Ding Dong I've dumped the shit husband!

[mamayaya]

Not necessarily AIBU granted.

But.

Yay !

A week and one day and counting.

An AWFUL LOT OF SHIT to deal with inc.

1. He insists upon moving back into our house on the basis that he can't afford to rent anywhere else (er we're both lawyers and he earns 4x my salary)

1. He has said he wants to stay to "help with childcare" but has texted me tonight to say that next week he's away on Tues - Weds with work, and in Glasgow Fri - Sun. He can't take DD apparently as he and his brother will be going out drinking (despite not seeing her for 3 weekends in a row and going on hol by himself for 2 weeks on 6 Nov - WHAT ?!?!?!?)

1. My parents v v v pressurising to move back to near them. Will be good for free childcare / babysitting BUT I will miss my friends and also wanted to stay near NotDH but given his attitude that's potentially ok.

Anyway .... I have got the music I like on in the kitchen, I have been able to talk on the phone to friends and family this evening, eat what I want .... all is good!

Sorry. Not AIBU. Just wanted a smiley reaction!!

Way to go!

Onwards & upwards!

Turn the music up and glue the toilet seat down :)

yanbu

back at you Custardo !

God is it really possible to be so happy in such a crap situation ?!

A subdued yay coming at you all from Yorkshire....

woah, sounds GOOD!

To the future!!

Yay !!

Is it wrong to be so excited about a shit situation ?!

Bit sad to be celebrating this on MN ... but hard to get out with responsibility for a 2 year old ...

He is staying with a friend at the moment but insisting upon moving back in @ weekend. Allegedly to share childcare. Although will apparently be away Tues - Weds with work then at weekend. Suggested he take DD as hasn't seen her much for 3-4 weeks and going on hol without her for 2 weeks in Nov. Apparently, "too much".

Have taken step of getting my dad to e-mail his about his refusal to rent for a couple of months.

I'm .... JUST .......... SOOOO .......... HAPPY !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

!!

You wont tell us that you did seperated so that you can get all the benefits you are entitled too, right?

Gawd bless you mama!

I feel the same way, this week I have realised that we have passed the point of no return and everything IS dead.

I think he even gets why now, but tbh, can't bring myself to care if he gets it or not.

I dread the thought of spending any time with him in the future, I want him gone, I want to be free to make the decisions that need to be made, I've been doing this job all on my own for the last 5yrs, but with him annoying me from sidelines. It's shit.

I am excited about knowing we have reached the end, that the torture is over, I do know what you mean, I wish you well..

Hard to type, better shove off to bed, 2 glasses of wine really don't help me to type too well!

Glad you are happy, long may it stay that way! you and me are in a very similar boat!

[pissed]

Ah that's lovely, that's what I call a happy ending [hsmile]

And re: him moving back in. How about....NO?

and best of luck to you LMHF, he sounds like an arse.

Good Luck, your new life begins

Change the locks, if you haven't done so already!!

Good luck with your new life

Doesn't sound like a shit situation, it sounds very freeing! Well done on a good decision :)

[hsmile] mamyaya

I suppose given he can't afford rent for his own place, he's off somewhere like Thailand! He sounds like that kind of arse.

Fairhead
Turn the music up and glue the toilet seat down - I like it!

I don't know your story but you sound happy and that's definitely worth a :o

Still on YAY !!! He's off to America on a roadtrip. WhatEVER. And have resolved housing situation today. And he saw a solicitor and realised that he is going to have to help us with a deposit.

AND my ex-colleague has offered me a temporary position in-house. 2 days / week. From home. Brilliant.

And it is sooooo nice to not have him here in the evenings !!

HissyFangs - good luck ! Hugs back ! It's just NOT WORTH being miserable !!

I don't know your story either, but . You sound brilliantly happy.

Oh, basically, he's a controlling shit who used emotional blackmail on me for years. Constant criticism, arguing, fighting, jealousy, insecurity, comments on my clothes, control at all times. Very unpleasant life. Separated last year but got back together trying couples counselling for about 6 months... guess what, he hasn't changed.

Any hooo .. I'm happy !

[hgrin] [hgrin] [hgrin] to mamayaya! you go girl!

In that case and I'm raising a glass (of Ribena, admittedly) to a much happier future for you.

I don't know you, but I love your thread and the happiness vibes it exudes

HIBU - yay you [wgrin]