To be very annoyed

[leandro]

I invited my brother round for Sunday Lunch today and he didn't show up. I've tried ringing him and he hasn't answered his phone. I made a real effort as its usually just me and DD. DD adores him and she's devastated because she'd been looking forward to seeing him all week.

Hold off on the bollocking until you know why... Poor DD though :(

Dont be angry yet - he may have an explanation.

Well, wait and see what his reason is before you kick off. If it doesn't wash, then YANBU. If he's in A&E with an injury, then you need to cut him some slack.

I know I don't know his reasons but he is the closest thing DD has to a father and she genuinely adores him and she is really upset as this was going to be the highlight of her week. Suppose he's probably being a typical 19 year old.

Has he got a girlfriend?
Does he normally remember when he is invited places?
Maybe he finds being a father figure a bit much when he is a teenager?

Oh my god I find it worrying that your initial reaction is to be so annoyed.

Mine would be intense worry. Sorry .

Yes he has got a girlfriend.

I don't expect him to be a father to DD but he is a good male role model to her most of the time.

I said father figure.

I've not heard from him (he's not answering his phone) but thats probably because he knows he's in my bad books and is going to recieve a tongue lashing.

I think you need to reign it in a bit.

if my 19yo brother didnt turn up for dinner when he said he would and then didnt answer his phone, my initial feelings would be of worry and fear. not anger.

if he then said 'oh yea i was doing xyz and forgot to tell you' then i would be angry. but right now i would be going out of my head with worry

so sorry....chill till you know what happened love ..

teenagers tend to get side tracked...

Yeah guess I am overreacting but I'd put a lot of effort into dinner and DD was looking forward to it.

I dont think you are overreacting...yo put effort in...just see what happens...

i dont think you are over reacting (as the sister of an 18 and 20 year old boys, i would be really upset if they didnt turn up. but just wait and see what his excuse is first. he could be really ill or in trouble. again being the sister of 18 and 20 year olds i know what they can get up to, so just wait untill you've spoken to him untill you start getting really angry

Was it a firm, definite arrangement? 19 year lds are notorious for casual "maybe's"

Have you heard from him yet?

No but I haven't tried to contact him for a few hours as he clearly had better things to than spend time with his sister and his niece.

Not meaning to be harsh but at 19 it isn't surprising that he would find "better things to do", I doubt it's very interesting for most 19 year old teens. Plus you haven't even heard from him yet, have you checked with family to see if they've heard from him in case he's hurt??

Either this is a troll or you are one selfish and heartless person - what if you find out he has been in an accident and is lying in hospital or the morgue?

I'd hate to be your sibling.

YANBU if my brother didn't show up when I'd cooked him a meal I'd be pissed off and I'd make sure he knew it too.