To not want sympathy for loss of son?

[Theincrediblesulk1]

I was just reading a rather horrid thread that was saying people make up the loss of children on here

I take it i am not alone in not actually being interested in sympathy from people! I am glad i had his for the little bit of time he was here!

I am sure i am not alone in this, And because i am talking about him, just means i want to talk about him!?

Aibu?

for uyou Demented. Our ds1 died 11 years ago when he was 7. If it's any comfort, time really does help, but I think about my little boy every single day.

So sorry to hear of both your losses! life is so unfair, no child should be taken! :(

Ohhh... do believe i may have killed the thread... sorry

No you didnt i think it may have served its purpose xxxx

I think anyone who has ever lost anyone, child, friend, relative, can understand the wish to talk about them. I think it is even more important for those who have lost children, particularly young children, to have places like MN to do so because, as someone else has already said, they don't have as many memories of their small loved-ones as people who have lost adult loved-ones. So people find it quite normal for me to say, "Oh I remember going there with my Grandad" or "My mum made me a dress like that", but a lot of people might find it uncomfortable if you turned round and said "Oh, I would have brought DS here" or "That dress would have looked lovely on DD" because the lost child is not as real for others as he or she is to her parents.

I have very little living, close family - the gap is filled by a wonderful extended family. But I still feel it is important that my DS knows as much as possible about his grandmother and his great-grandparents., just as I know a lot about my great-grandmother who died 40 years before I was born. There is no rule on how long a memory can stay alive.