to think that if people kept their DC home when they are ill..

[narna]

instead of sending them into school then maybe it would stop these bugs spreading round like wildfire?
Im not talking about coughs and sniffles but things like sickness bugs and temperatures? why would you send your child to school with a temperature,surely its not in anyones best interests?!
There is a sickness bug going round my DCs school just now.The number of parents ive heard saying " oh they were sick in the night but they are ok now..." Yeah great but what about all the other children that are going to get it now ?

YANBU - drives me mad - everyone catches it then

Yes, ARGGGHHH!

but surely we have all done it? ie sent a child in to school who was not 100%- when you were having an important day at work or something? - and then had to hightail it back when they actually did vomit all over the teacher? (in accordance with their own predictions)

Only consolation is, that probably all the children in the class already had the Bug, from whoever it was that my little DC got it from.....

YANBU, if people can't look after their own kids (or arrange for someone else to do so) when they're sick then they shouldn't have them in the first place. I'm fed up of mine getting ill because some twat cba to keep their children off school when they're throwing up. Mine have been ill because of this, (due back tomorrow all going well again tonight) sick in the night all over covers etc and diarrhea but I keep them off until they are well and it's been 48 hours after the last bout. I'm hoping I don't catch it seeing as I'm nearly 31 weeks pregnant too.

I think it's so bloody selfish.

YANBU, it particularly annoys me as ds1 (school age, catches no bugs, carries all bugs home), come home and passes all bugs to ds2 (various health problems, not school age, seriously small for age). DS2 catches all of said bugs and we end up with yet another 2 months of projectile vomiting and him losing weight.

It is selfish.

Yes, annoying & selfish, but TBH, most adults with a job/career do it themselves.

If your sick the night before, but feel fine in the morning, you'll go to work. (Never mind your collegues catching it, as long as you're alright!).

Altruism doesn't work in our society.

It is a real shame when this happens, I hate it. Trouble is, people need to work to feed their families. When you have to stay home to look after them, best case scenario, you don't get paid. Worst case scenario, you are threatened with disciplinary action for being absent. This has happened to me. I used to work for Tesco. They are total bastards about absence! I was told if I had more than a certain percentage of absence in a six month period, I would get a verbal warning, then a written warning then I could have my contract terminated! When you rely on your job to feed and lithe your kids, what can you do?
Bear in mind, my kids school tell you to keep them home if they have conjunctivitis. Try telling that to a Tesco disciplinary meeting!

Clothe!

It is a pity that some employers are like that, but to send a sick child to school because of your own job is still selfish. One day of sorting out an alternative arrangement for you could prevent someone else having to take weeks off work when their own immuno-compromised child gets the bug that your child has passed around to all the others in the class.

YANBU
I work in a nursery and it is shocking how some people will send in their children when they are clearly very poorly.
It's very selfish.
If I get ill, I don't get paid if I am off work.

This drives me mad, last year my daughter was quite ill and as a result even when she was well enough to go back she would catch anything going and be ill for longer. In the space of a month she had chicken pox and then within a week of going back scarlet fever.it went on for about 6 months after the original illness and her attendance plummeted to under 70 % . I vaguely remember at one point arguing with another mum who started chatting about how that day she had given her son calpol before school to try and get him through the day she knew that my daughter was in and out of hospital but apparently this was obviously nothing to concern her.

YANBU it is not fair on the other children and the teachers. The amount of times I have caught sickness from my pupils being sent in early is far too many.

yanbu, but as a mum with a dd that started school last year i can understand why people send them in - my dd had 5 days off for chicken pox and no other days off at all - i got letters about her attendance being unacceptable! If she is unwell this year i am more likey to send her in than i was before.

YANBU but sometimes when your child is just under the weather and not actually ill it doesn't make sense to keep them home.

However, this usually means they are incubating something gruesome and taking the germs to school.

TBH my DC picks up everything from school and its inevitable he will get something there regardless of whether people keep their kids off school/wash their hands a lot etc etc. School is a germ farm.

The rule of thumb down my way is don't send them until 24 hours have lasped between episodes. People generally stick to that but it doesn't seem to stop it spreading. Think doorhandles, pens and pencils and little ones scratching their bums and sharing a ruler.

Teachers do it. Most heads want you in whether you are sick or not.

Sickness bugs not good, colds and sniffled though- unless you have a compromised immune system (or have a child in your class who is vulnerable- and you will know, we were all told) then kids need them to develop decent immunity.

If we kept ours home every time they sniffled 9again, not S&V: always would) school would have SSD down on us like the proverbial ton, have seen it.

I found this one dreadfully difficult, as dd had a chronic health problem = low attendance, and the school treated even absences caused by this condition as poor parenting. When I kept her off for the flu, they had no sympathy at all, but gave me long lectures on how other parents don't keep their children off for the slightest sniffle.

When you've got the EWO and the SS breathing down your neck and know that your dc's chances of accessing treatment depend wholly on whether you manage to convince people that you do not, after all, have Munchausen by proxy, then it is difficult to always do the right thing. So I don't suppose I always have.

YANBU in essence, though so many of these bugs are contagious several hours before the first symptoms happen and have already been passed around unbeknownst to the originator.

So its not just a simple case of quarantining oneself when symptoms are present in order to stamp out bugs.

Oh and logic must apply too!

Was often asked to take dairy intolerant DS3 home after a vomitting episode when they'd say 'oh the dinner lady gave him milk'

Argh.

YANBU I remember taking DC's to a morning playgroup when they were very young and a mother of twins who was there too, was practically boasting about how hers had been vomiting all night. I asked if they were better then seeing as though she'd brought them along, and she shrugged and said 'dunno' with a sort of smirk. I was LIVID, and didn't go back ever again.

yanbu - some people refuse to think about other kids and send theirs to school with diarhea & throwing up. Heard one parent last week tell the teacher that his ds had a tummy ache & had been on the loo all morning.

Unseenacademicalmum. What's more selfish? Sending a slightly Ill child to school or losing your job and not being able to feed them? I hate the soldier on and spread it around culture, but there are many employers who react like this to absence nowadays, and when your absence percentage covers your health and that of two children, and there are no other alternatives, what are people meant to do?

Stinkyoldclottedcatspus, yes, and you might be spreading the virus to another child whose immune system copes much worse with it and ends up in hospital as a result. Should that child's parent lose their job due to an uncompromising employer (by your own logic - so that child can not be fed and clothed and even worse, is in hospital)?

If you know you have an employer like that you have two choices, either: 1. apply for other jobs which are more child friendly, or 2. make good arrangements in the event that your child is ill that someone can cover their care whilst you are at work. School is not free childcare, so yes it is selfish.

It's just as bad when you get the 'heroes' coming into work when they're sick because they don't want to be seen to be skiving. Then everyone else gets it and overall productivity actually goes down so they might as well have just taken the time off.

Someone came into work with a sickness bug at the beginning of the year and was throwing up in the toilets. I made them go home immediately. So selfish, spreading their disgusting germs all over the office.

YANBU.

It's not my logic, I did leave and get another job, and I do keep my child off. I have recently had a letter to this effect from the school

Complaining about absence. I do however have sympathy with both sides of the argument. Sick kids should be at home, but, there are people out there who don't have options. It's too easy to judge.