to have thought, no, muttered 'mumsnet!' at DH in a public place?

[JaneS]

DH and I went out for dinner. I put my card down to pay - which, since I've not got round to changing it, reads 'Miss Girlsname LittleRedDragon'.

The waiter handed the pay machine to DH, so I said, 'It's got my name on it'. Which may have been a bit snippy but I think I said it nicely. To which the waiter:

"Sorry, it's a reflex."

A reflex to hand the card to the bloke? Or does he always pass to the right, like with port? I was very nice and tipped him anyway but muttered darkly under my breath about what a certain group of women would think ...

Thank you another thread that has brightened my day - for those that don't like chairs being pulled out - a polite way to deal with it without forcing your DP/DH into that chair is to just put your hand on the back of the said chair and look the waiter in the eye and politly say "Thank you very much but I prefer to do that myself" - if you go to the same place often enough e.g. local PE or wherever they should remember you and will stop doing it in the end.

And on the flip side.

Shopping in say Tesco with DW. If I pay with cash, hand the money over , she always hands the change back to DW.

Also many people find it hard to acknowledge/accept my DH is a SAHD - I work in a very male dominated environment and when we go to social functions with work colleagues who haven't met him they often get very confused when they ask him where he works and he says "I don't I'm a house husband" especially if he is feeling a little sarcastic and puts on his "Daffyd" voice and says" I'm the only house husband in the village"

We only have one bank account - mine and I am the only wage earner (no we don't claim benefits) so he has a card for my account - still make sit hard for waiters to grasp that I apy most of the time and even when I don't appear to pay I do (IYKWIM)

That's so true, Slobby, I've noticed that too!

Now, admit, do you compose the AIBU in your head as you claw back your handful of coins?

Snap - you try being a student and the main wage earner, that one really confuses them. DH is always being complimented on how 'nice' it is of him to 'support me' through my studies.

He does say I have become an awful lot more sensitive to this stuff since I came on here. He's also got very good at noticing when I go quiet in public, and he can tell I'm biting back a 'well, Mumsnet says ...' judgment.

My DP has a change-grabbing reflex, which has earned him some very cool looks from both me and various checkout girls in the past. No I don't think the change from my £20 note is going in your pocket, DP, wake up. :)

slobby

That's probably because us "wee women" are only allowed the handful of change from your pocket to survive on - either that or the cashier thinks you clearly never "give your DW any money" and she better slip her the odd bit of change so she can save up to buy herself a little something