, smiled for the photograph Gran and Auntie Jean wanted to take, and got some sweets from them.

I don't answer the door these days because I don't like being hassled by anyone when I'm in my home.

Your idyllic notion of it being the little dots dressed up is a huge leap away from the reality for lots of people where it's teenagers spoiling for a trick if they don't get home with a carrier bag full of ket.

AbbyLou · 29/10/2010 11:09

Emptyshell, I so could have writtne your post!! I agree entirely with everything you say.
Luckily my children are not really old enough to ask about trick or treating yet but when they do they will not be allowed.
I certainly will not be opening the door on Saturday night - it's not even Hallowe'en!! I have bought a small bag of Hallowe'en sweets from the pound shop. I will give them out on Sunday with the first few knocks and once they're gone I won't open the door again!

piscesmoon · 29/10/2010 12:17

I'm relieved that it isn't just me! As a parent it was one of those things that I just didn't give in to. I didn't ban sweets, but they had them in moderation when they were small and they very rarely buy them now. What do they do with all those sweets? (genuine question as they get an obsene amount).
I give unwrapped ones to make my point-why give such a mixed message-'don't take sweets from a stranger except on 31st October'! I have to say that last year the teenagers were quite sweet and were genuinely pleased to have homemade toffee. I have had eggs thrown in previous years-although I don't know how I was supposed to answer the door when I was 200 miles away!!
We shall go out.

piscesmoon · 29/10/2010 12:17

Sorry obscene amount.

RockBat · 29/10/2010 12:23

yankey, unfortunately your little dreamland is not the reality for lots of people. A trio of 6ft teenagers in a scream mask is more likely to be knocking on your door than a couple of little tots with their faces painted. My car was egged a couple of years ago on the way back from the chip shop because I hadn't give any money to a group of kids outside the chippy. Not even knocking on doors ffs. And this is quiet suburban Surrey.

piscesmoon · 29/10/2010 12:29

I live in a 'nice' little village-goodness knows what it is like in the inner city!

yankey · 29/10/2010 12:36

Bah -humbug! Bring on the little trick or treaters. I wil enjoy my Halloween none the less (though it is Celtic not American!)...however we certainly would not eat home made sweets no offence but some sense must be heeded.

cakewench · 29/10/2010 13:13

The holiday takes a different tone here than it does back in the US, apparently. I grew up in a very.. working class? (no idea how to describe it here) part of Washington DC. It was, as it is in most parts of the US, a holiday which is mostly for small children. We'd get the odd teenager or two in that neighborhood, but that's mostly because hey, free candy. When we moved out to the more middle class suburbs, teenagers were a lot less likely to attempt to trick or treat because it was considered babyish.

What seems to have happened here is youths are taking the 'trick' part very seriously. :D We don't. Tricks happen, but usually only to people you know and dislike, or know and do like, but you want to mess with them. I think children learn the process by going with their parents from an early age, and for the most part thank people when they get candy, etc.

I'm not going anywhere with this comment, but I guess I'm saying, people back home respected the free candy. [hgrin] I grew up in a city that was known as the murder capital of the US and I swear to you, I never felt the sort of fear some of you are describing here. Some of them might have acted tough but you could just mess with them a bit, say you're waiting for a smile or something first, whatever.

It's a different holiday back home. And yes, I'm also Hmm by the 'nasty American import' thing, but everyone's entitled to their opinion.

Imarriedafrog · 29/10/2010 13:18

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piscesmoon · 29/10/2010 13:26

That is what I object to strongly-knock on my door and then say you don't trust my toffeee or fudge! Rude! Don't knock in the first place.

piscesmoon · 29/10/2010 13:27

It should be for small DCs-anyone over primary school age is too old.

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piscesmoon · 29/10/2010 13:45

Exactly-Imarriedafrog-those who know me know that it is much better than manufactured sweets, and if they don't know me they shouldn't call.It is my Hallowe'en tradition-carried on from my mother making treacle tofee for bonfire night.

onmyfeet · 29/10/2010 16:43

Glad you decided to do it on the right date. But you can still have a Halloween party on Saturday night with the cousins. They can wear their costumes, and watch something like Charlie Browns Great Pumpkin movie, or some other movie depending on their ages. And make Halloween treats together. You can make a Halloween themed dinner, then decorate cupcaks or cookies together, with halloween themed decoration.

If they can eat peanuts, bat wing pasta was something my kids liked. Bow tie noodles with boneless chicken and peanut sauce, or any sauce they like.

I have not done this one for halloween before but am making it this year. www.divinedinnerparty.com/halloween-party-appetizers.html#dip
Pumpkin soup with bakes bones

pintyblud · 29/10/2010 16:53

Saturday fine.