to want the teachers to clean my son's nose for him?

[emkana]

Before you jump on me - he is in reception, he turned four in June and he is developmentally delayed. He goes to school part time at the moment, and when I pick him up at 12 his face is completely covered in dried on snot, where he's been wiping it with his hand. Mentioned it to the teachers and they said that they do tell him to go and get a tissue. Point is though that the way he is, it's not enough to tell him to go and get a tissue, you need to make it clearer! Am I expecting too much?

I am a little puzzled as to why the classroom has not been adapted for him. Bles his heart, I think you need to have a chat with the SENCO and class teacher together.

Ah hell, as a teacher I feel the need to defend their not doing it as they/we have lots of pupils, ltd time etc etc. As a parent I say YANBU, how long does it take to hand over a tissue from a box as you walk round the class? Save the little chap from getting messy and feeling/looking silly in front of his peers. As well as helping him learn. I know we're not our pupils parents (I'm certainly not, I teach secondary!) I still have slight maternal/caring instincts towards pupils and would want them to be happy/healthy...it isn't a big ask in this instance IMO.

yummypopcorn, we are waiting for the Advisory Teaching Service to come in and assess the environment for him.

Emkana, does he know where the tissues are in the classroom? Could he have a packet in his tray, perhaps, if that is easier for him to find?

I would definitely work on the mechanics of wiping his nose at home too.

My ds used to just use his sleeves. Until the summer when he had no sleeve and used to come home with snail trails along his arms. Bleugh. This went on for a lot longer than Reception.

I would braek this down into different steps e.g. identifying himself when his nose is running and needs wiping, knowing where his tissues are, wiping his nose, throwing away tissue.

Some of these stages may be easier than others. Perhaps it would be useful if the steps can be written into his IEP so that the non/teaching staff understand it is quite a complex task for a little chap with additional needs.

I also agree about the mirror issue.

Oh god, I just read your post about him having dwarfism, my use of the phrase 'little chap' was purely affectionate...I hadn't read that post and really wasn't being patronising! Was just trying to say that IMO you would have to be pretty hard hearted to not at least try to help him out.

Not a bit u ....they should just do it,it's not that difficult...i'd wipe any little childs nose if it looked uncomfortable...what's wrong with the world?

MrsC, don't worry!!!!