To wish I could be a bit more self obsessed like some other Mums?

[ForMashGetSmash]

Since I had the DC's (6 and 2) I seem unable to take as much pleasure in myself as I used to. Yet I have friends with DC's who are always uploading new pics of themselves on Facebook and doing things such as going away for a weekend without the kids...and buying loads of clothes...new and different hairstyles.

They're the same people as they were before DC's...they must have a bloody huge interest in themselves judging by the amount of pics they put up...always single portraits of them posing before they go out for the night...or them and their mates all done up...these are grown women of 35 plus.

I don't have the space in my head for that much interest in my looks or my own pleasure...how come they do? I have work and mates who I meet for the odd coffee/playdate or rare meal or drink out....but nothing approaching the mad nights these other mates have...so AIBU to be a bit confused and jealous?

i am on FB too BUT i do hear some peeps in my not too exciting town who seem hell-bent on saying very loudly all the wonderful things they are up to on the week-end i often wonder if they are trying to convince themselves that their lives are still uber-exciting

hmmm mine isn't its damn boring but i think i am struggling to find myself after having DS

i like EvilTwins post about work i think my social life has always revolved around work life and now that i don't have that my social life has disappeared

I know showmewine! If I posted honestly about my day and included honest pictures it would be scary!
might just do it....for one day....Facebook honesty.

As I work alone and from home...the house and the DC's are my constant companions.

I don't think it's "wrong" Eviltwin...to post pics of yourself...I just could not imagine doing it myself for some reason....I suppose was trying to work out why with this post.

yeah me too i am going to post photos of the pile of washing, the ground in crumbs on the carpet, the smears of 'stuff' all over the windows that i am too lazy to wipe again, and i might take a photo of my huge bottom that seems to be taking over my body haha

i fantasise that i have another life in Spain living alone in a nice clean flat in Barcelona

If you're doing that showmewine then I am taking pics of me draped sexily across my pile of dirty washing...and smiling coyly beside the yogurt smears on the telly.

ForMash, do you want to do what your friends do? I personally cannot think of anything more tedious than getting drunk in costume and would pay good money to avoid.

Come away from facebook. If you don't have headspace, give yourself a break and choose a quieter form of relaxation. Your dcs won't be so young forever. It is much easier now my dcs are 7 and 4 - you will find your mojo coming back though maybe not enough to want to paint the town.

FB is about showing off isn't it? most, if not all of my 'friends' are people i haven't seen in years the rest are just nosey parker in laws haha

bit sad really!!!

glad i am not the only one that has yoghurt smears on the TV

i always look like a train wreck and if i am not going out i don't bother doing my hair what's the point?

Barcelona beckons

It sounds as though you have grown apart from these "friends".
Looking smart and having kids aren't incompatible though. Those of us who work have to manage it. You do need to prioritise yourself a bit though and not be a mummy martyr who can't spend 20 minutes in the bathroom alone without her kids. Having a bloke who pulls his weight (and letting him pull his weight) is helpful too.

Your children are still quite young though - give it another year or two and you will have more energy to bother with all this stuff I expect.

Yes Pinkpanettone...you're probably right. Some of my Old mates have babies though! bUT I expect they just deal with Motherhood and it's strains differently...they relax by going out while I relax by lying on the sofa in ragged leggings!

I may make some effort to pull myself together...I don't look a state but could probs do with a new hairdo..such a other finding a baby sitter though...I will MAKE my Mother do it...and might arrange a night out too...just as an experiment.

I don't mind my adult friends uploading photos of themselves, looking nice, or going n the lash, at least it's (fairly) interesting adult stuff.

The ones who update their statuses 25 times a day "Junior just did a shit!" "JUnior has apple all round his face,s ooooooo cute" "Junior and Mummy are going for a nap"
make me want to tear my arms off and eat them.

Sounds like they're enjoying themselves and you're having a pop, OP. What makes you the better person, sat at home, clicking through their FB accounts?