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Does anyone feel they don't need anything else?

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dilemma456 · 08/10/2010 22:03

DP still hasn't got me my birthday present because I've got no idea what I want and there is nothing I need.

I've hit my mid thirties and for the first time in my life feel truely as if I've got all I could want - a lovely dp and dd, enough food, a home, a kitten, various bits of technology (tv, laptop, dvd player etc.) a full fridge freezer, half a dozen bottles of wine, furniture, clothes etc. etc.

Does anyone else feel like this? I have no make up and very little jewelry but I'm just not really that sort of person.

Anyone else feel they've basically got enough. DP's said if I don't tell him hat I want hell put the money aside for premium bonds

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dilemma456 · 08/10/2010 22:04

Sorry wrong board really meant for chat

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CaptainNancy · 08/10/2010 22:09

Ooh- YABU... or maybe not Grin

BuntyPenfold · 08/10/2010 22:12

Have you got Heelies though?
Or a puppy?
Come on, there must be something.

Serendippy · 08/10/2010 22:14

My problem is the things I want or need are too expensive to buy myself, already have all the little things I want, but don't feel comfortable asking for money. Really want money though Grin

TheProfiteroleThief · 08/10/2010 22:15

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Mibby · 08/10/2010 22:15

Do you want to DO anything?

Not a pressie in a box type thing but tickets for an event/ show/ health spa/ massage etc?

We both decided we have enough stuff but tickets to do things are always nice

ninedragons · 08/10/2010 22:16

I do - my godmother gave me a voucher for a department store last Christmas and I am still carrying it around in my wallet as I cannot think of one single thing we need or want. Apart from a house with a garden, and there's no gift voucher for those, sadly.

duchesse · 08/10/2010 22:22

I've felt like that for years. I actually don't like getting presents any more- they're just so much clutter to me. I haven't had a present I truly liked that I hadn't chosen myself for years either.

ninedragons · 08/10/2010 22:45

Very true - I was delighted when the person who drew my name in the office Secret Santa last year bought me chocolates.

All gone by new year, no clutter added to the house.

blueshoes · 08/10/2010 23:00

I don't need anything for myself. Always struggled when dh asks me what I want.

Dh quite good at buying me clothes funnily. He picks stuff I never would and it can look quite good. I don't need them though.

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dilemma456 · 08/10/2010 23:01

Have to say a couple of nights away would be appreciated (with no cooking or cleaning)

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mrsunreasonable · 09/10/2010 06:13

Then don't get anything. Me and OH don't buy anything for each others birthdays just a card and only a token £5 gift for Christmas. We don't have everything we want but the things we want we can't afford so why waste money on something just for the sake of it. Spending a nice day together and doing the others chores for them is just as nice as getting a present.

Ineedmorechocolatenow · 09/10/2010 06:29

How about money for a Spa break with a friend....

marenmj · 09/10/2010 07:05

I feel that way when I've suddenly got a bit of money to spend, despite my wishlists being miles long. Somehow when it comes to actually buying something off them it never seems worth it.

Suspect that will change soon though as we are buying a house imminently and the last time I bought a 'wardrobe' was 2001 and as such some of my favourite pieces are wearing through.

Of course, that's no help with presents as I am a firm believer that presents should never be something practical (nor should I be using "my" present for something for the home that DH and I share, unless perhaps it's for my exclusive corner of it)

Was asked by my father what I want for Christmas and even with a house purchase looming and an impending baby I couldn't think of one thing.

MrsC2010 · 09/10/2010 07:20

YANBU. So this year I will be getting replacement Uggs for dog walking as mine are full of holes, money for baby DDs swimming lessons and that's about it! Love my life.

DemonChild · 09/10/2010 07:23

Books! I always ask for books, and if you don't want them cluttering up your house you could ebay them afterwards (not that I could ever do that!)

CakeCuresAll · 09/10/2010 07:30

It's my birthday soon and I'm already dreading 'what do you want' questions.

The only hobbies I have are crafty and hard to buy for. I'm on a diet so Chocolates are out.... As are clothes because I'm refusing to buy things until I've dropped a dress size.... I'm moving so want no more clutter to have to pack. The only thing I need is new curtains for the new house but since I don't have one yet I don't know what size they will be!

Think I might just get an amazon list on the go and point people there - books are always welcome here (but not sure I can pack anymore...)

OrmRenewed · 09/10/2010 07:31

Yes.

Get him to take you out for a lovely meal instead. Or flowers? I love getting flowers.

Do you have a garden? Plants? My christmas list is entirely made up of plants that I want.

CakeCuresAll · 09/10/2010 07:31

It's my birthday soon and I'm already dreading 'what do you want' questions.

The only hobbies I have are crafty and hard to buy for. I'm on a diet so Chocolates are out.... As are clothes because I'm refusing to buy things until I've dropped a dress size.... I'm moving so want no more clutter to have to pack. The only thing I need is new curtains for the new house but since I don't have one yet I don't know what size they will be!

Think I might just get an amazon list on the go and point people there - books are always welcome here (but not sure I can pack anymore...)

CakeCuresAll · 09/10/2010 07:31

It's my birthday soon and I'm already dreading 'what do you want' questions.

The only hobbies I have are crafty and hard to buy for. I'm on a diet so Chocolates are out.... As are clothes because I'm refusing to buy things until I've dropped a dress size.... I'm moving so want no more clutter to have to pack. The only thing I need is new curtains for the new house but since I don't have one yet I don't know what size they will be!

Think I might just get an amazon list on the go and point people there - books are always welcome here (but not sure I can pack anymore...)

proudnglad · 09/10/2010 07:36

I feel very blessed too (to use a hideous Americanism.)

In the last few years we have become very comfortable financially, which we've both worked v hard for (we don't come from wealthy families).

I had been coveting some rocks for my 40th. I was thrilled when I got some but I kind of looked at them, and thought I do NOT want or need anything else for Christmasses or birthdays from now on.

So I made it a rule that the kids always donate to a children's charity for any presents for me (I'd actually been saying that ad hoc for years, but now it's a concrete rule).

ps the only thing we could do with is a new car - I have just scraped our battered old VW for the 4th time!

onmyfeet · 09/10/2010 07:38

Maybe he can think of an experience for you? Could be a class for something? Dance, art, ski, specialized cooking or anything you are into. Or he could whisk you away somewhere nice.

I would like a professional organizer to come sort out my house. If you can't think of anything for yourself, maybe ask him to give me that as a charity gift in your name. Grin

Bonsoir · 09/10/2010 07:39

A weekend away in Antwerp/Brussels/Amesterdam/Paris (all very easy to get to on Eurostar/Thalys)?

You can always expand your cultural horizons - and you always should, if you have the opportunity to do so!

trumpton · 09/10/2010 07:46

My birthday is on Christmas day and it's getting more and more difficult. This year I have suggested a silver clay workshop day and a manicure with hand massage. Also have got a Hush nightie on one side for MIL to give to me. Nowt else really.

Oh and please Father Christmas ,If you love me at all,
Please may I have a good night's sleep.

Bloodymary · 09/10/2010 08:28

Perfume (a nice expensive one)!

Theatre tickets

A nice meal out

A bottle of champagne

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