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to not buy my DH underwear?

48 replies

makeminemango · 23/10/2010 20:11

This morning my DH suggested that i buy him some new underwear. This was during a purge of his drawer when he was throwing out (hurrah) the old and holey. I kind of laughed before giving a firm negative. I'm not his mother Smile. When he then said i should ask around, I knew exactly the place to ask for a quick poll. So, AIBU to not buy his briefs/underwear/briefs whatever you want to call them?

OP posts:
upahill · 23/10/2010 20:15

Well sometimes I buy and sometimes I don't! Not very helpful but I don't get this line I'm not your mother! It comes up so often on MN.
The way I see it if I see something I think DH needs or wants I pick it up as a matter of course. He does the same for me and if he wants something whether it is new undies, tv, computer or whatever he gets it when he wants. Same with me - no need for a debate, do what you want!

Galena · 23/10/2010 20:16

DH and I tend to pick them up when we go shopping together. That said, if I was going into town and he needed pants, I'd probably pick some up for him. I know the type he wears and where he generally buys them and would just go ahead and purchase them.

Galena · 23/10/2010 20:17

(Thinking about it, I can hardly be too squeamish about it - when DD was born at 27 weeks, I had bought nothing at all, and so DH bought me maternity pads, nursing bras, breast pads, etc. If he can do that, what's wrong with me buying some clean new pants!?)

Bunbaker · 23/10/2010 20:21

OH hates shopping with a vengeance, so it is usually me that buys things like socks and underwear otherwise he just wouldn't have any. When it comes to outer clothes he waits until his are in rags and tatters before he will go and buy some. He is very tall with long arms and legs and needs to try things on, so buying online is not an option.

Seona1973 · 23/10/2010 20:24

dh buys his own pants, socks, etc but has been known to buy me undies too.

Hedgeblunder · 23/10/2010 20:31

No I wouldn't.... Because his miter still buys them

Hedgeblunder · 23/10/2010 20:31

Mother!

Bunbaker · 23/10/2010 20:32

What's a miter?

Longtalljosie · 23/10/2010 20:33

God Hedgeblunder, really? I'd knock that right on the head...

Mumcentreplus · 23/10/2010 20:33

I buy my DH pants..pants I like dammit! Grin

laweaselmys · 23/10/2010 20:38

I don't mind. As long as he gives me an idea
of what he wants...

If I buy them and he doesn't like them, he can definately take them back himself!

Bunbaker · 23/10/2010 20:38

Sorry Hedgeblunder, our posts crossed.

sickoftheholidays · 23/10/2010 20:39

I buy DH's clothes full stop. Otherwise he would go "commando" every day and would probably be dressed in the shirt and jeans he left uni wearing 20 years ago. No, really, I'm not kidding. He is more than happy to wear whatever I buy for him, he just picks up random stuff from the drawer and puts it on, I just make sure that I buy stuff which is a similar style/colours so whatever he has put on looks OK together.
I remember when about a year after we met, I mentioned going shopping for clothes as he needed a new look, and he quickly relinquished control of his wardrobe with a look of relief on his face.
I look on this as a positive thing - at least I know I will like the clothes he is wearing and they will be appropriate for the occasion.

Hedgeblunder · 23/10/2010 20:43

Tell me about it longtalljosie!!!!!

He doesn't ask for them ever but every freaking time he stops over there she gives him carrier bags full of pants and socks!!

It's my fault, when we were moving in together I told him he could get fucked if he thought I was picking up his dirty pants, poor MIL looked horrified ha!

Schroeder · 23/10/2010 20:45

Mil buys DH's pants and socks every christmas [hgrin] so the subject never comes up.

I buy him his favourite autograph pyjamas though.(he's too tight, but loves 'em ,so I treat)
He buys everything else for himself.

PenelopeTitsDropped · 23/10/2010 20:46

I agree with you. I'm not his Mother. I'm his wife.

But I have had moments with his underwear.

I turned most of his underwear and socks into puppets with superglue; on one memorable day.

That didn't go down well; it was a particularly bad day in my house.

There were lions' manes made from tatty wool, superglued onto socks, loads of smiley faces and glitter etc etc.

His screams of "Do you expect me to be going out like this?" resonated around the house.

I just shrugged and told him to go barefoot. Have I mentioned that I'm not his Mother ?

Fuck . I was bored.

Underwear,socks. No I can't be bothered as they have no entertainment potential as my DD is getting older.

Hedgeblunder · 23/10/2010 20:49

Penelope!!! Whqt possessed you????
Oh I do throw away dp's old pants because other wise my sex drive would have shot itself

BikeRunScream · 23/10/2010 20:56

YANBU.

I have never bought DH underwear, or he I.
Not buying him underwear was a condition of getting married I think!

LotteryWinnersOnAcid · 23/10/2010 20:58

I buy my DH underwear sometimes. If I didn't he'd wear them until they disintegrated. He is capable of buying them himself but I'd rather see him in nice new boxers rather than the fading grey ones he will wear because they're comfy (and strictly speaking have nothing much wrong with them).

He has never bought me underwear. I would quite like him to actually, although not because I wear old holy ones...

Goblinchild · 23/10/2010 20:59

Penelope, are you a primary school teacher?

Mumcentreplus · 23/10/2010 21:01

Don't see nothing re mothering to by your OH pants...I see some pants i like, I buy them, he wears them...job done.

PenelopeTitsDropped · 23/10/2010 21:02

Hedge. It was just a rainy day at home.

All of his socks/underpants are black/blue and they were a neutral canvas....... and then they were just......

fantastic sparkly things
had froggy eyes
manes made from wool
ears.
made noises.

Oh what fun we had.

We rehearsed all afternoon after the creativity bit and put on a puppet show for Daddy. He loved it....

Until he realised he'd got no pants and no socks next morning.

I wasn't un-sympathetic entirely.

SuchProspects · 23/10/2010 21:04

I've only ever bought DH clothes as presents - and those aren't everyday underpants Wink. He's never asked me to pick up clothes for him. I don't suppose I'd refuse if I was already going to the store or there was some reason he couldn't do the job. But the way you write it above I get the impression he was asking as though it was too much bother for him, but your time obviously wasn't nearly as valuable - that would definitely annoy me.

pozzled · 23/10/2010 21:10

I would expect my DH to buy them himself unless I was going shopping anyway in which case I would pick some up. Not a big deal IMO. DH works near shops and I don't so he will quite happily pick up bits and pieces for me if needed, personal items or not.

pozzled · 23/10/2010 21:12

Agree with suchprospects though that it's a bit weird to ask if he just can't be bothered to do it himself, I would only do it if it ws more convenient for me than him.