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to think it's a bit much for a 13yr old to have already started planning his career?

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GoreRenewed · 21/10/2010 12:57

DS is interested in engineering. We went to a careers fair last night and one of the exhibitors we spoke to suggested that anything DS could so in terms of extracurricular activities would help when he later applied for apprenticeships
or university places. Fair enough. I quite agree.

So we had a look at a website that offered course designed for Yr 9sto give them a taste of the subject, experience working with professionals, working on projects
in a team. All good stuff. So we down-loaded an application form. The cost is £145 which is a bit ouch atm but worthwhile if it helps him longterm. But that is only payable if he is accepted onto the course. They also ask for a list of thing he has done that show his interest and aptitude for the subject to see if he will be an asset to the other applicants Hmm And the school has to complete a form in support of his application. So what this seems
to be saying is that he has to be involved in clubs and projects already. To have estabished himself in school or elsewhere as a an enthusiast. And if he hasn't done so they could turn him down in theory.

He loves D&T and science and gets good marks, but they don't study 'engineering' in yr 9 and he isn't a joiner in terms of school clubs. He is simply interested and would like to become involved and find out more.

How early do children have to start this informal networking then? Should we have been locking him in the garage with some grease and a mechano set at age 6? Hmm

Oh yes and another thing that made me laugh! It was suggested that he could start doing weekend jobs to show his enthusiasm. Who
these days would take a child of 13 on (even unpaid) to help out in an engineering works or a garage?

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GetOrfMoiLand · 21/10/2010 15:48

sorry hully but am sat here chortling at your judo/brownies/woodfolk exploits

Haven't even had a careers fair at dd's school.

Hullygully · 21/10/2010 15:55

Orm, those smallpeice courses look good. Shame the half term one is full. What one are you interested in for ds?

Hullygully · 21/10/2010 15:56

See, this is it, isn't it? This need to cram their lives full with enriching extra curricular stuff.

Never did me any good

GoreRenewed · 21/10/2010 15:57

Engineering experience next April in Shropshire

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GetOrfMoiLand · 21/10/2010 15:59

I hated organised stuff.

I was in a marching band for a year, got kicked out bwecause I deliberately threw dropped a glockenspiel on the floor to see what kind of noise it would make (answer: a deafening racket, but amusing)

Hullygully · 21/10/2010 16:07

Pore ol ds isn't going to know what's hit him. How busy he will be.

Organised stuff is hell. I ran a playgroup briefly in error and closed it down. Now I am inadvertently on a committee which I must endeavour not to hex.

Still don't know what to do with dd tho.

Orm, Will he miss school?

GoreRenewed · 21/10/2010 16:09

No, I checked that today. It's the easter hols. Which will piss him off considerably Grin

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Hullygully · 21/10/2010 16:10

So at least you'll get something out of it...

motherinferior · 21/10/2010 16:11

I think YANBU. I really don't see why or how kids who are 13 should decide the rest of their lives.

GoreRenewed · 21/10/2010 16:11

I started fretting like this when they started primary school - wanting to do this club and that one! All the other kids seem to be doing a million things. But it never stuck and one by one everything got dropped. DD managed to drop everything a few months after I'd finally bought the kit usually Hmm

So I accepted that I'd have to let them do things at their pace and in their way.

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Hullygully · 21/10/2010 16:14

Oh god yes. Cupboards stuffed full of kit. I said they had to give everything three goes, so they did, I bought the stuff, then they gave up.

Bastards.

webwiz · 21/10/2010 16:21

When I impressed on DD1 the importance of planning what she wanted to do for a career she asked why seeing as her generation are probably going to have to work till they are about 80 and so she had plenty of time to choose what she wanted to do Smile

GetOrfMoiLand · 21/10/2010 16:22

Hully you are making me laugh today - started a playgroup in error Grin

I wanted a musical child (christ knows why after my glockenspiel episode, and hatred of playing londons Burning in the round on the recorder) - tried dd with the Cello (she hated it), clarinet (even worse) then gave up. Then when she was 9 she picked up a guitar at a friend's house and now plays electric guitar really well. I shouldn't have tried to force the cello and clarinet and just left her to it.

GoreRenewed · 21/10/2010 16:30

Right! i am going to sit down with DS2 tonight and tell him he is a slacker! Ha! All that playing and messing about.

And no more toys or books for the younger two either. No more enjoying themselves aimlessly and to no purpose. Tsk!

Oh yes. Things are going to change! Anyone would think they were children.

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Hullygully · 21/10/2010 16:33

Go Orm!

In our house we currently have two cellos, three guitars, three recorders, two keyboards, one piano and a partridge in a pear tree. One guitar is played.

Sidge · 21/10/2010 17:09

I was chucked out of asked to leave the Brownies for seeing if I could throw the beanbags through the open church hall windows.

Scarred me for life.

Maybe I could contribute a chapter to your Baden Powell mis-lit??

Hullygully · 21/10/2010 17:13

A chapter each, I feel.

My Brownie Hell or Please, Evil Toadstool, No.

ThePumpkinofDoomandTotalChaos · 21/10/2010 17:14

yanbu. with a lifetime ahead to show appropriate motivation etc at work 13 seems a bit young to expect relevant work experience Hmm. mind you - maybe all it means is - they don't want disinterested kids to go just because the parents want tthe kids to be engineers so have booked them on the course

GetOrfMoiLand · 21/10/2010 17:22

Sorry for nicking your joke Orm but Baden-Powell misery lit was too good to waste www.mumsnet.com./Talk/_chat/1067084-Baden-Powell-Misery-Lit-please-come-and-share-your-loathing

GoreRenewed · 21/10/2010 19:15

I rang the Smallpeice Trust and asked. She told me that they didn't care about clubs and things, just that the child shows some interest in the subject and they aren't coming along just because their friend is!

So OK I was wrong....

BUT the principle still stands! 13 is too young to be forced into making decisions about forever. Ner!

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Hullygully · 21/10/2010 19:24

Oh well done!! I didn't even think of doing that.

DS is very keen on that April one, he has just read all about it...Tell me if you sign your ds up!

And Getorf, he is also v keen on air cadets, so thanks for that. What a fruitful MN day. Hallelujah.

GoreRenewed · 21/10/2010 19:41

See you there then! Grin

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