to feel so angry with my sister.

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She and her latest (brand) new DP have announced they?re expecting their first child in February. She has always insisted she doesn?t want children, including only two weeks ago when last I asked her. She must have been at least 3 months pregnant and lying her head off. I feel really angry that she didn?t tell me and has gone behind my back.

If my sister ever gets pregnant I relly hope she does it behind my back, or preferably far away, and not to my face!

sorry but you're being totally rediculous. I would suggest the majority of women don't announce a pregnancy until they reach 12 weeks (myself included). DH and I didn't tell anyone until after our 12 week scan.

I wish one of my sisters would get knocked up. There are no little cousins around DS2's age. Very inconsiderate of them.

AIBU that my sister has completely failed to produce a playmate for my DS?

so not delighted at the thought of being an Aunty then? Especially when you thought she wouldn't have children.

TBF to the OP, I think she's hurt and feels disconnected to her sister what with a new man that her sister would rather confide in. It's plain old jealousy and must feel terrible.

OP share in the joy of this announcement, this must be a very happy time for your sister.

Trillian - lol agree totally, I would want no part in that part of becoming an aunty

I would be ecstatic if my sis was pregnant. What's wrong with you op?

My sister didn't tell me till she was at least 12 weeks pg, we were chatting on MSN one night and she sent me a "photo" she wanted me to see which was a scane of my now 5 yr old beloved nephew. I was chuffed to bits for her, I already had 3 children and she was 10 yrs older than me when I had my first (and put on quite a bit of weight .

It never entered my head to feel pissed off, I was delighted to finally be becoming an Auntie and am even more delighted I have two lovely nephews, who sadly I don't get to see much as they live abroad.

YABVU.

But (and this is a big but) if her Dsis is due in february, she can only be a maximum of 6 weeks behind me...and I'm over 24 weeks, making her Dsis at least 18 weeks pregnant (if she's due right at the end of feb). While I can understand waiting until 12/13 weeks to tell your family, to deny when asked of baby plans when you must be 16 weeks or more is a little...errr...odd isn't it? Unless there's more of a back story going on between the sisters?

Is it a full moon in sister-land today?

A friend of mine didn't tell anyone until she was almost 18 weeks and just couldn't hide it anymore just because they are so private. As it turned out at the 20 week scan sadly they found out the baby could not survive so they had to have a termination. People have their own reasons, its private and none of anyone's business, even family .... Grow up OP.

Thank you for all of your replies.

I'm not ttc and have not got fertility issues. It's not that I wanted her to ask my permission or be consulted even though she could have done and I wouldn't have minded. It is that it doesn't feel nice being cut out and makes me feel really angry being lied to face to face in response to my straight questions. I had my suspicions as she was looking fatter than normal when I last saw her. I do think she should have told me and not lied to me and everyone else too.

Chatty, its really nothing strange that she didn't tell you. The first 12 weeks can be a very scary time, she wasn't keeping it from you in a nasty way, or anyone else. Her and her DP were just doing exactly what many many people do.

I gave you the benefit of the doubt and assumed you must be ttc to be so angry.

Given that you're not, YADDDBU. Lots of people 'lie' in the early weeks of pregnancy - I'm on antibiotics, not drinking as I;m driving etc becase they don't want people to know. It is a completely acceptable 'lie' amongst friends/family etc

I didn´t tell anyone until I was 16wks.

Probably lied to my own mum.

How come you asked her 2wks ago if she still didn´t want children?

That is so bad I simply can't

Hully...finish your post..?

We didn't tell ANYONE with DC4 until I was 18 weeks.

There were issues that meant the pregnancy was high risk and I was very lucky that DD2 arrived healthy and in one piece.

Don't assume you know the whole story

OP you're nuts.

I'm thick as thieves with my sisters but didn't tell them about either of my pregnancies until I'd had my first scan - mainly because of a previous MC that I'd also not told them about (have now but just couldn't at the time as it was too painful.)

I'm sure I'd also lied to them at the time but it was never an issue for them as they were just chuffed that they were going to be aunties. If they'd reacted like you are, I'd have told them to get over themselves and come back when they'd grown up a bit. This isn't about how you feel, it's about your sister and her brilliant news. Be happy!

YABU and you sound like a nightmare sibling!

I think it's maybe a bit odd of your sister to have said she didn't want children while actually pregnant and planning to continue with the pregnancy. In her shoes, I'd probably have said 'oh, I don't know. Maybe one day...' or similar. But I also think it's v v rude of you to have asked her if she still didn't want kids. I can't bear people asking this kind of thing. How do you know that she doesn't have major fertility issues and has been saying she doesn't want kids because it's all been rather painful and unpleasant for her?

Don't be a moron. Not being told about a pregnancy is not being cut out, it is normal. If you decide to ruin your relationship with your sister over this you are an idiot.