to think that neighbours pudding dog shit on my car was a bit out of order?

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We have a dog. we always clear up after her. She does occasionally get out and go for a bit of a wander by herself - she wanders out of the front door and is gone for about two minutes before she realises that we're not going with her and she comes back.

It is, I suppose, possible that on one of these occasions she may have pooed somewhere inappropriate and obviously we have not cleared it up because we don't know about it, but extremely unlikely. Now that the thought has crossed my mind I will be much more careful with making sure she doesn't get out.

Yesterday morning we went to the car and someone has placed dog shit on the roof.

We live in a very small community and I thought that I was friendly enough with all of the neighbours that if they did have an issue with my dog shitting somewhere they would come and speak to me. I also didn't think that anyone disliked us enough to do this out of malice.

I am really quite upset by this - if it is a protest about my dog, why can't they tell me that there's an issue, because it's certainly not something I'm aware of. If it's just nasty, what does that say about our small "friendly" village?

any words of wisdom or AIBU to think that this is not acceptable behaviour?

dog shit everywhere really is a wind up. If you village is that small I'm sure there are people out there who know who the offenders are - this would have been building up for a while.

You know it's going to be an issue for people so why should they have to confront you about it? You're just going to say it can't possibly be my dog aren't you? Many people hate confrontations & if they are steaming about the poop already might be even more reluctant to bring it up for fear of getting unnecessarily wound up and upset.

It is quite an extreme act, which if they've got the right dog I would not think was unreasonable, but if they've got the wrong dog then clearly it is. But isn't without a sense of humour & the message has certainly got across hasn't it?

As your dog is now well & truly off the streets, if they've got the wrong dog the offences will keep happening. I wonder who's car will be targeted next?

YANBU. If i have an issue with a neighbour i tell them (nicely as possible) or leave a polite note + expect the same in return. Dog poo is annoying but putting it on a car roof is childish. Maybe dog poo isn't the underlying cause of this person's grievance tho? It could be someone is annoyed by something other than your dog.

I just don't understand this behaviour - you don't even know for sure it was your dog! If someone did see your dog do it, then they obviously knew it belonged to you (ditto the car), so why oh why didn't they come to you to discuss it?

Leaving poo on someone's car/doorstep/anywhere is totally unacceptable, no matter what the circumstances. I hope someone in your village is feeling very ashamed of themselves this morning.
Poor you. YANBU.

YADNBU to expect a neighbour to talk to you directly about this rather than display extreme passive aggressive tendencies by putting poo on your car roof. Nasty stuff and I'm not surprised you feel upset about this.

However...

"When we go for a walk, we leave the house, turn left and go down a passage next to the house. Dog usually runs on ahead and waits at the corner for us."

Would make more sense to put your dog on a lead, even for a short distance before you let it off for a safe run. Dogs shouldn't be left to run without leads unless they are within a park or other dog-safe and friendly place. It's what grinds my gears in our street - dogs trotting well ahead of their owners, pooing, going in gardens, ripping up bins etc. Your's may be great, but it's not surprising that she's got confused a couple of times when you're not actually taking her out and run off. You just don't know what's around the corner - eg: big scary dog, small child who can get knocked over, cars etc.

Is it always you who walks the dog?

You should live in Belgium then, no one cleans it up here & it's revolting! People even let their dogs out (unaccompanied) onto the pavement so they don't have it in their own garden!

YANBU

I did this once . We had horrid neighbours who had an out of control staffordshire terrier that could jump the fence, even though we had paid for a new higher fence. It would leap the fence, terrify me and the baby and shit on our little lawn where my baby crawled. We spoke to them, spoke to their landlord etc etc nothing. She just shrugged - she needed the dog "for protection" apparently (pretty sure her partner was drug dealing). In the end I just lobbed the shit from our garden back over the fence. She went mental but luckily we were moving out that day so we drove off into the sunset. I kind of feel guilty about it..nah I dont.

Dog shit pudding is a truly terrible idea

Our neighbours consistently denied that it was their dog which was crapping all over the pavement - honest gov' - they NEVER let him out of their sight. It was mine and our other neighbours word against theirs until one fine day, the window cleaner witnessed the dog crapping right outside my front door and informed them in a not unquiet voice that if they didn't pick up their dog crap, he would put it through their letter box Still hasn't stopped the problem but at least they have the grace to scoop it up now if they know it's been seen. From what I've seen it takes adog seconds to poo, so if you let yours loose at all, then it's probably responsible for the poo and therefore you are responsible for cleaning it up. If it gets loose in future surely you can do a quick look around to check that there are no more deposits ?

