angry about this

[mumof2children]

about a parent going out on the piss when her baby girl is on a ward for prem babies

is this someone you know or just another hyped media story?

Eh???

bore off

People cope with things very differently. My mum drank when times got hard, but she's still a brilliant mum so...

none of yours, poelp deal with stress difrrntly.

oh do go shag a sheep

tbh, in a light-hearted way I'm blooming impressed that any woman would be able to go out on the piss post birth!

Probably better than when baby gets home!

sorry if this offends, i just can't think why a mum with a baby who is ill in hospital going out.

Poor mother, probably needs a break from all the stress of having a prem baby. I had a baby in NICU and it is no fun at all. Give the poor woman a break. Concentrate on your own life and not on hers.

Have I missed something? How do we know it's not the dad?

Oh! Because it says "HER"! Sorry!

so if the baby needed emergency treatment, how can a drucken mother make a choice.

Oh do piss off.

I had a prem baby and went out on the piss one night he was in there. One out of 27 nights, I should add. I wasn't sure whether to go or not and the nurses told me in no uncertain terms that I should take the opportunity to unwind. I was planning to attend said event anyway, but expected to be pregnant and sober. As it was I could have a few drinks and truly relax and felt much the better for it.

so you knoe ahe was driunk and not jsut having adrink/

God.... this place on a friday night >

My DH says piss off too, btw.

I remember when mumsnet was all bumsex of a friday

Why can't the father make a choice about any emergency treatment that may be required?

i am sorry but i would rather ask here, than say in real life i am not a bitch but if i think that something is nor right i am glad about the responce from here, even if they say iabu

Oh dear - having a child in hospital for weeks on end is actually very boring (in a strange way)

You spend hours just watching, then go home and sit on the sofa and twiddle your thumbs

Good luck to the partying mum - having a child in scubu doesn't mean you stop living

Change your OP to 'going out for a drink' and things become easier to understand. I wouldn't condone the parent rolling onto the ward drunk but I very much doubt that's going to happen - social services would be called. A drink to unwind, a night out with friends - that all sounds OK if the baby is being cared for on a ward.

i am sorry, maybe i do not realise the pressures of having a baby born prem.

i will reapeat but i just can't understand it, so when i am wrong (like i know you ladies to do) than i thank you

well done OP for realising that you were unreasonable