To be scared of death?

[BlueCupcake]

I have a huge phobia of death and can't stop thinking about it.Wondered if any mn's are scared of this?
Have two beautiful dc's.Had ds2 recently so maybe that's my excuse for being such a miserable morbid sod

Hmmm. Death used to trouble me a lot, it doesn't now. I fully believe that I will switch off, like turning off the lights and that will be it. I have had a GA and I believe dying will be like that but not coming round afterwards, I am totally at peace with that.

What does bother me, is not the fact that I have died, but what I will leave behind, DH and my young boys. How will they cope, will DH find someone (new wife) who will love the boys like her own. Will everything fall apart (he's pretty hopeless!)?

All pretty pointless to worry about I suppose, but we do!

YANBU - but YABU, because its inevitable.

I used to worry about it a lot, and now I just avoid thinking about it when I can. Its tough going, though.

depends how your fear impacts,if it inhibits life and activities then that is unreasonable impact.

becoming a parent does increase and heighten ones fears,as a result in eeding to feel able to protect dc

LisaD1 - 3 things in life are guaranteed - being born, dying and taxes!

I was diagnosed with a life threatening illness yesterday so am not sure how I feel yet - denial I think. Don't think I'm scared of death itself though, more the run up to it, especially with this illness.

Karmann, blimey! You must be going through the mill at the mo! ((hugs)))

YANBU but personally I think it will be a good time to catch up on some peace and quiet and therefore am not afraid of it! Therefore have a full life as you can now.

That's one thing that all us humans face. We don't get off this planet alive! I don't understand why anyone would want to live forever. I love my life but it can be bloody hard work at times.

I'm so sorry Mrsdevere and sassy. Really sorry because you have been through what I think is my worst fear.

I fear my 2 little girls dying more than I worry about myself dying. I quietly panicked a little that my 5 year old looked pale and tired today.

Having children and getting older have definitely been the triggers for me.

I think being told I am dying would be the worst thing ever, but that I hope I would find peace within myself during that time.

I temped at a hospice not so long ago. All the people who worked there were so nice and it really wasn't a depressing, sad place at all. But I don't know how people work in children's hospices

I do think that having dd has made me more worried about dying though as I don't want her to grow up without a mum.That's the main reason tbh.A lot of mums feel the same.

I USED to worry about the "eternity" side of it. Now I worry about leaving dd whilst she is little. My mum died when I was 4 so I think that makes it worse.

Karmann- sorry to hear that. My mum is in the same boat and therefore I have been thinking about it a lot more. I sometimes wish that I could fight mum's illness for her as I'm not at scared of death as she is. Easy for me to say though.

A natural fear,unless it consumes you.

My fear of death is more egotistical 'I will miss out on all their lives' 'I won't be there' kinda fear.

After a post partum hemhorrage I've come as close to death as you can probably get without ending up 6 feet under. I've seen the white light (yes really) and it was quite a calm, surreal moment.

Since that time, I've had no fear of death at all, which I did have before that happened.

As deemented said, dying, and leaving your children/DH behind are two different things. Yes, I thought about how my DH would cope with a 3 yo and a one day old baby but when the moment came there was really nothing I could have done about it.

Since then, I've lived for the moment and never worried about it since. What's the point?

Portofino, yes it's pretty crap right now! You must have seen some of my other postings to realise that! Also just had to have mammogram for lump in breast! You have to laugh otherwise you'd cry! Thanks for the hug, much appreciated.

Poshsinglemum, all you can do is support her as much as you can.

Karmann - so sorry to hear that - big hug for you... I'm afraid I'm not into this un-mn-type-hugs...

No, me neither Sassy. Human contact is so important.

I think you have a touch of post natal depression, are you having panic attacks? I remember these irrational feelings too. Don't worry, it will pass with time. Don't stress yourself out.

I worry lots about dd. It's almost as if I expect something awful to happen. I think that comes from my mum dying though. Like, it doesn't matter what you do, or how much you love them, fate gets in the way.

And I read SassySusan's blog. The thought of dying myself is not nearly so awful as THAT pain.

No, no pain can be worse than losing a child. Unbearable.

Will not tell my DD what's going on, wouldn't be fair on her.

Ironically, all the women on my mothers side have lived well into their 90's - not me! I will be the first to let the side down!

I'm scared too. My mum died 4 years ago at home holding my hand and now im petrified of leaving my dh and ds, so that they don't ever have to feel like i do.

I am a Christian and I know Im going to heaven so that part of it doesnt scare me, it's more leaving my family. I get anxiety attacks about it sometimes

So sorry for you Sassy and mrsdevere

Sassy, would you mind if I read your blog? If not,how do I find it?

Karmann, haven't seen your other threads but I am sure there is lots of support on here! And lots of diversion/distraction too.

Portofino, will tell full story one day! Far too much shit for one person to deal wwith at the moment!

People on here are wonderful.

Karmann, so sorry for you, will be thinking of you and look out for any updates

I had an ectopic pregnacy and while I was under I remember thinking I won't make it "where's the light" a la every bad horror movie from the 80's. However I saw the the light coming out from a black door in a very black space. It was like the party when you where a child with all your cousins when everyone is pleased to see you. Really really nice...a

When my gran died she was a bit gagga but I used to do a (very) few duty visits. I helped her go to the loo and then get into bed and said goodnight and she looked me straight on and said "thank you"and I knew then I'd never see her again and she knew too.

I don't like the idea of going but I don't think it's scary anymore. It's just tough on the rest of your family/friends.

That's exactly right justonemorethen, it's those that are left behind.