To refuse to colour 9 year old nieces hair

[Mummy2Bookie]

Ds (sister) has been bugging me to highlight her daughters hair. Personally, I think it's to much but I know that if I don't it will turn into a huge argument and she will just do it herself anyway and make a mess of it.

Very confused, am I right to refuse?

I wouldn't do it.

Yes, you are. Tell her you don't agree with it, so won't do it. No more need to be said. 9 with highlights, bloody hell.

I wouldn't personally. I think 9 is too young for that.

I wouldn't do it.

A girl in DD's kindergarten had her hair highlighted when she was just 5yo. I sat next to her in the hairdressers and wanted to cry for her.

WOW really aged 5? what professional in their right mind would highlight a 5 year olds hair. That so creepy.

Why would she want you to do that? I would refuse personally.

SheWillBeloved
That is exactly my view on it, I just hate arguments.

No I wouldn't do it either- I'd just make something up about the dye giving little girls dandruff!

if your sister will do it herself and make a mess of it, for my niece sake i would do it

There doesn't need to be an argument. All you have to say is "Look, I don't want to argue or fall out with you, but I think 9 is far too young for highlights, so I don't want to and will not do it."

If she gets in a huff, then let her. I'd rather deal wit a huff than knowing I have encouraged such image conciousness in a 9 year old.

My sister is the most image conscious person I know. So not surprised that this has come up. She's not a bad mum, just has her head stuck in thevclouds a bit

Its not your problem if she makes a mess of it. If she is that image conscious she will take her to a hairdressers anyway.

Go and ask this question on netmums. I predict you will get different responses...

Say something like "You know how you like to look good? Well she will when she's older, except she won't be able to as her hair will be a frizzy, over dyed mess because she has been getting it done since she was a 9 year old CHILD."

She asked me because I have just qualified as a hairdresser.

I'd just do it

tbh i'd do it so save the arguing and to save dn from having it done by your sis but make it so the highlights are barly noticable.

Let her do it herself.

Lol I will try to talk to her tonight.

It's a little bit JonBenet Ramsay, no?

Does your niece want it done? Or just her mum?

Ooh Madonna, that's a bit whoooah.

But no way would I do this.

People often ask me if my six year old's hair is bleached as it's like a lovely lion's mane but I'm always amazed they think I'd take dye to her lovely innocent locks.

How can she do it by herself?
How would she get her hands on hairdye at 9?

ok ignore me have just read op again and now i understand.

I would just a few at the front not a whole head.

I'd do it.I might not approve or do it to my own child.But it's her DD, her decision.

Surely if you are a qualified hairdresser then you'd be the best person to do it? An unqualified person putting bleach on a little girl's head could end in disaster. However, I'd make sure your sister, and neice, knows just how painful bleached highlights can be, y'know, when it's burning your scalp, and itching like hell.

Even if you don't approve she's not your child and better you do it properly than have half her hair fried and falling out.

PS why would OP get a different reply on netmums? Are they rivals or something?!