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To get my neighbour sectioned???

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iliketosleep · 01/10/2010 23:54

I need some advice on a problem neighbour but i think he may have mental health issues!

Some of his history.

He moved into the street about 20 years ago after winning the pools, his wife ran off with another man about 7 years later.

We moved here last August but I grew up in the house 3 doors away where my Mum and Dad still live. We always used to play football outside the front of the house in the road and if our ball ever went down his drive he would run out and stab it. He also had a friend of mine up the fence by the throat. We were only 11, His dad came down and twatted him [thumbs up]

When my brother was 13 (he's now 20) he and a friend were sitting on the wall outside my parents house watching the bats that live in the roof of a house about 4 doors away from me. Neighbour came out with a video camera shoved it in brothers face and said "you were throwing stones at my house, why are you looking threw my windows? I know my rights, your gonna get locked up" My mum came out and covered the lens with her hand, ushered brother and friend inside and called the police. He was cautioned.

Another of my friends from the street moved into a house a couple of doors away and is a keen runner. Every day she used to go for a run, get home, go upstairs and change. Everyday neighbour used to stand in his garden with a pair of binoculars waiting for her. Her husband dealt with him.

Phew, this is a long post and I'm only half way through lol

When we moved in we had some bedroom furniture delivered quite late in the afternoon so had to wait till the kids went to bed before we put it together. I accidentally dropped a piece of wood and he shouted "SHUT UUUUUUUP" through the wall. The next day DH saw him in the garden, so opened the window and shouted "sorry about last night mate......" Neighbour interupted With "fuck off you stupid cunt, I know my rights and your gonna get fucked you twat just wait"

Yes this man knows his rights! grin

Fast forward a month or so and theres a knock at the door. It was enviromental health, they have had reports that my television is too loud and my alarm clock goes off in the morning (!) I ask if she can hear my tele from the doorstep and she admits that she can't, I asked her if alarm clocks were supposed to go off...lol She left nothing more was said or done.

Fast forward again to July. Enviromental health ring me to say they have had complaints that my alarm clock was going off. I told them that this was the idea of them and he wont have to worry for another 6 weeks as its the 6 weeks holidays.

Fast forward to the last 2 weeks. DH works nights so once the kids are in bed the house is pretty much silent. I have heard the occasional shout at around 12am.

Last week I had just come out the bath and had gone to get changed when there was a banging on the wall and neighbour shouted "shut up you fucking wanker aaarrrrgggghhhhhhhhhhhhhh". Worrying! Then from then there have been again the occasional shout but last night he went to bed singing at the top of his voice slamming doors etc at one point it was like an elephant walking up hollow stairs. Then tonight From about half past 9 this evening I have been hearing alot of AAAAAARRRRGGGGHHHHHHH and WANKER FUCKING WANKER. His tele is up loud enough for me to know he is watching american and not long ago it was if he had come up to the wall to shout and it was a blood curdling sound like he is hurt. He isn't he's just a knob, but its scaring me

Does this behaviour sound familiar to anyone or what can I do, He only does it when DH is at work

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iliketosleep · 02/10/2010 23:44

No madaboutquavers actually I was implying he has some sort of recording device and is monitoring people that come to my house. He did it aother 3 times when I asked my DB and his DP to come round and again when my mum came back, he then did it when my friend came round. Funny how i've had a houseful tonight and there hasn't been a peep out of him!! We have been listening cause I want someone else to hear it!

I now believe he isn't mentally ill just a sad lonely man that gets kicks out of scaring a woman when she is on her own! Angry

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iliketosleep · 02/10/2010 23:45

Thanks celcticlassie I know his house is owned so not sure how they would work it!

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iliketosleep · 02/10/2010 23:47

Also, no I don't read the daily mail! I read the sun Grin

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jameelaq · 03/10/2010 01:39

he is a fucking loony. Don't mess about. Shoot him and say it was an accident

thereisalightanditnevergoesout · 03/10/2010 09:32

'He is obviously ill'

No one can possibly know from OPs posts whether he is mentally ill or not, though his behaviour is certainly anti-social, worrying and frightening to iliketosleep.

As many other people have pointed out - not many of us on here is qualified to pass judgement let alone carry out a psychiatric assessment via MN.

iliketosleep · 03/10/2010 09:42

Wonders if its safe to call him a Weirdo.....

