to be upset at being called ugly by 7 year olds?

[uglymum]

DD told me at bedtime that her friends all thought I was ugly because I'm not blond and don't wear make-up. I know I shouldn't be, but I'm definitely a bit about this. Is this really how 7 year olds perceive people?

Yep. They want you to look like Hannah Montana.

Soz.

Yup, I'm not blonde and don't wear makeup and am probably a decade or so older than you.
I must get judged by parents and some pupils frequently, but it doesn't bother me as I value interior more than exterior.
People are often very shallow.

hehe im not blonde and dont wear make up either! Can I join the ugly club?

yes, i'm sure it is. i remember wanting to be adopted by my friend's mum because she did sunbeds, had blonde highlights and worked at Next. so cool...

DSD laughed watching X factor - apparently 'the fat one' was funny We had a long talk about looks v personality traits. DC's are being bombarded by images more than ever & they are being encouraged to focus on appearance by their mothers in a way that never used to happen. Pamper parties, etc.

YANBU for being upset - it's hurtful to be mocked for your appearance. Especially if it's about something you have a sensitivity over.

See, I'd discount Jajas as a shallow airhead who reads OK magazine. We all form our opinions, just most of us wouldn't say them out loud in RL

Oh for gawds sake. 7yr olds know NOTHING. Ignore them.

Oh dear. You'll have to tell your DD that you think all her friends are bionic turds on three legs.

That's what my Dad told me to tell kids who called me nasty names at school, it's surprisingly effective.

My dc told me that I didn't look old, just worn.

Tell everyone you're her gran, they'll all think you're fab for your age.

I think your DD needs some different friends to even things up a bit- preferably tomboy ones with scuffed knees who like to hang upside down out of trees. They are however only 7, and sounds like they all want you to look like Barbie. Which is probably allowable at 7. I'm sure you will be a far more positive role model to your DD long term than Barbie ever could, that fake plastic beeatch.

Hahaha Grumpla, I'll try that when I'm back from the hairdressers and suntan place! I just feel sorry for DD having such an uncool mum!!!! Or am I too cool for them to appreciate???

No, YANBU. Doesn't matter how old we are, things like that can hurt! 7 year old girls can be horrid.

You could do 1 of 2 things. Tell them that you and all the other mummies think that they are also really ugly and that you can tell that they will grow up to be really ugly ladies, secure in the knowledge that you will scar them for life with this, or you can do the mature, decent (but infinitely less satisfying) thing of brushing your hair, possibly getting some highlights, and sticking on some lippy.

;Are you like Aunt Sally from Worzel Gummidge?'

From what I remember, she wore full slap with serious rouge and mascara.

just ignore what they say, i agree with pinkiemix they all watch stuff on tv n magazines where evryone is perfect, and they all dress too old for there ages, its nice to hear mums like you pinkieminx that actually take ther time to teach ther children right from been mean, its parents fault letting 7yrolds dress/wear make up,etc like they are 16yrs old, then they get the atitude with it, bitchness at 7 yrs old not looking forward to my daughter reaching tht age thought didnt have that till her teens,lol least ill teach her theres more to life than looks

Aitch lol
I remember being that age and wishing my mother looked like my friends very sweet mum - bottle blonde, lashings of blue eye shadow and very glam job - Avon lady!

Unless you look like Victoria Beckham, Katie Price, or Cheryl Cole you are ugly, or are stick thin with loadsa make up. That's me I am afriad I must be one ugly mamma. Don't worry about it, children can be really cutting, they dont have much social graces at that age. I remember at that age, my niece who was 7 at the time made a really cutting remark about my eczema, now she is a lovely 22 year old. These kids have a lot to learn.

Shame a lot of them aren't being taught very well - some of the comments on here show how appearance orienatated a society we are becoming.

Jings, I'd be upset at being called ugly. Was that their word, ugly?

Children can be very influenced by appearance unfortunately. I must admit, I've tried to glam up a bit since dd1 (then 13ish)let slip some teeny remarks that made me think that not only does she notice but her friends notice too. I don't mind. I'm not trying to be shallow

You're right Elle, I'm just shocked at how young they all are to have that attitude, and it does make me worry about the pressure DD will be under...

i was recently told by my 5 year old dd that i was as old enough to be in museum and as fat as a hippopotamus, i am 43 and a size 12. We had a good laugh about it and remembered when my older dd who is now 13 asked me why i wasn't like her friends mum who was blond and had a proper job, i am a childminder. children say what they think immediately and don't think about others feelings a lot of the time.

Pointy, yes 'ugly' was the word. DD said she thought I'm beautiful of course - but it must have hurt her for her to have mentioned it. She is a sensitive little thing, but I just can't believe how hacked off I am to be judged by a bunch of 7 year olds.
Oh well - lippy for me tomorrow then!

I've been asked, by an 8 year old boy, why I have a moustache and I didn't think I had one . Another (only 7) asked me what 'that thing' was growing out of my chin. I explained it was a mole and he laughed at me and told me not to be ridiculous. Of course it wasn't a mole. I explained it was a different kind of mole and he said, if I were you, I'd get that thing removed!

In their defences, they are both on the autistic spectrum. And they were both just being honest.

I do, however, now feel like the wicked witch of the west. I could probably save the cast of Wicked a fortune on stage make up though .

In all seriousness, some kids are more style conscious than others. One of my dd's friends has a younger sibling, age around 6, who is struggling with a 'friend' who keeps telling her her mum is fat and ugly. It's starting to cause problems at school and is (hopefully) being addressed by the teachers, but I was quite shocked at that.

It's sad...but some kids feel the need to point out flaws in others.

please don't be pressured (fellow)uglymum... being friendly smiley mum is surely better than covered-in-various-colours mum. And those little girls want a role model, surely.