to be annoyed with this child?

[FernieB]

She comes out of school each evening and rushes over to give me a report on what my DD's have been up to during the day. I would really prefer to hear this from my own kids. Would anyone else find this annoying?

Do you mean she is telling you if your dd has been naughty etc or just reporting what she does generally?

You mean she tells tales on your DC? YABU to find that uber annoying. My DNephew constantly tells tales on my DD (they are 4 and 3) very irritating! Yes I know DD is standing on my foot because funnily enough I can feel it!

My dd is sometimes quick to tell tales on her brother and it drives me mad.

Ew. Annoying. But be nice because in 20 years she may be a famous journo and you'll have known her when

Yup, that would annoy me. Just tell her to stop if she opens her mouth and starts to fill you in.

Thank her profusely and ask her if tomorrow she can come to you with a detailed report of what she's done that day.

Then tomorrow, just switch off and nod and smile while she tells you. To fill time until your DDs come out, tell her what you've done that day (unless it's stay in and drink gin whilst watching Jeremy Kyle with the curtains closed. In which case, don't mention it, just keep nodding and smiling)

This is the sort of this my DS might do as he has ASD and NO idea of social things. I am there to collect DS so can check this kind of thing by reminding him that X's Mummy might like to hear it from X.
Thankfully most of the Mums know DS is ASD and humour him.

It sounds like she has noted you are DDs Mummy and is trying in an immature way to be friendly. How old are they all?

I'm rather surprised she isn't rushing to her own parent/carer/sibling with own news.

It's annoying, but especially if she's young I hope you can hind the patience to be gentle. Do you have any friends amongst the other adults picking up, so you can be partly hidden and engrossed in conversation until your own emerge?

Who is picking her up? Do they not intervene? If this were my child I would be telling them to mind their own business and apologising to you!

YANBU....I would be annoyed too..there's a kid in my own DD's class and she alwas comes to me to aask me if certain things my DD tells her are "true" or not. things such as "Does X really go to Ballet on a saturday or is she making it up?"

I just nod and smile vaguely...and disengage...I'm not conversing with her when my DD's integrity is the point f conversation!

I would nod vagueley and move away....or make sure ou are texting when the child appears...and point in the direction o her own parents....and say "Over there sweetie"

Tell her to go away

Pretend you are on the phone....

Oh I get this, ds has ASD and I often get this one particular little tell tale updating me on his behaviour of the day. My usual responses are:

"Oh, well" Big Smile
"Did he really?" Big Smile
"Well he can't really help it" Big Smile

on not so patient days

"So?" Not so big smile.

YANBU.This happened to my sis on a daily basis.In the end my mum said fuck off,go and annoy your mother instead.The girl was in her teens though followed us daily to tell tales.My mum had enough after a while.Left us alone after

YANBU. Tales from other children are sooooo irritating!

Tell her you would like your DD to tell you what she has been doing that day and maybe her mum would like to hear what she has been doing.

Thank you! I am being polite to her (they're all 10) but it is very annoying. Her mum never comes down to the playground, she just waits in the car. I do know most of the kids quite well and a few will come and talk to me as they come out but they tell me about themselves. This girl doesn't even say hello to me, she just launches into a report on everything that happened to my DD's during the day and even tells me their opinions and thoughts! My DD's are fed up too.

Just say thanks X but Iwould rather my DD tell me about her day, you go and tell your Mum about yours and walk off.

Good idea sixtyfootdoll

She probably just wants a bit of attention

Why not say to her, kindly but firmly, "look I am really sorry 'x', I know you mean well, but I really want to talk to my children directly and ask them about their day - that's an important part of our day as a family. You understand that don't you?" - all delivered with a kindly smile....

Children often respond well to being spoken to directly, on a level with an adult, rather than us pussy footing around and dropping hints (not suggesting you are doing the latter)

SixtyFoot - delivered in that rather perfunctory way seems unduly harsh.

I find the direct approacch works, doesnt have to be said in a nasty tone, but keeping it simple gets the message across

Not having a go at you though (Lord knows I have too many arguments on MN to maintain at the moment )

I'm amazed by these responses. She's a little girl.

No it wouldn't annoy me, but if it did begin to grate there are so many easy ways bat her off a little: 'ooh lovely, but can I just talk to my dd, see you soon/(jokily) 'hey you you are too good at telling me about dd's day, now it's her turn'' blah blah

no ofence taken hmc, i have a knack of offending without meaning too.