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to want to smack the next person who says 'in MY day...

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Serendippy · 26/09/2010 21:24

I keep hearing the older generation telling me that 'In my day, we lived on £300 a year and had no cars and phones and would have to do any job going for a bit of cash' and it makes me want to scream! I am no spring chicken, but still feel that the generation below me are going to be proportionally worse off. My MIL who insists on this type of story is the woman who took 5 years off work with children and MIL and FIL owned a house at 26 because although wages were low, house prices were too. At 31 I have only bought a house with DH (2 years older) 2 years ago despite the fact that we have both been working full time since 21/22. We had to beg and plead to get a mortgage despite no serious debts and as for 'do any job going to get a bit of extra cash', where are all these lovely cash-in-hand jobs now? If you need money til payday, tough. Even your employer cannot give you an advance anymore because of how everything is accounted for. I know your life was hard, but please stop telling me how easy my life is in comparison because it bloody isn't. (And yes, I do have a mobile and laptop etc but would much, much rather have been able to afford a house and not thrown £1000s away in rent over the years waiting to be 'acceptable'. Sorry, had to get that off my chest.

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juneybean · 26/09/2010 21:25

In my day....

Serendippy · 26/09/2010 21:27

SMACK

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JaneS · 26/09/2010 21:29

Right there with you.

Especially my parents 'In my day, we didn't spend all our money like you and DH, we got a mortgage six months after we married you know!'

Yes, and your first house cost 14k!

ericshen · 26/09/2010 21:37

In my day we never said "in my day".In my day we said "when I was a lad"

Serendippy · 26/09/2010 21:39

You must be really old then Grin

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JaneS · 26/09/2010 21:39
Grin

Surely it's 'When I were nobbut a lad ...'.

Regional accents being authentic and old, of course.

ericshen · 26/09/2010 21:40

really old dont come into it
My face is as wrinkled as my nalloks

Skyrg · 26/09/2010 21:40

I'm struggling to rent and will probably never be able to buy a house, plus I have a huge debt for uni loans. Also, despite a degree, I can't get a job.
YANBU.

Serendippy · 26/09/2010 21:59

Oh ericshen, niiiiiiice! Skyrg, it's rubbish, isn't it. I had a grant for 2 years at uni, happy days! I dread to think what will happen by the time DCs go to uni, favourite child only probably Smile

My friend's sister had to pay full fees and got no assistance based on her parents' income. How does that work when they are not legally obliged to pay for you anyway as you are an adult? Even taking uni out of the equation, house prices and pension schemes will screw the next generation. MILs place was bought for £8,000 is now worth around £250,000 30 years later. Will we ever see inflation like that in our lifetime? No wonder people can't afford houses. Grrrr.

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LittleMissHissyFit · 26/09/2010 21:59

Well I am 42, and can often be heard muttering

"In my day girls went to school, in skirts, not flaming wide belts!"

"In my day the older generation were the ones with the manners... not now"

Twice

Grin
Serendippy · 26/09/2010 22:02

In my mother's day, girls went to school in skirts. They arrived at school having rolled the skirts up into belts. She was a bit of a wrong'un though...

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JaneS · 26/09/2010 22:08

If my mother's to be believed, in her day girls probably went to school in pinafores and bonnets and donated their pennies to the Workhouse Folk. Hmm

skyrg - ah, yes, but that is because young people nowadays are too picky and can't cope with a little hard graft, isn't it? (So says my dad, who got his education free courtesy of the 11 plus and the closed place at Oxford. Not that I'm bitter!)

LittleMissHissyFit · 26/09/2010 22:12

LOL, but our headmistress would either force us to wear a skirt from the lost property, or send us home!!!

JaneS · 26/09/2010 22:14

My headmistress used to refer to short skirts as 'pelmets' and for ages I thought this was a really technical term for a skirt that ended just above the knee. Blush

Skyrg · 26/09/2010 22:16

LittleRedDragon, you can tell your father that if he can find me a job with 'a little hard graft' I will happily take it (so long as it pays my stupidly high rent, council tax and bills).

JaneS · 26/09/2010 22:23

Oh, he has no idea. He thinks that DH and I 'choose' to rent, because surely with two minimum-wage incomes and 28k of student debt, we could scrabble together a mortgage.

BeenBeta · 26/09/2010 22:37

LittleMisHissy - me and DW have just been having that very conversation about our DSs senior school and girls in 'wide belts'.

Never 'appened in our day. Grin

RandyRussian · 26/09/2010 22:38

My headmistress used to refer to short skirts as 'pelmets'

Apparently the first really short mini-skirts in the 60s were called pussy pelmets

can't imagine why Grin

MistsAndMellow · 26/09/2010 22:39

My colleague used to complain about little girls' skirts being like loincloths. She was absolutely right though.

LittleMissHissyFit · 26/09/2010 22:43

Oh I bristle at the kids around ours. I used to live around here and went to the local schools

Moved to London, then abroad and am now back with DS.

i see these kids attending my old school and I just know that the head mistress would be on a fast final spin in the ground if she could see the kids now...

And jewellery MAKE UP! hair gel!!

None of it ever got past her...

Am seriously thinking of writing strongly worded letter, on these very issues and the fact that the PROM (FFS) de-camped to outside our bloody houses at 2am this summer....

In my day.....

TiggyD · 26/09/2010 22:45

I think all these violent people on Mumsnet should be tagged, sedated or locked up.

ivykaty44 · 26/09/2010 22:45

The baby boomers had it easy - they really did and now they have gone and messed it all up for the next generations - working in the cal centers till we are 83 and not gettign a pension till we are 75.

Those born during or after the war had the best diet ever through rationing and this is why they are living so sodding long and eating into the next generations pay

gosh those baby boomers do't knwo they are born free NHS and it looks like we will have to pay - we pay for parking now they never had to

One wage got a mortgage and mothers staying at home to look after chidlren, whatever did they find to do all day. A two up two down was £1800 in the nicer towns of the Midlands and a wage of £600 a year you only needed one wage

I liek the age I live in and wouldn't go back or forawrd - but I know each generation has had it different

Serendippy · 26/09/2010 22:51

TiggyD sedated please, if I can state a preference.

ivykaty44 I like the time I live in too, just get sooooo fed up of hearing how much harder it was back in the day

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newwave · 26/09/2010 22:55

Ivy, To much generalisation not all the boomers have it good in the same way as the prople working in the banks are not all overpaid monygrabbing scumbags.

JaneS · 26/09/2010 22:57

ivy - take your point, but they're also dying of lung cancer because smoking was fine!

Seren - oh come on, surely the thought of saying all this to your own kids is the payback?! Grin

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