to think that if people kept their DC home when they are ill..

[narna]

instead of sending them into school then maybe it would stop these bugs spreading round like wildfire?
Im not talking about coughs and sniffles but things like sickness bugs and temperatures? why would you send your child to school with a temperature,surely its not in anyones best interests?!
There is a sickness bug going round my DCs school just now.The number of parents ive heard saying " oh they were sick in the night but they are ok now..." Yeah great but what about all the other children that are going to get it now ?

YANBU. As a pregnant teacher I was constantly having to dodge kids who were far too ill to be in school Didn't stop me getting cold after cold after chest infection.

if people can't look after their own kids (or arrange for someone else to do so) when they're sick then they shouldn't have them in the first place

Feckless, working parents, eh? Perhaps people should only have children if they promise to claim out of work benefits for a decade or so. And SAHPs who find that they need to go out and get a job ought to give their children up for adoption. [hhmm]

What a load of tosh!

fwiw I wouldn't send ds into school if he'd been sick in the night (unless that sickness was quite evidently down to consuming an entire chocolate fudge cake, a bottle of Tizer and some Haribo). But sometimes people really do feel that they have no choice.

is it more selfish to send them to school when they should be off sick or is it more selfish to lose the job that buys their food?

For some people, that is the choi8ce they face.

My sister has been told off for this by parents- but she runs a nursery that can't open unless she is there (only Manager ATM as the other on Lt sick leaveand her ds is sick not through infection but becuase of feeding isssues arising from his first three months in NICU but aprents won't accept that).

I wonder if the parents accuisng her of risking their kids would be so supportive if the Nursery closed for the day?

What colditz said ^. There was a thread running this week where someone was saying their boss was pissed off because they had taken time off to care for a sick child. Cue everyone saying you can't expect work to suck it up because your kid is ill. If you have no other alternative, what do you do?

My ds1 is at home ill atm he had a D&V bug and the school want him kept at home for 48 hours after the last episode.

Fortunatly I am a SAHM so i do not need to worry about work. but it was totaly differant when i was working.

I agree in principle but alternative childcare arrangements are not always easy to make when you have a child unfriendly employer.
What should you do in this situation when you have no family local and all your friends work?
I think really this problem stems from bad employers rather than feckless parents.

The same for those employees who go to work when they should be at home. Many employers are intolerant of sick leave under any circumstances. In addition because of the current ecconomic circumstances a lot of organisations are running under staffed so people are scared to take time off and leave their co-workers shouldering the workoad in their absence.

At my last place of employment even if all staff were in we would often work 10+ hours unpaid overtime to get the work done. Someone phoning in sick usually meant that everyone was going to be working extra late that day. As a result all of us ending up working when we shouldn't be.

Nowt as fun as cleaning up puke (happens, don't begrudge that part), and the ensuing tidal wave of sympathy puke and green at the gils because they've got the idea from someone that there's sick going around... only to be told "oh I was sick at breakfast and mum made me come in anyway."

Then the bug flies around class, we all get it, the staff get it so they're off - the parents then complain because the teacher's off and a good vomity time was had by all.

The one that drives me wild with anger though (I know people have to work and all) is when kids are sent in white as a sheet, puking all morning, so you try to call a parent - to find they've intentionally switched their mobile off all day, so you've got a poor kid feeling like absolute shite and you can't get them any relief to go home and get some sleep. You work around it as best as you can - I've had plenty of times where I've had ill kids curled up asleep in the book corner or whatever - but it's not fair on anyone concerned there.

How lovely to be able to "make alternative arrangements" for your sick child. How do you do that, if your nearest relatives are an hour's drive away and they are too old to cope with your child even when he's well?

Amazing how few friends can be found who will take them on when they are ill.....let alone childminders or babysitters.

Your'e right, posters above,(can't remember or spell all your names!) it's down to bad employer practice that we all end up having a "lovely vomity time".....(I love that!)

BTW I have employers who have no children. Not, so I understand from friends, that I could expect much more sympathy from employers who had - after all, I suppose, there is work to be done [hsmile]

YANBU
I read the thread about the selfish PIL with D&V visiting their 7 week old grandchild with a sense of deja vu.

I'm a childminder and my DD was 6 weeks old when a parent sent a child who had been vomiting the night before (I only found out about it afterwards, of course! Her excuse was that she had a busy day on).
DD caught it and ended up in hospital. I'll never forget sitting next to the hospital cot, wondering if she was going to die.

YANBU
I worked in a nursery a few years ago. Mums and dads always send in sick kids. Have lost count of the number of colds, chest infections and vomiting bugs I picked up.

PARENTS KEEP YOUR SICK BRATZ ANGELS AT HOME. LETS KEEP EVERYONE ELSE HEALTHY

I never send DS in sick & haven't to school or nursery, I am SAHM and don't want to pass anything on to school or nursery staff, child can miss school but issue for staff to be off work. It must be v hard for working parents though, as others have said. Although keeping child off when actually sick doesn't stop spread of germs as think will prob be 'incubating' before actual sickness, unfortunately. My DS has poor immune system due to health prob, catches everything, as do I, fortunately his dad (who is the working parent) doesn't.