DP looked at this and we both agree YANBU.

Perhaps go round to your neighbours and mention to them what happened, saying you're thinking of reporting this 'malicious vandalism' to the police, and did they see anyone acting suspiciously? Or has it happened to them? etc. You know, how you can't be too careful, you can't imagine why anyone would do something like that, your dog is never out of your sight and you feel disgusted that someone has left dog shit around for it to be icked up by hooligans like this, etc.

You aren't bashing them to their face, you are genuinely concerned, and wouldn't want it to happen to them. That way, you can say it to both sides without making them feel annoyed if it wasn't them, and whoever it was will hopefully turn a nice shade of pink for your personal closure. It also reinforces that whoever is leaving dog shit around, it has nothing to do with you.

And tbh, you should report it to the council at least, because it is vandalism, or anti-social behaviour at least.

In your OP you said she occasionally went out the front door and wandered around for a couple of minutes. Now you've said she only did it twice and was only out of your side for ten seconds. Which is it?
It could be that they saw your dog poo in their garden, didn't want it there so put it on your property. And thought that on your car was the best option, because nobody would tread in it.

Gerontious - You're right, in my OP I did say that occasionally she got out of the front door and was gone for a couple of minutes. Twice is occasionally - it happened on a couple of occasions.

Two minutes was quite a large overestimation of the time she has been out of my sight - I actually thought about it some more and realised it was more like seconds than minutes.

Tottwriter - that's not a bad idea, I'll give it some thought and see if I've got the nerve

Sassybeast - I'm not denying that it's my dog. I'm saying that I don't see HOW she could have done it as she really is never out of my sight (apart from the occasions stated previously)

paisleyleaf - no, dp walks her sometimes and dd1 walks her two or three times a week but both of them deny ever leaving poo lying around and I have seen both of them pick it up when I've been out with them, without me prompting them iykwim so I don't really think they are not clearing it up either.

And fwiw, as far as I can tell (and without the relevant DNA tests that's not that much) it wasn't my dog's poo on the roof of my car.

YANBU. The first thing to do if there was a problem was talk to you about it reasonably. What they did was childish and unneighbourly.

YANBU.

I personally think though that this may be a teenage prank. I think most sane adults would go down the snotty note through the door approach before putting it on your car.

I remember when I was still living at home there was a period of about a month where I kept finding the roof of my car covered in tomato ketchup! Tis a horrible feeling to feel singled out by someone who must know you but not know who they are.

sorry but lol @ 'pudding dog shit'

Someone once smeared dogpoo all over the windscreen of my car, we don't even have a dog and I was for ages about who and why they did it. Never did find out and we have moved now thank goodness.

I meant to say YANBU by the way

Can I ask if you defintely know this about your dog pooing somewhere?

We had a neighbour who didn't like us parking in the street (we parked legally, not blocking anyone in, across the front of our property and there were plenty of other parking spaces everywhere - he just had a bee in his bonnet) anyway he used to protest by leaving us 'presents' on top of our car - mostly little piles of stones - occasionally something more unpleasant like dog poo. Took us ages to figure it out what was going on and we sorted it in the end.

I just wonder if you jumped to a conclusion or maybe someone thought it was your dogs when it wasn't?

That's given me a bloody good idea!
My neighbours have 2 dogs who shit all over their back garden! No problem there - their dogs, their garden, their shit! What narks me is when they clear their back garden, put the fecking shit in a clear plastic bag and then leave it on the boundary line of our front gardens which I then have to SEE each time I get home from work! Have had a word with them to no effect!

They're gonna find a bag of shit on the roof of their car in the morning muhahahaha!

YABU btw! Your dog should not be let out on her own!

YANBU - If you did let the dog out all the time I could understand it but from what you have described I seriously doubt it is your dog. Definitely tell your neighbours you are going to report it to the police in case someone does it again to you or someone else, it will give someone a good fright!

I understand that its is only twice so fair enough but in general if a dog craps on my property the owner gets one chance to remove it otherwise your car roof is the least of your worries.

The same goes for bloody cats in my garden, if i know the owners I will "request" they keep their cats out of my garden or it will be a legitimate target for the half bricks I keep by my garden door.

One warning, one chance

It could be teenagers, who did it at random?

Newwave you dont sound like the friendliest neighbour ever..bricks are extreme + i hope you're joking! Just use a water pistol combined with a loud shout. It stopped my neighbours' cats from attacking my cat + they avoid my garden.