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Original poster

to be freaked out, my 3yo DD has blood in her knickers :(

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Algebra18MinusPiEquals16 · 10/09/2010 20:41

so, picked up DD from nursery (daycare where she goes two afternoons a week) this evening and the staff said she'd been crying earlier (very unusual!). it transpired that a boy had hit her with a car, unfortunately I can't work out the name as DD's speech isn't very clear.

anyway, they've said before that when somebody pushes her, she doesn't retaliate which is good, but she never tells anyone. I'm a bit worried she just accepts it :(

tonight she was on the loo, she said her bum was hurting (though she actually means at the front IYSWIM) and there was a bit of dry blood in her knickers.

am going to tell the nursery but what do we do? is it normal for an injury to happen and cause bleeding like that? couldn't see any cut or anything.

will it get better by itself, obviously would see doctor if necessary but I'm sure it'd be awful for her.

sorry for rambling post it's a bit hectic here, may not get back online til tomorrow now, any advice would be great. :(

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hairytriangle · 10/09/2010 20:42

yanbu. I'd actually take her to casualty to be checked over if I were you.

belledechocolatefluffybunny · 10/09/2010 20:45

Have you asked her calmly what happened and have you had a look? Ask her to show you on a teddy where she was hit if this is easier for her. It sounds like it's sore so give her some paracetamol, I'd be tempted to pop her to the GP.

Mniemmniem · 10/09/2010 20:45

I would deffo pop to the gp just incase, she's so little I doubt she'll be too embarrassed if you at it's just the same as a poorly elbow etc.
Do they have rocking horses, that sort of thing? She's probably tore her hymen- I did it horse riding at about 6 (sorry if tmi!)

quiddity · 10/09/2010 20:46

Might not be from being hit. It could be from a urinary tract infection, in which case she will need to see a doctor as she will probably need antibiotics. I'd take her to get it checked out if I were you. And try not to do or say anything to suggest it will be "awful" (why would it?).

thisisyesterday · 10/09/2010 20:47

you need to have a look before deciding what to do

Original poster
Algebra18MinusPiEquals16 · 10/09/2010 20:50

thanks all. obviously I haven't said anything to make her feel embarrassed about that area - we're very comfortable about all that, but she's picked up (at nursery IMO) the whole idea of people not seeing her knickers etc.

good ideas about finding out more, will try the teddy thing tomorrow (she's asleep now, gave her calpol).

and good point about a UTI, she has been holding wee in more lately (only recently trained).

will take her to walk-in tomorrow.

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mumbar · 10/09/2010 20:53

agree with all above.

Hate to say this but friends dd did put something inside her at that age as she was obsessed with her 'mini' as she called it. Could have just scratcher herself while wiping on the loo?

Best to know what your dealing with as nursery may ask you to see GP to clarify why theres blood. Theres paperwork on everything these days especially when a child genetalia are involved however innocent.

Sorry if that sounds very blown out of proportion but you'll feel better once you know what the problem is.

Most likely urine infection.

Best of luck and let us know how you get on.

CharlottesClan · 10/09/2010 20:58

yes i agree with the others above. its most likely an inoccent uti, or is there bikes outside? i feel onto the cross bar of a bike at about 5, with the same results.

hope its all ok, agree to pop her along to the walk in tomorrow morning xx

PixieOnaLeaf · 11/09/2010 00:02

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ChippingIn · 11/09/2010 00:38

You need to check her out yourself in the morning and see if you can see any obvious scratches, if not, I would take her to the Dr's in the morning.

Girls that age can be a tad obsessed with putting things up there! However, at nursery she shouldn't really have the opportunity to do that without it being obvious to the staff. But as has been mentioned she could have hurt herself on a rocking horse or something (there was a thread about that a little while ago).

gtamom · 11/09/2010 01:43

Well, I'd personally, if she were my daughter, head straight to the ER. Because my first thought would be that someone has molested her.

CheerfulYank · 11/09/2010 01:51

I would have her looked over. It could be nothing but it's certainly worth a check.

TonariNoTotoro · 11/09/2010 01:54

gtamom - not a helpful response.

IIncredibly unlikely, esp at a well staffed nursery. Why is there always this one person on MN to de-rail an otherwise normal thread.

