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to not do the whole "sisters" stuff

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2bloodyshoes · 12/10/2010 12:58

you know when women refer to other woman as sisters(not the biological family ones)
as in sisters should stick together.

never got it or done it.

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deathjeff · 12/10/2010 14:51

LetThereBeRock...

Very succinct - couldn't have put it better myself!

2bloodyshoes · 12/10/2010 15:25

glad it isn't just me. Oh and the CB cuts affect men too.

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LilMsUnfortunateAxeIncident · 12/10/2010 16:27

Letthereberock, sure but the term in debate is sisterhood, it is the unison of females for the betterment of one or all. We as human beings have a duty and responsibility to help all those that need it, but the subject at discussion here is women and sisterhood.

Women CAN be god awful, as I have learned time and time again at the hands of bullying female bosses. Incidentally, I've had many male bosses and never been bullied.

Men help other men get up the ladder, they say it was tough for me mate, I'll share the experience I had and we'll all succeed.

Women bosses IME say it was hard for me, so why the heck should YOU have it any easier. Women often have to work twice as hard at anything they do to receive any recognition, and can be highly suspicious, often with good reason, as to motives.

Women however can be compassionate, caring and supportive, in ways that men just can't be as easily. If the term sisterhood means that we choose to feel more empathy to our fellow female, and then in turn to humanity, then it's got to be a good thing.

We need to at least try to be nice to everyone, then perhaps people would be nice to others. We have to start somewhere.

ScaryFucker · 12/10/2010 16:34

Is there something wrong with being a "woman's woman" then ?

LilMsUnfortunateAxeIncident · 12/10/2010 16:35

Mind you, the term that I heard that really does make my teeth itch is BRO-MANCE the close friendship between hetero men....

Fimbo · 12/10/2010 16:40

I don't tell my friends I love them or do that false kissing thing on the cheeks either.

TheProfiteroleThief · 12/10/2010 16:44

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deathjeff · 12/10/2010 16:46

Think I'll just agree to disagree here Grin
I think Bro-mance is quite funny, as sometimes it is like they are dating rather than just being friends- very eager to impress each other.

Nothing wrong with being a woman's woman in the same way that being a man's man is not a problem per se. But I would object to DH or I being labelled as either as I think they are derogatory.

I think a more balanced approach is best for all parties concerned and not just a stereotyping of male and female characteristic traits and choosing who to side with based on this.

ScaryFucker · 12/10/2010 16:47

a "woman's woman" is derogatory ?

how ?

huddspur · 12/10/2010 16:49

YANBU I find it cringeworthy when I hear people talking about the supposed sisterhood.

deathjeff · 12/10/2010 16:52

IMO...and it is only MY opinion so if you don't agree it's ok...

I think that to refer to somebody as a woman's woman is derogatory because it insinuates that they cannot coexist easily with the opposite sex, or choose not to. It doesn't come across as a positive trait.

If I worked with somebody who freely identified themselves as a 'woman's woman' or a 'man's man' I would question their ability to work with people at large and assume that there would be gender based favouritism with regards to their colleagues.

Thus, I could not consider them for promotions as they are biased.

IYSWIM

StewieGriffinsMom · 12/10/2010 16:55

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Bue · 12/10/2010 16:56

I like the concept of "the sisterhood" - if only women would stop beating each other up and tearing each other down all the time.

However it's super weird, not to mention very confusing, to introduce your friend to someone as your sister.

2bloodyshoes · 12/10/2010 17:12

but shouldn't we be like that to men too, shy does it have to be a woman thing iynwim.

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ScaryFucker · 12/10/2010 17:18

bloody hell, dj, take a trophy for most pompous post of the day !

I describe myself as a woman's woman in that I like, encourage and put a lot of effort into female friendships

it has zero to do with "getting ahead" and there is no agenda involved at all

what a strange perception you have

btw, I am very well-promoted at work and find that working in a female-friendly atmosphere is most conducive to harmony and productivity

ScaryFucker · 12/10/2010 17:21

I think promoting the "sisterhood" (and it's negative connotations, as described by SGM) and being a "woman's woman" is two different things actually

StewieGriffinsMom · 12/10/2010 17:26

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StewieGriffinsMom · 12/10/2010 17:27

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sixpercenttruejedi · 12/10/2010 17:27

I agree with DaftPunk Shock
and Scaryfucker and lilmiss (but that isn't so shocking)

PosieComeHereMyPreciousParker · 12/10/2010 17:29

~Don't black women and Muslim use this? I do find it quite exclusive though, which I find prejudiced.

PosieComeHereMyPreciousParker · 12/10/2010 17:30

SGM....I have messaged you, you can like me for who I am or my genital accessories, I don't mind!!Wink

ScaryFucker · 12/10/2010 17:31

loving the name, PP Grin

ScaryFucker · 12/10/2010 17:32

I love deathjeff's name too

in the interests of not favouring one over another Grin

PosieComeHereMyPreciousParker · 12/10/2010 17:34

SF are you coming to London with da sisterhood?

ScaryFucker · 12/10/2010 17:35

no, London too far for me Sad