to get annoyed with daft teenage daughter because she refuses to wear a coat

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I mean for crying out loud, look at the frost on the ground

EVERY MORNING

me: where's your coat
dd: oh muuuum it's OK
me: get your coat
dd: but i will have to carry it round with me and I can't be bothered
me: it is FREEZING I have just scraped ice of the windscreen you are NOT going to school with no coat
dd: it's not even COLD mum I will be FINE
me: you will catch your death of cold
dd: I have got a t shirt underneath my shirt that will keep me warm
me: oh for god's sake

EVERY morning. Why do I bother. NONE of the kids at her school ever wear a coat. Bloody teenagers.

In another 30 years the same DDs will be here saying AIBU to get annoyed blah blah blah....... and moaning about their teenage daughters!!

Just had blood curdling, shiver down spine flashback of refusing to wear a coat when younger, despite my Mammy telling me "I'd catch a chill in my kidneys".

No no no, the lockers wouldn't have tiny keys; they'd either have combination locks (provided by the pupil) that stay on the locker at all times or they'd have built in combo locks on them (or could be operated using a refundable quid). No need for keys.

We had our own Year-round dedicated lockers for PE class, too. And they were all full size lockers (like you see on American high school movies).

English high schools are weird!

I remember doing it, in the end mum gave up, even worse I remember waiting for taxis after clubbbing in january and not at all fazed by the, cold teens are weird!

I don't know why you bother either, orf. I no longer try to:

1. buy sensible winter boots for dd1
2. buy a WARM winter coat for dd1
3. ask her what she had for lunch

DD has just come home for a jumper. I never thought I'd see the day....

Yes, I remember not wearing coats in winter as a teenager - just did not want to and my mum was at wrok so got away with it until she bumped into me in towm at lunch time, can't remeber why I did not want ot wear it
still alive now!

My ds wears a hat..but never a coat

Scarlet-tina's new beau is currently wearing a hat, a nice wooly one.

usualsuspect - should I be inviting you round for supper?

Don't the boys give the girls their warm coats/hoodies?
A couple of my friends have teens and that's what they tell me.

DD has a vast wardrobe of hoodies. Se has just taken 3 outside to clothe her beau and her mates.

She's a modern gal.

DD is exactly the same.
She goes to school in a hoodie.
Sick of argueing with her, she is 12 and if she doesn't want to wear a coat then she can learn the hard way.

pintyblud: same i gave up on doing that stuff.
pintyblud- Snap!

Weeeeellll...I'm 22, and my mum has given up trying to persuade me to buy a proper winter coat -my winter coat this season is a leather aviator jacket, which I never do up! Think it's an age thing tbh.

A snippit of this week re; coats and wearing of them..

1)convo last night by phone with teenage ds who I had just passed on my way home from work...
me; where's your coat?
ds; I'm fine..it's not cold
me; errr..yes it is...it's snowing
ds; goddddd...mummmmm..tutt's to friend loudly!

2. ds being take to night-time tea & footy match by friends kind parents.. previous evening: me; make sure you get wrapped up, it'll be feezing, put your coat on ds; goddddd...mummmmm I have been to footy matches before..I KNOW! that morning: me; don't forget your coat ds;I knowwwww...goddddd phone-call from work: me; have a great time..(hammers point home)..don't forget your coat ds; I'm not stupid..

walks in from work to trip over said 'forgotton' coat!!!!

Just a word of warning to those coatless teenagers, my DS 15 came very close to hypothermia the other weekend.

It was a dickensian evening in a nearby town. He went out and met his friends and we went out later by car.
He had a shirt, hoodie and leather jacket. We bumped into him a few times and he was fine. Said we would meet him at the pub to take him home at 10. Last time we saw him he had taken off his jacket and claimed he was warm.
When we picked him up he was in his shirt, claiming he was warm enough and behaving a bit odd to the point I thought he was on something. If hadn't seen on and off through the evening and new he was his usual self then I would have been more suspicious.
We came home he got in the bath, I heard snoring and he had fallen asleep in the bath and took a lot of waking.

I then remembered someone had told me about about paradoxical underesssing in hypothermia that week. I looked up the symptoms and all the symptoms he had pointed to hypothermia. He said later that he had felt really cold then suddenly warm which was why he had taken off his jacket and hoody.

Luckily we had been around to take him home as I am not sure what would have happened.

my dd went out to the pictures last night

the bus didn't arrive, so she was at the bus stop for an hour at minus 4deg in a vest top and shirt

dh and I had been drinking so we couldn't pick her up, and it was snowing heavily anyway

thankfully she arrived about 9pm

another hour and we would have had to send a taxi for her

she never wears a coat and neither do her friends

she is 15

what the hell do you do...refuse to let them go out ? It might be getting to that point, tbh

The more you want a teenager to do something the lass they will want to , wave her off say nothing and after a few days of freezing she will probably put her coat on herself , I'm sure I have read somewhere that teenagers have a higher body temeperature due to raging hormones a bit like when your pregnant. I never wore a coat at high school I was quite happy to wear a hoodie same as until a year or two ago I used to go clubbing wearing next to nothing with no coat, mind I am from Newcastle it's the done thing here .

As a teenager my mum would never let me go to school without a coat unless it was a really warm. We never had lockers but took our bags and stuff from class to class.

Now I am catching up as I never wear a coat, well unless I am skiing. I actually love this really cold weather. I have skied in a bikini and swam in a river with ice floating on top of the water as well as camped in -27C

People tell use we will get sick, get sneezes and the odd runny nose but never anything bad

My 19 yr old still wont wear a coat ...hope he will grow out of it soon.

OMG our's is ten (eleven in Aug) and we go through the same thing every moring (talk about starting young ) dreading the teenage years ahead lol

Same here. No coat when at school. Or into early 20s.

Still not overly keen but tend to layer effectively now.

Currently wearing - merino baselayer, micro fleece, jeans,

Will add soft shell and down waistcoat when I go out.

Oh and a hat and neck gaiter and gloves!

I love living in Scotland where you can buy your whole wardrobe from the Outdoor shop and not be remarkable when wandering around town!

My dd was like this. Then I bought, for 5 quid on ebay, the most amazing 40's Jeager trench coat - and she won't take it off! Have found her some brilliant vintage leather gloves to gowith it for Christmas. She looks like Celia Johnson!

DD (14) wears her coat. In her bedroom, when the central heating is on full blast.
Outside? Not a chance.

My Ds has started to wear a slightly thicker hoody ,so it must be cold

I'd leave them to it. By tenage years they are old enough to realise that if they have no coat they get cold, and they are old enough to live with the consequence of being cold.

I am oof the thinking that getting cold doesn't actually make you ill as such.

If you are already harboring a virus then it isn't going to help, and being cold for a long period of time is not going to be ideal, but most illnesses are caused by viruses not being cold or wet.

They will eventually grow out of it. I also believe that active teens probably don't feel the cold so much as we do as we get older.

My 8y always sheds coats - she'll be a nightmare as a teen over this issue. I might as well let it drop now before we even get there TBH.