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To be sick to death of Facebook boasting

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nomedoit · 11/09/2010 13:16

First off, if I could get off FB I would! But I'm an expat and all the social arrangements are now made on FB.

I have two friends, both back in Britain, both women and all they bloody do is boast on FB.

'Playing with my iPad...'
'Back from my flying lesson...'
'Day 12 of my Seychelles holiday...'

The Seychelles holiday was the worst! Five posts daily about the personal butler, massages, private beach.

If I was a nice person I would be pleased for their good fortune. And yes, some of this is my stuff - DH and are are both self-employed and the recession and and continues to be really tough. So yes, I am envious in part.

But I also feel when so many people are struggling that it's a bit bloody insensitive

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Marjee · 11/09/2010 13:20

Yanbu but your friend can't be enjoying her holiday that much if shes on fb 5 times a day!
Just be thankful you actually have a life, these women sound quite sad and needy

tholeon · 11/09/2010 13:21

hmm...well can see why that would be a bit annoying if it is a sore subject (like scan pictures can be sometimes to people who have just had a m/c, or are ttc for a long time..)

maybe hide the updates from those people? think you can do that..

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nomedoit · 11/09/2010 13:24

Marjee, that's just what my DH says! What is the purpose of all this posting? I think I'm sensitive to it because the area I live has been really hard-hit by the economic downturn, lot's of foreclosures etc, and I wouldn't post stuff like that. But then, FB is for sharing...

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superv1xen · 11/09/2010 13:25

people only seem to post statuses to either boast or moan Hmm its pathetic.

and the sillybitch-- woman posting from the seychelles cant be having that great a time if shes sat facebooking.

fortyplus · 11/09/2010 13:27

How old are your DCs? It only gets worse... 'Soooo proud that Fenella gained 15 A stars in ger GCSEs' Grin

fortyplus · 11/09/2010 13:27

oops - her

MollieO · 11/09/2010 13:27

I hate the boasting that goes on about children. All of my friends' children are apparently geniuses, brilliant at every single thing they do. I seem to be alone with the only thick normal child. Hmm

TondelayoSchwarzkopf · 11/09/2010 13:29

YANBU
Find and upload some pictures of them looking fugly. And tag them.

fortyplus · 11/09/2010 13:30

My son's 15 year old gf has just posted 'When life gives you lemons, make orange juice and leave the world wondering how you did it ;D'

Itsjustafleshwound · 11/09/2010 13:31

In the old days it was just the 'round robin'Christmas letter - now it seems it has become a daily thing ....

Sometimes there is just a bit too much communication and if they really want to make arrangements there are better and other ways ...

Rockbird · 11/09/2010 13:34

This is what FB is. I don't understand people who have accounts and then whinge. It is possible to be an expat and not have FB so get rid if it pisses you off so much.

thefruitwhisperer · 11/09/2010 13:36

My current status is 'sometimes its just nicer to look at people who have their own teeth and eyebrows'

Just because Im sick to death of seeing a girl I knew at school post pics of crap. Some people love to boast, and they are usually the ones with the least to boast about emotionally and intellectually.

Shaxx · 11/09/2010 13:44

I think everyone should post a boast a day. It can change your outlook about your own life, especially if you're feeling a bit negative and down.
I'm sure it work a bit like that neuro- reprogramming stuff.Hmm

Itsonme · 11/09/2010 13:47

Yabu - just remove her or hide her status updates! You don't have to read them, you choose to!

I think the status updates about children is just their parents being proud for goodness sake! If my child got a's at GCSE I'd be proud enough to post it too!

I really hate bitter people who can't be happy for others. It'd be different if you had something to boast about though of course!

EauRouge · 11/09/2010 13:47

Hide them on your live feed, problem solved.

MerryMarigold · 11/09/2010 13:49

Change your friends, they sound insufferable!

5DollarShake · 11/09/2010 13:49

Oh honestly, anyone who boasts via the medium of FB needs pity, not envy!!!

Don't you just want to snigger at these sorts of people?? It's not very charitable, but God knows I do. Seriously - it reeks of insecurity and that lower middle-class obsession of caring deeply what other people think. Grin Wink

MerryMarigold · 11/09/2010 13:50

I don't think caring what other people think is lower middle-class. The Queen seems worried enough about it. I wonder what her FB page says! Does she have one?!!

invisibleink · 11/09/2010 13:57

I dont boast about me - nothing to boast about!

BUT if one of my kids does something that I am prod of, then I will share - it is mostly for my family overseas though who LOVE hearing about the children.

ThatDamnDog · 11/09/2010 13:59

Oh don't get me started. Those who post humorous, interesting or noteworthy things get to stay on my live feed. Those who incessantly post boastful fluff, inane drivel about what to have for dinner or every-30-second updates on their wedding plans etc get hidden.

The two exceptions are:

a family member whose wedding plans have been published in such minute detail for the last several months that it's become a source of relentless humour for the rest of us and I will be lost once the big day has passed

my sister who posts every time she farts, and is always either "having great fun with her amazing new friends who are all so cool and fun and what a blast" or is "sick of wasting time on people who treat me like shit and actually don't care at all and I'm not taking this crap any more and you can all get to fuck" - always

Although she's just ditched me as a FB friend because she wants to save me the stress Hmm

Don't get me started.

Oops Grin

snugglejunkie · 11/09/2010 14:07

yabu. That is facebook.

Status updates are generally just saying stuff about what they are doing or inane brain ramblings.
How you interpret it often down to the reader.

Much less effort to not read too much into it - and hide what you don't want to read. Problem solved.

Claw3 · 11/09/2010 14:14

Isnt that all that FB is anyway, a way to boast and gaining attention about something or the other.

binjibaghi · 11/09/2010 14:19

boasting doesnt bother me as much as people who post personal messages to loved ones -"had a lovely day with you darling kiss kiss" when you know fine rightly they live in the same house and will see each other in a few hours - save it till later ffs.

is this just another roundabout way of boasting ? look how in love we are !!! boak

QueeferSutherland · 11/09/2010 14:24

But isn't that what FB is for?

Likewise you put your best picture up, idealy of you in front of the Alps/tropical beach/desert.

I want that popular girl I never spoke to at school to think I'm successful and interesting, although it's patently untrue. I'm that insecure and shallow. So is your friend.
YABU

superv1xen · 11/09/2010 14:25

lol @ the couples posting about eachother. the couple i know who do that the most are in the most fucked up dysfunctional relationship i have ever seen :o