I have been married to my DH for 4 years, but we have been together for 12. In the last few years we have had 2 DCs, one DS and one DD who is 4 months old. My DH has a young female colleague who he became friends with about 6 years ago, pre kids and marriage. About 6 months after they became friends we were all out at a function together and after quite a few drinks she confessed she was 'in love' with my then not quite DH. At the time I laughed it off, by saying something like 'Really? Me too!' and it has never been mentioned again. I decided at the time not to tell DH and I never have. as far as I know, she has not told him.
So return to the present day, I have been a complete grown up and have accepted that they are friends. She even came to our wedding. Just in case you think that I am a saint, I do feel like holding out my foot and tripping her up every time I see her..
Anyway she has recently gotten married and is expecting a DD herself. On his wisdom, my DH has told her that I was about to have a big clear out of baby clothes (true as we have decided on no more) and we would of course have some to pass on to her. I foollishly said that I would of course, but now here I am sitting in my daughter's room, practically crying at the thought of giving ANY of these clothes I carefully chose for her to that woman.
I KNOW that I am probably being unreasonable but there is something so damn evocative about baby clothes...
Need advice . Is it unacceptable to just give her a small pile of clothes I did not like much in the first place...