To think my sister should shut up about the size of her boobs!

[lemonbergamot]

Right, feel a bit silly posting this. I'm in my late 20s, sis early 30s (no children).

My body shape has always been tall and slender- maybe a bit like Charlize Theron!!! Usually a size 10, but still post baby 12. My best points have always been my tummy (well used to be!), bum and legs.
My sis is currently a generous size 14. She calls herself 'hourglass' but I think she leans more towards apple. Has straightish waist bit of a tummy and flat bottom.

Anyway growing up as teenagers she had weight issues (getting up to a size 22) and was bullied. I never ever said anything unkind....why kick someone when they're down. She constantly ripped into me though e.g. lanky strak of piss, boney arse, don't need a wonderbra need a miracle etc etc
People said she was jealous and to ignore he.

The thing is I don't see her often but it continues to this day. Last Christmas I was heavily pregnant and when looking at myself on the digital camera commented 'Oh I really have got big'. My sis immediately chirped up with 'Yes your bum's as big as mine, but I've still got bigger boobs'. This was whilst sat at the table. Pre pregnancy I was a 32C but I'm now a 34DD so I pointed out in a jokey way that there wasn't much difference but she went on to demonstrate that hers definately were bigger....for gods sake.
She also had us comparing leg lengths.

Anyway last night on the phone she mentioned the size of her bust 6 times (I counted) in 30 minutes. She said stuff like she can't run, her new shirt gapes so will pass on to me etc

She knows I have always wanted a larger bust and I just think it's not on to constantly boast

The punchline is she's only a 36D (or DD sometimes apparently)! That to me is average and my pre preg 32C is not totally flat chested either- just small to average!

So why does she constantly harp on. Is it unreasonable for someone in their 30s to do this? Should I retaliate by pointing out that I still have a better tummy, bum and less stretchmarks, I never have before???

She's obviously very insecure about her figure and having a go about it won't make that go away. I'd be more inclined to just ask her to stop the constant comparisons because it isn't making either of you any happier.

Send her to me and we'll talk boobs. I'm a 38G, that should shut her up! :o

She is very silly and very childish and I would definitely point out your flatter tummy and bum. FWIW I am currently a size 22 so know all about weight issues but I would never call a slimmer friend/relation names. I would quietly be very jealous but not resentfully so.

she is being inscure and competetive in a childish sibling style. Why would you retaliate? It will make you as silly as her.

And boasting about your boobs is honestly something adults should move on from .

Really. Don't rise to it

Since I currently have a Bravissimo order window open for my 32GGs, she can shut it.

But honestly, she's clearly insecure, and the two of you have always competed about this. You have a very clinical, unflattering way of describing her body, so it's not like you're all high-moral-ground "I have no idea how big she is, but she's my sister and she's beautiful". Should you point out that you have a better figure? Um, no, obviously not, because that would be a bitchy horrible thing to do.

Both of you need to grow up and stop believing that your body shape defines who you are.

I know it's annoying, but you could just give her this since she grew up being big but having this gorgeous sister.

You even say yourself you're like Charlize Theron!!

Throw her a bone.

I know it's hard though - perhaps if you bite your tongue and consistently change the subject when body shape comes up she'll mention it a lot less.

Early 30s? Sounds like she hasn't left her teens.

As Reality says, you are her younger slimmer sister. Possibly you have other things in your life that she envies too (children? marriage?)

Sod Rockbird, bring her here with my 36 HH!!

yanbu but i think your sis is a bit insecure tbh. Imagine being the "fat" one of two sisters? one who has a similar body to Charlize Theron? Let her have her 5 mins of bigging herself up

Al1son is right
rather than retorting or retaliating why don't you just talk to her
'we are sisters and we are different. You look great and are happy. I look great and am happy. I would like us to be together without snipeing.'

FWIW I was ( a very very long time ago) considered prettier than my sister and people would actually say that in front of her. It wasn't my fault but she still blamed me. Must be awful to be on the arse side of those comparisons when you are young

I think that you pointing out that you have a better figure than her will make it worse. Be the (metaphorical) bigger person.

With damegladys on this one.

By your own admission you have a great figure and great breasts despite having a baby which she hasn't had.

She grew up fat and unhappy. Your post reeks of you being aware that you have a far better body than her - give her a break, is it really that hard?!

I guess it sounds like I should just continue to ignore and change the subject, it's just she's incessant about it. Shall try to be assertive rather than fighting back though.

I do realise that I didn't describe her in a particularly nice way. However, I frequently hear how she has an 'hourglass figure' and that I'm 'pearshaped' and I don't actually agree, so was using this space to vent and say how I see it objectively.

In my family though I've always been assigned the role of 'nice one'. In fact I met an old friend a couple months ago and she commented on how dominating my sis used to be and she remembers her reducing me to tears (funnily enough I'd forgotten both the incidents she mentioned....)

I was very skinny growing up and was also teased untill I filled out in my late teens.

Lemon
so similar to me and my sister.

But I have to ask why are you talking now about how she used to be mean to you when you were little?
Her being mean was like a child pinching their new sibling because they get attention.

It genuinely sounds as if you don't like her being out of her 'fat frump' role. I don't say that to be mean - it is unsettling when family dynamic gets shifted.
But you should let it go. You are in danger of being just as competetive whilst sniffing at her for inititaing it

I say this as someone who has fallen into that trap

Gosh you think a cup size C is small to average! I must need a training bra then - I would love to be a B let alone a C.

Your sis is jealous as you have kids and she doesn't so she has to mention the one thing she is proud of and that you have issues with. Be the bigger person here FGS and ignore her or pick up your child and say "i wouldn't exchange you for bigger boobs" as babies reduce your size.

One of my work colleagues has two sisters and she prides herself in being the thinnest of all of them. Their father measures them each Sunday and writes it in a book. They are aged 35, 32 and 28. It astounds me.
Your sis is obviously insecure and to perpetuate the competition can only cause more problems. Let it go.

Yes, your sister is fatter and less attractive than you.

And you have a baby which she may want.

Are your diamond shoes too tight as well ?

Women can be so bitchy. I've had the "no boobs" comment from larger busted friends before. I'm a 32D and a size 10 Ignore, ignore.

You both sound like you're a bit rude and horrible about each other tbh.

Your sister's focusing on what she sees as her best point because she probably dislikes the rest of her. As others have said, you're the younger, thinner sister.

You're being quite bitchy tbh with your 'generous size 14' and 'thinks she's hourglass'. My sister ballooned to a size 20 at one point a couple of years ago and I love her so she never stopped being beautiful to me. I made an effort to make her feel confident in herself as her self-esteem diminished; the knock on effect is that she had the confidence to do something about it and is back to a size 12 again.

It doesn't sound like you like your sister very much; if you did you'd see this for what it actually is, which is nothing to do with big boobs.

She is jealous, of course

Next time she comes out with comparative comments between the two of you, try asking her "Does it really matter that much to you?"

"Their father measures them each Sunday and writes it in a book. They are aged 35, 32 and 28. It astounds me."

Whaaaat??

Their height, weight, chest/waist/hips.........what exactly??
How bizarre!

I don't think you should ignore, i think you should call her on it. But by that I do not mean "list the ways in which you are physically superior", I mean actually say "I'm not really interested in discussing how you look and how I look, you're my sister, I'm sure we can find something more important to talk about".