My DH is great in many ways; he's is a lovely bloke and a fantastic dad, and I love him to pieces. However, in the house he is a different story and I am fed up with having to clean up after him.
He works full time and I'm a SAHM to our 3 children, so I'm happy to do the majority of housework, washing, cooking etc. What I do resent is having to constantly tidy up after him, and him thinking it's okay to just leave things lying around.
For example every night after a bath or shower he leaves his towel lying somewhere around the house, whether it's on the sofa, or on (usually my side of) our bed, or on the banister. And he never moves it. If I don't put it away he will then get a clean towel the following night and leave it lying around somewhere else. Another example is each evening he leaves half drunk glasses of beer or coke, empty cans and empty crisp and sweet packets in the living room. I have to then move them the next morning as our 14 month old DS gets hold of them.
He just doesn't seem to see that things need doing; if I don't load the dishwasher and clean the kitchen down after dinner each night then it stays like that until the morning. He will literally pile plates and cups and bowls up and up and up. He thinks he's been clever if he piles them all up so they fit on the worktop above the dishwasher. Another sore point is our dog; it's his dog, and I made it clear when we got her that I had more than enough people to clean up after and that she is his responsibility. Well guess who ends up cleaning up after her? Me! He would leave and leave and leave her bedding and never clean the floor around her bed. He literally thinks it's okay to just get home, do what you want and just sleep and live in mess. He will walk past piles of dry washing on the stairs and not take it up. If I ask him to take it up, he "forgets". Shoes and coats are left wherever he happens to be when he takes them off.
What annoys me too is that if he is looking after the children, he will just shut the living room door, sit in the chair watching sport and let DS trash the living room. He won't do a thing. He will get the kids lunch but won't wipe DS's highchair or tidy away the kids plates and cups, he just thinks he's done his bit by sitting in the house with the children, whilst of course if I'm home with them I'm constantly doing things to keep on top of the housework. Yesterday he was "watching" DS whilst I hoovered upstairs, and suddenly DH appeared in our room playing his guitar and he'd just left DS downstairs and said I could watch him while I hoovered and just pop down to check on him every couple of minutes.
I really am getting fed up with the lack of respect TBH; like I said, I am happy to do housework, but I resent having to clean up everything of his before I start doing any. I've done strikes before and they don't work, I really don't know what to do now. Last week I kept gathering up all his stuff and dumping it on his side of the bed, but all he did was get into bed, kick it off onto the floor, and leave it all everywhere again the next day!!