ChippingIn · 11/09/2010 02:38

Tonari it is a possibility, it's one of the reasons several of us have already mentioned going to the Drs or A&E if there isn't any obvious sign of the blood coming from a scratch or something - gtamom was just a little more blunt with her response, that's all. It may not be 'highly likely' but is is certainly possible.

Little T e d s was a well staffed nursery Hmm

savoycabbage · 11/09/2010 02:53

Hmm at 'first thought'

gtamom · 11/09/2010 03:59

:( It can happen, and does happen.
Just trying to help.

thisisyesterday · 11/09/2010 07:25

i do agree, that's why i suggested that the op had a good look before deciding what to do.

if it had obviously come from a cut or scratch then maybe less to worry about.

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Flighttattendant · 11/09/2010 10:39

I cannot imagine actual dried blood being the result of a UTI - usually you might have a little blood in the urine, but dried blood on its own? Sounds odd.

I think when a GP or childcare worker or anyone like that is presented with a child with any kind of pain, soreness or injury to the genitals they are under instructions to assume some kind of abuse until it is ruled out.

I can't remember where I read this but it is a child protection protocol I think. Therefore GTAmom is correct in acting on this assumption.

It is probably an innocent injury but you need to get her looked at by someone proper, ie your GP, because to do anything else is risking getting yourself into trouble especially if it transpires there has been something dodgy going on.

Sorry - it's just what you ought to do. Hope it is nothing.

honie · 11/09/2010 10:42

When my little girl was the same age she suddenly became very withdrawn and clingy so we took her to the drs. We had lots of various tests done but one of the very first was a check to make sure she wasn't being abused. (very good dr imo, but it was a horrible time) The dr just had a very quick look whilst I cuddled littley and could tell there was no issues. It wasn't nice, but very quick and sensible to rule it out as DD was at nursery, not always with me. It turned out to be fairly nasty anaemia.

I would definitely take her in to be checked, just to be sure and of course there could be lots of possible reasons. Seems odd there is no cut but evidence of bleeding, seems to me that the car thing isn't relevant.

I hope she is more comfortable this morning, uti's and that sort of thing are horrible. I hope no'one is offended by my post, I think molestation is a long shot, but wanted to reassure the OP that the check (in our experience) isn't as bad as it could be, iyswim, and could put her mind at rest.

PerpetuallyAnnoyedByHeadlice · 11/09/2010 10:48

it is much much more likely to be an acidental injury than anything sinister

children that age bump themselves all the time, especially climbing on or over things

she probably wasnt even aware of it at the time! so dont be too worried if she seems evasive over how it happened - and try not to make too big a deal of it

amistillsexy · 11/09/2010 11:01

I seem to remember reading that baby girls can bleed from the vagina when new born- a sort of period coming from hormones.
I know your DD is 3, but is this like period blood? or more like blood from a scratch, IYSWIM?
I think it's unlikely to be related to the hurt from being hit by a car, although if she doesn't tell when she's hurt, something else could have happened.
I would definately take her to a GP. You need to assertain if this is medical, self-inflicted injury or injury inflicted by another.
I hope (and i'm sure) it's nothing to worry about (I've got 3 boys, and all 3 have, at some time or another, had blood from their penises-for different reasons, but all nothing to be concerned about:) )

skooobie · 11/09/2010 11:03

the same thing happened to my dd when she was 3yrs. she had been playing outside when i heard her scream and she had fallen onto the railings that she was climbing. she had blood in her pants and a bruised 'mini'. she was screaming in pain and i took her to the gp, who had a quick look and said she also thought my dd had thrush. she did not treat us as if my dd had been abused at all.

could it be thrush? does your dd suffer from eczema? and have bubble baths? this could lead to thrush and eczema could mean their skin is more sensitive so things like thrush are more popular etc.

hope you and your dd are ok x

Goblinchild · 11/09/2010 11:06

My DS went through a period of severe constipation that left occasional bloody traces in his nappy.
Agree that getting medical advice is the best idea.

SingleMumAndProud · 11/09/2010 11:14

Any update on this OP? I think you do need to take her to see somebody. GP I think. It could of been abuse, or as somebody else mentioned, she could have torn her hymen which is fine and can happen from riding bikes etc.