to be upset at being called ugly by 7 year olds?

[uglymum]

DD told me at bedtime that her friends all thought I was ugly because I'm not blond and don't wear make-up. I know I shouldn't be, but I'm definitely a bit about this. Is this really how 7 year olds perceive people?

Although if the girls were trying to be unplesant, then two of the favourite insults would be fat and ugly, regardless of your appearance. And to insult someone's mother is the most serious sort of insult.

Try to ignore that. Just mindless insults.

hahaha.. my DD told me one of her 'friends' and I use the term loosely said I look pregnant!!!..I would'nt mind but her mum is as big as a house..ignore ignore ignore!!

A 7 yo recently called me pretty because I had one of DD's butterfly clips in my hair.

The clips are not pretty.

I did not look pretty in the clips.

7 year olds know diddly squat about aesthetics.

I'm not blonde, I don't wear make up, I dress for comfort rather than fashion and am built that way as well - but apparantly I am the coolest mum of all her friends - according to one of her friends.

Some day they will realise that beauty goes beyond the facade and then they will appreciate you!

lol heathcliff

I remember being told my mum didn't look like a 'proper mum' in the eighties. She was is a hippy so didn't have a shell suit or perm. At the time I felt very sad. Now I'm glad.

on the other hand...I was also told I looked was very pretty and I have nice hair

I always make the witches in my stories beautiful on the outside but horrible on the inside.
Payback?

Aw.That's very upsetting.

I haven't read the whole thread as I don't have time but I hope your DD was upset that they said that?

What a load of crap!
Pay no heed,op!

However, I will say that these children who pass comment are horrid & very misguided & you should actually feel quite sorry for them.
They have obviously learned this behaviour somewhere, where, is the question?

Mmm, our children are all subjected to the same influences, but mine do not act this. (disclaimer: maybe they do but, I doubt it & would be livid if they did!)

Please don't worry about it!
I'm sure it isn't personal.

I like Goblin's thing about the whitchy scenario!

YANBU to be upset. I would be concerned that they said it to hurt your DD to be honest. Make sure that she gets an extra cuddle and knows that you don't take it on. I agree with everyone who said that 7 year olds are not the best judge of beauty. They would bedazzle you and leave you for dead.

A1980, that's harsh! You hope OP's dd was upset!

I have a weird looking face, I dress like some bizarre punk / hippy hybrid and I have very short hair.

I think my dd will be disowning me by the time she's seven.

Unless you are tiny enough to be almost child size / or dress like a children's television presenter (thing 'Hi5') or are the image of Hannah Montana and / or a Bratz Doll, you will fall into the 'ugly' catergory in some children's eyes.

It bugs the hell out of me that 'pretty' is caucasian with blonde hair and blue eyes. I used to really resent all the princesses in stories with their long flowing blonde hair and sparkling blue eyes, as I have dark brown eyes and brown / chestnut hair.

yanbu
but don't take what 7 yr old say seriously

I remember dd saying she wished I was like Dexter's mum , who dressed like a porn star , actually I think she was one.
She used to pick him up in skin tight black leather , false tits liek jordan etc.
That was about 10 yrs ago and I've seen Dexters mum now and she's given up that job and looks normal now, dd and I lol everytime we see her.

Remember this,op, beauty is a blip of nature!
We cannot control how we look.

Btw-I'm sure your lovely!

Girls of 7 years of age know feck all.

Nemo- I understand where your coming from!

I am dark-haired,sallow-skinned with Chinese & Spanish heritage mixed with Scottish.
Always felt a bit side-lined until l was in 6th year school. Then it was hilarious the amount of attention I got from the boys that 2 years earlier slagged & bullied my looks.

I promptly told them all to bugger off!

Anyway, getting back to op, forget it. Kids are little fools sometimes.

Brush it off & move on.

Nemofish, that wasn't meant to be harsh?! What I really meant was I hope she didn't agree with them.

Very mean of them to say that to your dd, I wonder how the conversation unfolded?
Wear a Cinderella gown and pull up in a glass carriage next time you pick her up!

Once my son advised me,age 6ish, out of the blue, that I should put on some lipstick, and I quote "To show your beauty". I did put lipstick on picking him up after that. Sometimes.

I also remember telling him and his bf when they were about 7, about Stevie Wonder, and how he never had seen his beautiful wife, and ds's little friend immediately piped up how his mum was very beautiful. He said a bunch of things about her beauty,(which of course I agreed with to him). His mum is a beautiful dark haired woman, and when I told her (of course I had to tell her this) she was flabbergasted! She even got pink cheeks when I told her.

My little brother thought a neighbor was very fab, in her fake leopard fur coat, blue eyeshadow and reeking of cheap scent. They are dazzled by packaging and commercialism.

I wouldn't worry, my dd (5) has very interesting ideas about what is good looking and what isn't. She seems to think her best friend is "beautiful" although she doesn't thin the same of herself, when her friend is lovely, but fairly ordinary looking (as is my dd).

She constantly asks me why I want to marry my dp as he is not handsome (snigger), yet she thinks her daddy (my exh) is "very handsome", when tbh, he is SO not.

I think children have always been very open about what they think of people, in most cases it's not because they are mean, but they relate to fairytales and Disney and aren't old enough to realise that the world isn't actually like that.

Oh, just be poker faced and say "ok, I'll go blond, wear make up, beat you with a stick and not cook food for you ever again, would you prefer that?"
It will be a good lesson in what people are is bettter than what they look like.

A1980, I know, but it made me chuckle!

little fuckers!!! maybe invest in some tinted moisturiser and lace their cakes at dds next b day bash, kids are evil