We have been invited to a wedding in november to which I have said we will all go to, that's me, dh, and the two dc's age 3 & 1. It is a wedding of a good old friend of mine who I now see about 3 or 4 times a year, I'd like to go but I also wouldn't be devastated if I didn't go either. The problem is that it is abroad, not too far but would involve either a plane trip or the ferry. Then petrol to get to the venue plus at least 2nd nights, prob 3 in a hotel for us all. Plus meals etc. So I reckon it will at least be £ 600 before we even think about wedding clothes & the present. We just can't afford that! On one hand it would be good to go but on the other hand it's so costly plus we would prob need to leave early ish as we will have the kids and they won't last beyond 10pm ish.
I am in a total dilemma. I know my friend would like me to be there but we aren't ultimate best friends or anything, although other close friends of mine will be going too, but they don't have kids! Its not an option to leave the kids at home. So we are thinking of coming up with an excuse to not go. Is that really bad? Can't think of one in advance so I was going to make something up at the time, do you think we should come up with an excuse and if so what could we say? I don't think we could say we can't afford it cos we could at a push, its just so much money at nearly xmas time and I prob wouldn't even see my mate much cos I'd be running after the kids all day then taking them back to the hotel early!
help!