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To refuse to colour 9 year old nieces hair

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Mummy2Bookie · 22/10/2010 11:03

Ds (sister) has been bugging me to highlight her daughters hair. Personally, I think it's to much but I know that if I don't it will turn into a huge argument and she will just do it herself anyway and make a mess of it.

Very confused, am I right to refuse?

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spookyhalloweenFluffypomkins · 22/10/2010 17:25

Highlights are'nt always done with bleach,any shade up from your own with a higher concentration of volume will lift the hair lighter.

verytellytubby · 22/10/2010 17:28

I think 9 is too young but I guess it's better you do it properly then your sister totally cock up and ruin her hair.

I used to Sun In my hair from about 11. We used to buy it with our pocket money. Poor hair!

BuntyPenfold · 22/10/2010 17:30

We had a 2 year old in nursery with highlighted hair and we all thought she had dyed eyelashes as well, though no proof of course.

minimammoth · 22/10/2010 18:27

I would say no and pass the book. Eg. 'We have been advised at college not to use dyes/bleaches on childrens hair, as its too damaging/ not as strong as adult hair/too toxic.

TattyDevine · 22/10/2010 18:38

If you dont want to do it because you disagree with the philosophy or principle of doing it, fine, but I'd go with it so I could "control" it a bit. After all, if you've just qualified as a hairdresser, you will probably be asked to do worse at some point!

If its because you are professionally concerned that you might damage her hair, and it might bring you into ill-repute, then you should refuse.

If it were me, I'd do the whole "are you SERIOUS? She's only 9" thing and if she was adamant, I'd lift it a couple of shades, a t section, and if she didn't like that then she could take her elsewhere.

If she's going to do it anyway, you may as well get involved unless you feel totally exploited over it.

Seriously there's probably worse things she could do. I would have been delighted if my mum had let me go a shade or two lighter at that age, it would have boosted my self esteem no end. I'm not saying I'd do it but I would have LOVED it.

Original poster
Mummy2Bookie · 22/10/2010 19:13

No she's not a jonbenet Ramsey. That's hirtible

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Original poster
Mummy2Bookie · 22/10/2010 19:13

No she's not a jonbenet Ramsey. That's horrible

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CommanderGhoul · 22/10/2010 19:15

HIGHLIGHTS????

She's NINE!

Christ on a bike.

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Mummy2Bookie · 22/10/2010 19:17

No I don't think it is a bit jonbenet Ramsey. She doesn't wear make up, parade around on a stage etc. She wants it done too. Wholehead, not few at the front.

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ElenorRigby · 22/10/2010 19:18

yanbu

fastedwina · 22/10/2010 19:22

maybe the make-up and high heels will be next though, it's not that far a leap. I wouldn't do it if i really thought it was inappropriate. Plus, we are all Shock at you sister for entertaining this, people might equally think you are a freak as well for agreeing to do it and thereby condoning it.

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Mummy2Bookie · 22/10/2010 19:35

Buntypenfold
Are you sure the 2 year old didn't have natural highlights?

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naghoul · 22/10/2010 20:32

Were you taught that children's hair is more liable to damage? Could you not advise SIL that you won't do it out of concern for your niece's hair?

naghoul · 22/10/2010 20:34

If it was me i'd just refuse and tell sil I thought niece was too young.

But that's just me. I don't mind a row Grin

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