to be enraged and hurt by comment from my Mum

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We are down to one car due to redundancy etc, so it means that DH will need the car because he starts a new job soon. So it means I will have two walk the children (3&8) to and from school, 25 mins each way.

So I said that will be fun when it's raining and they are knackered after school (we live in the north west which is prone to lots of rain) so my Mum said to me "it will do you good, shift some of that weight you need to shift"

I was thinking about the kids when I made the comment. I do need to loose some weight. I a really angry and upset.

AIBU?

My mother (on Sunday) asked me if I was skinny yet, a week and a half after getting a cross trainer

Depends on how it was said, etc etc, but think a lot of you are either liars or very thin to think OP is BU.

YANBU I meant to say too!

YANBU. Politeness should apply at all times, even with family. I bet the OP would not dream of saying this to her Mum. Some of you seem to have assumed that because her Mum said this, that the OP must be massively overweight. Not the case. My Mum got on my back when I was a trim size 12. It does not spur you on, it usually makes you dig your heels in.

Finally, there is no great virtue in being either sensitive or thick skinned. People are just different, and the world would be pretty awful if populated with only one type or another. People do not choose to be sensitive to the comments of others, they just are!

(Thick skinned or thin, I meant!)

Wrt your car situation, perhaps you could have the car for interviews/work and your DH can figure out somehow a way to get to work himself using public transport and also how to collect your child from pre school. Don't let him get away with foisting that crap on you.

I think your mums comment was just one more thing on top of some pressures you are already feeling. I think a lot of mums are blunt to the point of rudeness (mine certainly is). You can tell her that you find her way of speaking a bit hurtful, or you can just tune out and ignore her (which works for me)

Would a friend by able to pick up DC2 for you?

Totally unreasonable of her, whether or not you have mentioned your weight to her before.

YABU Its your mother thats the sort of thing they say.

Your mum has been horribly rude. Re the journey, why does your husband need the car and not you and the children?