To not CRB check my friends

[julybutterfly]

It's DD's birthday in a few weeks. We're doing the whole hall hire, bouncy castle etc party. DD wanted a facepainter. the prices were ridiculous so I've asked a few artistic friends to do it. But I've had a couple of other parents ask me if my friends have been CRB checked! AIBU to think they're being OTT?

When my dds have attended parties it has never occurred to me to think of whether the parents or anyone else are CRB checked! At one of my daughter's schools it is quite common for parents to randomly stay and help. Yes, very silly imo - YANBU.

I have new ipod connector so I can sing loudly to my tunes and embarass dd when she is in. But it won't stick at 95.7FM.

Tried begging. You're right. The only language it will understand is violence. And I'm not CRB'd.

Actually I am!! The 'advanced one! Doesn't cover naughty radios though.

If they are your friends helping it is totally OTT and I'm embarrassed for them even asking you!!!

They are being very silly unless you are employing them.

As it is they are simply family friends helping you out at your child's party. There is no obligation for them to be CRB checked, they may as well ask if you are checked, or Granny handing round the sandwiches is CRB checked.

I am a CRB checked entertainer and this is ridiculous.

For the love of all things holy - WTF is this country coming to?

It's PC gorn maaaaaaad!

Thnak goodness all of ds' friends are sensible :)

Having said that, one of the other parents on the Out of School Care Board that dh used to be one, refused to come to a Board Meeting (that didn't need to be public) at our house 'cos I hadn't been CRB checked. With one exception, the kids that were going to be there play every day together at school and had been to our house - so to them, it would have just been a play date. Instead, they had to hold it at the school (paying for the let) and pay for the mobile creche to come in. :(

Are they intending to do the face painting alone with the children behind closed doors and naked? If not then I can't see why a CRB check is necessary.

They're not going to be in unsupervised contact with the children. They're not going to be in regular contact with the children. And even if they were, you could waive the requirement to do a CRB based on them being well known and trusted to you.

The other parents probably think they're being terribly responsible and conscientious, so if you tell them that a CRB is not required under the circumstances, they may well be okay with it.

Of course you're still free to think they're twats.

yaNbu

Ha! Brilliant! Where do people get these weird notions?? I like Pan's idea of the crayoned CRB.

I can't wait to get to the point in society when we are sending photocopies of ours, DP's, the clown's and the bloke who puts up the bouncy castle CRBs in with the invitations.

I'm off to insist the inlaws get their CRBs before they take DS for a walk.

FFS. Honestly. Seriously. YANBU.

You need the CRBs. Even if you keep your eyes on the facepainters for every damn second of the party, they could be using a type of technology called "rape paint", the details of which are too disturbing to reveal here today.

They are being vvvvvu indeed, my goodness what has things got to now. Its people like this who think that all adults are paedophiles. You trust them right? Well then if they are not happy than they dont have to come to the party.

HA! Rape paint!

My DP is notoriously hard to make laugh and he actually chuckled at that! Brill!

Fucking ridiculous.

I went on one of those darkside netmums meet-a-mum "dates" last week. I even (sssh!) went back to hers for coffee. On the first date!

Feeling sordid and guilty now that I realise I was in the home of someone whose credentials I didn't check. Think of what might have happened! Her mother-in-law and father-in-law lived there too! Not a CRB check among the lot of 'em, I'll bet. How could I have been so careless with my son's security????

If dh ever finds out, he'll kill me.

FFS, how to ruin a kids birthday party,

Hope you've checked whoevers doing the food has basic food hygeine certificate

are you serious? facepainters who are paedophiles in disguise using rape paint!!!! think i've heard it all now. surely children of face painting age will be with a parent or guardian and taken home and not left alone so how on earth is this so called rape paint going to work?
i truly feel the whole world has gone bonkers, stark raving mad!!!

I was at an party yesterday and there were DCs everywhere. The adults were drinking, no one really supervising. It was the same situation as the party the OP describes but it was the birthday party of one of the adults.

I bet no one would have asked about CRB if it was an adult party (with DCs) rather than a child's party (with adults). Its just the context. As soon as something is 'labelled' as being for DCs everyone starts rushing about looking for CRB checked supervisors.

Bonkers.

Did you hear of the bouncy castle man in the midlands who had random pop-up dildos springing up from the floor of the castles?

Awful.

Aaaaaghghg! When will people realise that having a CRB check doesn't stop someone committing a crime! (was going to write that in caps but feel like I've been yelling at the kids all day and it looked too shouty).

If your friends want your other friends to have CRB checks don't invite the first lot to your party.

Snobear, that's horrible.
And in the Midlands, too.
I have sometimes wondered if people get a bit hysterical about these things, but that makes me realise you can't be too careful.
I'm going to get myself CRB checked to make sure DS is safe with me at home. All responsibel parents should.

Well it is the Midlands so are you surprised? I expect the man has another perverted bouncy castle in the north too.

Good idea, Blu. I think bouncy castles need to be CRB checked. As do nursery toilet seats. You never know.