'D'H and I Have been together about 10 years, are both in our 30's and have a 2 small DC.
I work shifts so weekends off al together are a bit of a treat and I really look forward to them, even if it means just a walk in a park etc.
Now I am a bit past going out all the time, obv working shifts and childcare, I'm much more of a home bird, however DH lves going out and. Wiu,d go to the opening of an envelope and his nights out which to be fair are not usually every weekend become his priority, regardless of financial circumstances or childcare.
He has always had a strained relationship with his brother, however in recent months they have rekindled their relationship which aim really happy about as i do like BIL and his fiancée.
Now this is the sticky issue DH has been out with BIL for the last 3 sat nights out of the last 4, each time coming home from a club at 6am. Clearly the following day be just lays on the sofa looking like death and I'm left to get on the kids alone.
Last nit I was working to the wee hours and DH Had a stag do to go to. I expected him to be ready to come home when I wou,d be finishing SOSs I left work I called him to offer him a lift to save money - no answer. Cue me going home and worrying about him ( he gets really laity when he is out drinking and often gets peoples backs up with his drunkenness) and I was worried he might have got into a bad situation. And no I'm nit been silly, I won't go out with him when he's drinking as he a makes fun of me in front of people for laughs and even his family/ friends describe him as a handful when he's drinking.
So DCs were away for the night and I am awake on and off all niggt worrying, cue his appearance at 7.40am. He just gets ink bed. I check my phone for the time a d ask him where he's been to whi h he says he's been with his DB then they went back to girl friends of DB till he brought him home.
I went mad, told him he ws disrespectful and that I was t happy.
He's been laid on the sofa since 11 Am where he still is now, umming and arrggghhh at the DCs when they talk to him and ive been upset hiding upstairs cos I don't want the kids to see me upset.
He's said sorry, but he always says sorry, he's not bloody sorry, he thinks sorry is the magic word and he cant behave like a single man, and say sorry and that's that.
AIBU to tell him to Fuck off out of my face until he can show he has his priorities straight?
Now I have to go work, all upset and we have just wasted a day with the kids.
by the way, I don't think he is seeing anyone else, but he does of,teem overstep boundaries when he is out.
He just thinks I am sulking, and I will come round, I'd li,e to just throw him out tbh 