My exp has taken paternity for our daughter. He however only saw her twice, refused to help at all, and didn't want to visit her anymore despite me saying he could visit whenever he wanted.
His excuses for not visiting were 'it takes him a whole hour to get here' and 'his mum needed help moving'.
Even when I called him to say I was running out of nappies and couldn't get more because I was 5 days post partum and couldn't carry buggy down 4 flights of stairs to go out to shops he refused to help.
As far as I understand it its illegal to take paternity leave when you are being a parent. Am I right? Should I report it to his work? Haven't done as don't see what I could gain from it but am angry that he got 3 weeks fully paid time off and did nothing to support either me or his daughter.