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MadAboutQuavers · 03/10/2010 10:02

He's monitoring people who come to your house

Sounds like oaranoid behaviour to me Hmm

My Dad wrote copious notes about visitors to neighbours houses to keep records which he said were "very important"

Why did he do this?

Because he was seriously mentally ill and out of his mind

I am not diagnosing your neighbour. How the hell could I?

I'm just saying his behaviour sounds familiar, and as such I wouldn't be so ready to take it personally and worry for your safety. That said, my first advice of "call the police and get them involved whenever he screams and rants" still holds.
Please don't just make him part of your weekly gossip. He may be a PITA, but he's still a human being - one who obviously needs some help from somewhere.

MadAboutQuavers · 03/10/2010 10:03

*paranoid, obviously (stupid phone)

MadAboutQuavers · 03/10/2010 10:13

"Wonders if its safe to call him a weirdo......"

You may not be old enough, Iliketosleep, but I remember the days when people thought it was ok to call people with severe limps/walking difficulties "a cripple", and it was deemed acceptable, even funny.

iliketosleep · 03/10/2010 10:15

The thing thats making me Hmm is that he only does it when DH is working. He also actually never made a sound last night, I'm not expecting visitors tonight so we will see how it goes.

We have a few people come to visit some people my age (mid 20's) some DH age (early 30's)

I can't help thinking that he might think we are drug dealers Confused

IF he is recording who comes and goes to my house then he has no bloody rights!

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RunawayWife · 03/10/2010 10:19

The man is clearly a nutjob, call the police, report the noise and generally make his life uncomfortable by reporting him for every little thing

iliketosleep · 03/10/2010 10:20

Ok thats not calling him a cripple or a loony, just saying he is weird-which he is!! IMHO

Drip feeding- sorry but he also goes out in his car then when he comes back makes a point of leaning up to have a butchers through my living room window, same when he is taking the bins up.

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celticlassie · 03/10/2010 13:23

It doesn't matter if he owns his house, if he's genuinely being antisocial he can still be evicted.

iliketosleep · 03/10/2010 13:25

Shock Really??!!

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SixtyFootDoll · 03/10/2010 14:55

He cant be evicted from his own home!

eventide · 03/10/2010 15:04

Is it possible that as he thinks you are making a lot of noise he is banging about and shouting obscenities to give you a taste of your own medicine? Neighbours can get very unreasonable about noise. Maybe mediation could help?

iliketosleep · 03/10/2010 16:25

It is possible, yes! We do try to be as quiet as we can but with a 10,9,7 and 2 year old its pretty hard. I don't understand why he can't just come round and talk to us though Confused

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RageAgainstTheTeen · 03/10/2010 16:31

You knew of this guy for 20 years and you decided to move in next door?

Stupid you I'd say.

iliketosleep · 03/10/2010 16:52

Yeah I knew that he was horrible but I figured if we kept ourselves to ourselves then it would be ok.

Stupid in hindsight but we all make mistakes Confused

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iliketosleep · 03/10/2010 22:05

Oooooooooooooh fancy that! DH has only been gone 30 mins and his tele is up full wack!!!

Its laughable it really is!!!

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iliketosleep · 03/10/2010 22:12

Going to ask my mum if she will pop round and see if it stops Hmm

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Nemi13 · 17/10/2017 19:42

I'm having almost the exact same issue with my neighbour. He is in supported housing (I'm not) and he regularly has psychotic episodes where he shouts abuse and threats very aggressively and very loudly through the walls at all hours of the day and night. He also throws his furniture against the walls. I've contact everyone I can think of (police, social services, my MP, the housing association etc.) but no-one has been able to help me. This has been going for 17 months. I work full-time and I'm also studying but this man is depriving me of sleep and I'm at my wits end.

Maelstrop · 17/10/2017 20:14

It doesn't matter if he owns his house, if he's genuinely being antisocial he can still be evicted.

Rubbish.

I would love some ideas on how to deal with issues of genuinely mentally ill neighbours (whose grown up children don't care about the impact on the poor neighbours) who own the property. The council where I am keep asking for mediation, neighbour won't engage and continues to harass those either side of her.

hatgirl · 17/10/2017 20:18

7 year old zombie.
Hmm

AfunaMbatata · 17/10/2017 20:21

ZOMBIE THREAD

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