to wish my neighbour would SHUT UP about her son!

[CommonSenseSuze]

He is 7 months younger than DD (2 years, 4 months).

ALL she ever talks about is her DS. When my DD was born she took zero interest in her, even though I lent her books on her pregnancy and she chatted to me about her bump (it was all about her pregnancy). In fact, I don't think she even bothered to learn DD's name until her DS came along and she though DD would be a useful friend.

Every time I see her, she yacks on and on about DS and never bothers to ask anything about DD or, in fact, anything else at all. She's even started to text me in the evenings to let me know what DS has or hasn't eaten etc.

Today, she saw DD in full temper tantrum mode, and me obviously very stressed. DD has was also in a bad way a couple of nights ago, which involved an ambulance turning up. So, when the neighbour saw us, she just said that her DS was a bit poorly (oh, by the way, he's ALWAYS poorly!) and watched me struggle to walk down the road with a screaming toddler. She clearly wanted me to stop and hear about his latest chesty cough, and it really pissed me off!

This doesn't sound too bad, but I'm just so sick of it now. I'm not the only wrong to think this of her. In our local playgroup, it's been commented on before. Whatever's going on in people's lives, she'll go on and on and on about her sickly DS. She's always going on about how much hard work it is too, but she has her parents attention on demand.

Am I being unreasonable to wish she'd just SHUT UP about her son?!

She doesn't have obvious depression or worries at all! Theywillgrowup is absolutely right! She's self-centred.

It's ridiculous to say that someone who's self-obsessed is obviously depressed.

beer cant it just be that the women is self-centred

oh and i have mental health problems so do no a little about depression,dosent mean to say the womens just plain selfish

jeeeeez thats insulting to depressed people,do we all act like that then when depressed,i hope and dont think so

This 'holier than thou' attitude is a load of rubbish - Oh you're nasty because she's obviously mentally ill! What a meany, you are, OP!

Must be weird to live in a world where nobody's just a total pain in the backside.

It's not just in the context of playgroup, it's to my DH, visitors we've had (who aren't interested in anyone's children let alone hers) etc, etc. It's anyone who'll listen! We went out for a drink many months ago because I thought she might benefit from a change of scenery, so she bored the pregnant woman on the next table (who was on lemonade, by the way) all about her DS and the terrible labour she had. Very thoughtful.

beer now i get what your saying.lol

Yes, theywillgrowup, it is an insult to people suffering from depression! As I said on a previous post, I too know a few of the signs and this woman isn't depressed!

I've seen this ridiculous attitude on lots of threads on MN. It's all "Oh, but they clearly have mental health problems" or "How do you know they wear a shell suit every day, maybe all their Gucci was in the drycleaners" or "You're nasty to think that just because her DD was eating McDonalds that she doesn't live on organic wheatgrass mixed with wholegrain the rest of the time." etc, etc, etc.

op - i would really cut the friendship,for your sake and DD's things will only irritate you more as the kids get older,and my blood pressure cant take anymore,sorry meant your blood pressure

see im being self centred now.lol

BeerTrix, her DS is no more precious than anyone else's and her parents(as I still seem to be appearing jealous) in all honesty don't have the sort of income that I do - no I'm not showing-off, I wouldn't have mentioned it if I wasn't being accused of jealousy. I've said this twice - I have nothing to be jealous of.

I also have never slagged her off at a playgroup. This is why I'm asking here am I being unreasonable? It's a chance to explain without impact on or the influence of others who know her.

"Grow the fuck off"! Lol!

I meant "up"! Sorry, was laughing too much!

Thanks, BeerTrix.

Yep, I'll be taking the advice to cut off the friendship, politely. No harm done and my sanity restored (hopefully!) She can find someone else to bore until they can stand it no more! Thanks all! :)

Suze, she sounds very self-centred. What a twattish text she sent about people saying her son could be a model and him eating sweetcorn. Why the heck would someone want to send a text like that to people? If she's like that all the time no wonder she pees you off!

And in future I would just ignore her texts; she will get the message sooner or later.

Pushemeinthepool, that's what I've started doing actually. Unfortunately it's given her another reason to call me over "Oh, you didn't get my text about how much he hated having a bath". Oh yes I did, I just was busy bathing my own DD at the time!

Next time she does that when you're out, just look at her but don't reply when she starts going on and on. Don't nod or even acknowledge what she's saying. She sounds a nightmare

FFS really don't think you actually wanted to "find out if you were BU" - nothing would make you change your mind would it? You just wanted to bitch about her and have people agree with you.

Whether or not this woman is depressed (and how would you know? It's not like we have it tattooed on our foreheads) it is just plain nasty to start a whole thread hitching about somebody.

Hitching? Bitching obviously [hgrin] damn autocorrect!