To think that if I am invited to Sunday lunch, I shouldn't have to...

[SheWillBeLoved]

Bring enough meat (pork was the meat of choice this week) to feed 5 adults and 4 kids?

Is this normal?

I'm still in touch with ex MIL/SIL for DD's benefit, we are visiting them today as they called yesterday to invite us to Sunday lunch as they sometimes do. I got a call an hour saying "Oh btw, can you bring some pork with you?"...

It's happened a few times now, short notice, "Can you bring some chicken with you?" - cue me dashing about like a madwoman to get to Asda before it closes at 4pm to get meat and then get to them 20 miles away.

Part of me thinks IABU but most of me thinks that it's fecking rude to invite someone to lunch, and then basically tell them to bring enough meat for every one.

Very rude. Do the same thing back to them.

Tempted! But the thought of their brood running riot here fills me with dread, at least if I go there I can leave whenever I want to

That's really bizarre. I suppose you should be flattered they feel close enough to you to be able to ask - is it all part of the relaxed extended family thing for them, do you think?

meat? No that's odd. Picking up a carton of cream or bringing a pudding or something is fine. But the joint is surely something you would arrange to have in the house when you invite someone for lunch?
Take four packets of sausages and say "oh, I thought it was for something else, I couldn't imagine you wouldn't have anything for lunch. The lunch you invited us to"

weird. And then you have to wait for it to cook, one presumes?

I think it's rude. Maybe if they had asked when they invited you it would be slightly less rude!

Hassled - I don't know, they are pretty relaxed in that way, but it just seems so odd to me for a guest to have to bring the meat to feed everyone!

Tippychoocks I can just picture their face now, and I'd do it... but I don't fancy eating a sausage roast, which they would serve up.

Next time you get invited don't answer the phone that morning, don't reply to texts, just pitch up at designated time with a nice bunch of flowers. Should prove the point.

Habbibu - I tend to head straight for the deli counter and get a freshly roasted chicken x 2 and take that as they ask at such short notice. I can't be arsed waiting til 7pm to be fed

Very rude. Apart from anything else, I'd normally expect dinner to be in the oven by the time I arrived not sitting in the shopping bag I'm handing over.

If I get invited to friends for lunch i usually take wine, chocolate or flowers not the Sunday joint. I don't mind a call along the lines of "DD's just spilt the milk if you get a chance can you pick up a couple of pints along the way" but a demand for a joint for 9 would leave me seething

"Hello SheWillBeLoved, want to come to lunch on sunday?"
"No sorry I can't afford it"

???

or "Yeah great, we've turned veggie, will nut roast be ok?"

OR "Tell you what, you come to ours, pick up a chicken on the way", and when they arrive, be out.

call back and say I'm sorry I brought the meat last time, tell you what I'll bring a pudding shall I? then nip and get a cake

But if they asked for pork, do they expect you to bring roast pork? It's crazy.

They wanted a pork shoulder, to cook when I get there, which won't be til after 4pm, am I shite sitting about waiting for that when I have to be back home for 7 for DD. I told them that, and that I'd bring some chickens when they put me on the spot. I should be used to t really, you think I'd have an excuse not to bring it at the ready.

Maybe it's just normal for them, but for me, asking my guest to spend £10+ on meat on their way for Sunday lunch when they were invited by me is just odd.

Very rude. Seems like they haven't been arsed themselves to get to the shops so ask you over so you can bring their lunch for them!!

Next time they try it, say sorry, you have no money to pay for it - if they haven't enough food then you'll have to decline the invitation.

Bloody hell. That is rude in so many ways. Tell them you've lost your purse. every week.

they don't even pay you back?

I think I will decline next time. Whats worse is that they live 10 minutes from Asda, and have a car. I live 20 minutes from Asda, and don't drive.

[muggins]

And no, never once been paid back.

Then just tell them no.

They are taking you for a mug, frankly.

Very, very strange.

I think that they sort of feel like it's the least I should do as they are cooking the undercooked veg and drowned in garlic salt potatoes. They are quite selfish in the sense that they'll never give unless they receive too.

Is it just you & your daughter going?

2 isn´t that many extra is it and I think that they should be incorporating you in tbh.

Bit different if there were four of you visiting a pensioner for example.

And if they can´t afford to feed you surely they can ask you to visit at a time that doesn´t involve a meal?

They are taking the proverbial imo.

You're not really being invited to lunch if you're supplying it.

They are taking the piss out of you.