pissed off with step nieces slagging off my db on facebook

[alfiethekittycat]

Sorry this is long as wanna get everything in my post so not to miss anything out,

Had a call out of the blue last week from my sis in law, She was very upset, said her dd 17 had found an email to my bro from facebook referring to another woman and was convinced he was having an affair,

She was very upset and asked what I thought, I told her that I didnt think he would cheat on her as he is a family man and wouldnt do that and couldn't see him having the time even if he wanted to, he works all the time, (nights) and comes to mine or my mums most days as he works so far from home it isnt worth him going home till his day off.

even before she had spoken to my db both my step niece's who my db has brought up as his own for the last 18 years (they have a son together who is 16) the girls are 17 and 19, she was pregnant with dn no 2 when they got together had posted a facebook status calling him a ct and a Wr and that they hated him without knowing any facts,

I called my sis in law back and asked her to tell them to delete their status's at least until she and my db had spoken which they did but was too late as too many people had seen them and was asking questions.

Sis in law asked if she could call me the next day after she had spoken to db, she didnt bother so I was worrying all day,

Turns out he had an email from facebook saying some woman had looked at his profile, didnt know they did that but it was all over nothing, they are all happy, happy again and i am flippin pissed off with my sn's and my sis in law for making something out of nothing,

More pissed off with sn's about what they said about my db as he works all the hours god sends for them.

You seem to be railing against nothing
I really dont understand your point.
Yes its really, really crap that they would post what they did before anyone knew anything...what else do you want people to say?
Are you hoping someone posts that your neices were justified in doing what they did so that you can have a big barny and divert your anger to someone else? I dont think anyone's going to say that.
Its all a bit pointles, you said you're not looking for anything to happen - so its over then, isnt it?
It certainly seems to be for your brother and his family.

thast is exactly what I have done, I have seen my bro since this week and didnt mention anything, he brought it up as sis in law told him she had phoned my older sis,

It is sorted as far as they are concernd, I am happy that it was all a misunderstanding but I am still upset with my step nieces for the way they spoke about him,

I may be bu but he did nothing wrong, they shouldnt have posted that on fb for their 1000 odd friends to see,

how would you feel if one of your kids did that when you had done nothing wrong?

I am just asking if i am bu in being still upset with my step nieces,

NOBODY THINKS WHAT THEY POSTED WAS OK!!

...ok?

They aren't your kids though ..your brother and sil are over it..maybe you should get over it too

You are not being unreasonable - but you may be wasting your energy in continuing to give it any headspace.
They have all moved on.

I think yabu ..yes

Has it not occurred to you that perhaps he did do something wrong but that as a couple/family they have decided that it is no one elses business.

You seem abnormally keen to be over involved in your brothers life, he's over it you need to be.

Also I have to ask do you always refer to them as your step neices? Does your brother refer to them as his step children? He has raised one since she was an infant and the other since birth, surely they are simply your neices??

{grin}

here have a glass of wine and chill

Yabu. Sheesh, so two teenagers are upset when they think their dad has cheated on their mum and do something silly by mentioning it on Facebook.
People do things without thinking them through properly sometimes when upset, or when they are teenagers!
You ought to be able to put this behind you now.

I do not a always refer to them as my step nieces, They are as much my nieces as are my sisters girls or my nephews, although they are girls,

If anything it is them who do not see my bothers family as their real family, It has never been an issue for any of my family,none of us have ever felt any differently to them,
They used to come and stay with me very often when they were younger as my dd is the same age the youunger niece and my son a few years younger than my nephew,

They always call us by our first names and never called us their aunts, or my mum their nan,

I love them and am just upset at the names they called my brother, not to each other but for the whole world to comment on, He doesnt know about the fb stuff and I would never tell him.