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To think my sister should shut up about the size of her boobs!

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lemonbergamot · 16/09/2010 13:16

Right, feel a bit silly posting this. I'm in my late 20s, sis early 30s (no children).

My body shape has always been tall and slender- maybe a bit like Charlize Theron!!! Usually a size 10, but still post baby 12. My best points have always been my tummy (well used to be!), bum and legs.
My sis is currently a generous size 14. She calls herself 'hourglass' but I think she leans more towards apple. Has straightish waist bit of a tummy and flat bottom.

Anyway growing up as teenagers she had weight issues (getting up to a size 22) and was bullied. I never ever said anything unkind....why kick someone when they're down. She constantly ripped into me though e.g. lanky strak of piss, boney arse, don't need a wonderbra need a miracle etc etc
People said she was jealous and to ignore he.

The thing is I don't see her often but it continues to this day. Last Christmas I was heavily pregnant and when looking at myself on the digital camera commented 'Oh I really have got big'. My sis immediately chirped up with 'Yes your bum's as big as mine, but I've still got bigger boobs'. This was whilst sat at the table. Pre pregnancy I was a 32C but I'm now a 34DD so I pointed out in a jokey way that there wasn't much difference but she went on to demonstrate that hers definately were bigger....for gods sake.
She also had us comparing leg lengths.

Anyway last night on the phone she mentioned the size of her bust 6 times (I counted) in 30 minutes. She said stuff like she can't run, her new shirt gapes so will pass on to me etc

She knows I have always wanted a larger bust and I just think it's not on to constantly boast

The punchline is she's only a 36D (or DD sometimes apparently)! That to me is average and my pre preg 32C is not totally flat chested either- just small to average!

So why does she constantly harp on. Is it unreasonable for someone in their 30s to do this? Should I retaliate by pointing out that I still have a better tummy, bum and less stretchmarks, I never have before???

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MollysChambers · 16/09/2010 13:59

PCJ - How very very strange. And rather creepy Shock

FloraSeymour · 16/09/2010 14:03

If you wanted to be childish you could always suggests she buys a bigger size top if they're gaping, or tell her that if the size of her humungous boobs bothers her she could loose weight Hmm - might make you feel like you've scored a point or two but would hurt her.

I agree with the others be the bigger (and smaller) sister and let her feel good about herself - I was the ugly duckling growing up and hated being compared to dsis - who in turn says she hated being compared to her (supposedly) cleverer sister.

FloraSeymour · 16/09/2010 14:03

And a wtf with the Dad who measures his daughters each week???

lemonbergamot · 16/09/2010 14:03

I mentioned when we were younger because I think there is a long standing history of her saying what she wants and it going unchallenged, and this dynamic has never changed. Hence, here we are 15-20 years later and she thinks it's still acceptable to make unflattering comparisons because I never challenge it.

I think there probably is an element of competetion, especially as I'm a new Mum. When she came to stay when DS was 4 months old she has spent ages doing her make up while I sat waiting to take my overtired baby out. She also insisted on getting changed and very dressed up even though my baby was fractious and yes it did piss me off for a variety of reasons.

Someone mentioned her being jealous of other things. She is likely to be of my baby, (although delighted in highlighting all the negative points of pregnancy and motherhood when I was pregnant,) and has always said she doesn't want kids yet.
However, she can't be of much else! I am divorced and DP and I are looking into how we can afford a wedding once I'm back at work. She's married already.
We rent and she has owned her house for years. Her job is better paid.
My previous relationship was abusive and I got into lots of debt so for a long time she has had a better time of it. I am actually jealous that she has 5-6 holdiays/city breaks each year and I can't do this. I have openly told her that I'm envious of all these things.

So yes I am jealous of a lot of what she has but I don't like the constant competition and don't think it originates from me.

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fairycake123 · 16/09/2010 14:27

Get massive implants. That'll really piss her off.

Mowiol · 16/09/2010 14:29

Sorry - I was so nonplussed by the weird
Measuring Dad I didn't offer any opinion to you Lemon Blush

Sounds like a whole history of sibling rivalry here.

Best thing really is to ignore and endure. Yes it will be wearing, but eventually when she realises you are not taking the bait she will hopefully decline.

Still want to know about the measuring Dad though!!

LilRedWG · 16/09/2010 14:35

I think some people are like this. My sister once told me I was lying about my shoe size, because I'm two sizes smaller than her. She has always been negative about my appearance and is competitive on pretty much every aspect of our lives.

Try not to react, just rise above it.

theredhen · 16/09/2010 14:36

Crikey. As an A cup girly, I'm very Shock at some peoples idea of small boobs!

lemonbergamot · 16/09/2010 14:43

Thanks for all your thoughts was good to get it off my chest Grin
Currently breastfeeding so current boobs on loan.....

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FallingWithStyle · 16/09/2010 14:48

I think you both sound odd and competitive.

lazycow007 · 16/09/2010 15:05

theredhen - join the club! Mine do however compliment my figure but even when I got 2 sizes bigger they never grew grrr!

I got to say something about the measuring dad - how much do you think the kids are going to grow at 35,32, and 28, must get pretty boring - "oh look you are 170cm's again this week same as last week same as week before, same as week before that. Get a life man!!!

meltedchocolate · 16/09/2010 15:18

Listen OP! No complaining! Some of us have only AAA cups! (did you even know such a tiny flat chested size existed?!?!)

She is BU but you are also being over sensitive.

WhatTheWhat · 16/09/2010 15:25

Grin and bear it. She's the insecure one.

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