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Original poster

To let the MN Jury decide for me :o)

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TheLadyEvilStar · 14/10/2010 22:11

DP has asked to take me out on Saturday evening just the 2 of us for the first time in..well since I fell pg with DS2 who is now 3yrs old.

Mum is going to babysit.

The 2 choices are

awards ceremony with free food and drink (works do)

or a meal just he and I and a couple of drinks.

So I have a dilemma, I don't want to make the wrong decision.
I really want to go but am worried whether he would leave me standing alone at the awards do - which if i am honest he won't.
And if we go for a meal the evening will be over much sooner than I will want it to.

So which would YOU the jury pick?

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poorbuthappy · 14/10/2010 22:13

free food and drink would do it for me every time...but then I'm very skint at the moment!

GypsyMoth · 14/10/2010 22:13

awards thingy!

bigchris · 14/10/2010 22:14

Free food and drink

amothersplaceisinthewrong · 14/10/2010 22:15

If this is really your first evening out alone with your DH in three years, then definitely the meal. Go for a drink or two first and eat later to extend the evening.

FrightNightScreamTight · 14/10/2010 22:16

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onceamai · 14/10/2010 22:16

Do the free awards ceremony thing. If leaving the dc works out OK and if your mum's up for it, you can put aside the money for the dinner for 2 and do that in a couple of weeks. Two outings for the price of one.

enjoy your break.

ChippingIn · 14/10/2010 22:16

Dinner & drinks out -just the two of us... much nicer IMO.

It doesn't need to end any sooner than an awards ceremony would (sounds hugely boring to me!). Frankly, I'd rather have fish & chips in a carpark than go to an awards ceremony for work!!

Original poster
TheLadyEvilStar · 14/10/2010 22:18

Poor,we are also quite skint atm.

Yes it is the very first evening out without the children in well the best part of 4yrs.

I want to do both lol thing is DP has only a few mates as he is not brill at socialising, where as I am the total opposite. So I feel I owe it to him to go to the awards especially as he drives me anywhere I want to go,and is a great guy.

But I also want him all to myself as well iyswim?

He is due to get an award as well.

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GiganGORE · 14/10/2010 22:19

I would do the awards ceremony.
if you don't get to go out much then it will mean a nice glitzy affair where you can get dressed up and make a real effort.

plus you can share the company of other adults as well as DH.

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TheLadyEvilStar · 14/10/2010 22:20

I told him I was letting the MN Jury decide for me - he pulled a face like this Hmm and said "ok let me know in the morning"

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onceamai · 14/10/2010 22:20

Well if he doesn't like socialising and if he's getting an award then you have to go to that and support him through it. Do the dinner for 2 soon though. Good Luck.

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TheLadyEvilStar · 14/10/2010 22:22

Once, ohhh this is like going on a first date I am all jittery

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cumfy · 14/10/2010 22:25

He is due to get an award as well.

I sniff stealth! :o

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TheLadyEvilStar · 14/10/2010 22:28

Sorry I didn't know when I posted 1st message Grin.

He actually has said he is happy to go where ever I want to go. The decision is all YOURS mine.

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ChippingIn · 14/10/2010 22:30

Why is it an either/or?

Events do (yawn) to be supportive if he's getting an award (you get the award for by stealth!!! Grin, the dinner out next Saturday - I'm sure you can bribe encourage your Mum to have DS both nights.

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TheLadyEvilStar · 14/10/2010 22:33

Chippin, because of the hours he works, I am normally stressed up to the moon and back, Mum is looking after DS1 so I can have a break or I am out with friends....oh I actually don't know why we don't go out more often except I have never wanted to leave DS2 Blush

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cakewench · 14/10/2010 22:35

ooh are we really deciding for you? :o I say go to the awards ceremony. It'll be a longer evening, as you say, and I guess it's the one I would pick if I were in the same situation. :)

ChippingIn · 14/10/2010 22:37

See - there's no reason not to do both!! Grin

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TheLadyEvilStar · 14/10/2010 22:39

Cake yes MN Jury are really deciding for me.

Chippin - always the voice of reason Grin

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ratspeaker · 14/10/2010 22:41

How about you go to the awards do
then finish of by going for a drink just the two of you?

hairymelons · 14/10/2010 22:42

If you are skint, go for the free food & booze so the bill isn't a stress.

krldt0710 · 14/10/2010 22:44

Could you not do the awards thingy and maybe watch a film afterwards (or before dependant on timings I suppose)? Then you get the best of both in a way and cinema would (hopefully) be cheaper than a meal and drinks. But you would still be able to spend time together without the kids.

Meow75 · 14/10/2010 22:47

Agree with hairy melons.

Save your money for the nice meal when there's a much quieter weekend, but make sure you do it before the end of November, as an example.

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TheLadyEvilStar · 14/10/2010 22:49

Grin Thanks ladies!!!

I knew I could rely on you.

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DiscoSquishedBrains · 14/10/2010 22:50

Oh no I agree with krldt, go and see a film and then go for dinner, and make it last as long as you wish. Or the awards thingy, but I think I would want DP all to myself.

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